JoleneBell
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Love it! I’d love to see a video or photo of the two of you having fun! Yes, I’m thoroughly over the negativity and ignorance. Glad my post encouraged you!
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Here’s the link to the article written about me and the first Minnesota Regional Pole Dance Competitions: http://www.presspubs.com/quad/news/article_1a295e50-b968-11e5-a334-93e6520de03b.html
Let me know your thoughts!
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Thanks so much guys for the rad ideas! I was propping my phone on shoeboxes and stuff too! Vicious, you’re awesome for recording yourself sideways and posting anyway! That’s what I’d do, too. I didn’t realize I could find a PHONE tripod! Yay! I’ll start looking for one. Now to fix the limited storage on my phone. I think I’m going to have to get rid of a crap load of photos.
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First of all, wow Veena, I’m shocked that other pole dancers were treating you that way! Secondly, DanZin, I’m with Phoenix Hunter: I don’t post my vids on YouTube for just that reason. I know myself and that it could possibly ruin my day to read negative comments like that.
I really try to be proactive to stay away from negativity. That’s why I pretty regularly suspend my account on Facebook. It gets to be an emotional drain for me. All the sort of phoniness, insensitivity, and straight up rudeness takes from me but gives nothing positive. Plus, people just wouldn’t say plenty of what they say on social media, in person. They just wouldn’t. And it’s true, miserable people are mean. I honestly just quietly feel bad for unkind people and think of how sad they must be. I know that’s cliche, but it’s true. I’m one of those “be authentic wherever I am” kind of people. I’ve never understood being rude and nasty on social media.
Please, do not let insecure folks discourage you from what you love! If you do, they win. In fact, I would channel that hurt energy into a dance to express how I feel. I’m looking forward to seeing your videos 🙂
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Thanks so much, Veena! I feel a lot more confident and at peace with things now that you’ve told me this! I needed the reassurance too!
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Aw I wish I could do tampons. I’ve always had problems with the suckers. If I used them, these panties would be awesome, I’m sure!
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I want to clarify that I adore my husband and children, but I’m just being authentic 🙂
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I can tell you right now that if I could go back in time and I had your dream, I would pursue it. I now have a family, which is wonderful, don’t get me wrong, but it definitely ties a person down in several ways. There have been moments when I am jealous of women who are single and childless and can devote their money and life to pole. As a wife and mother I can devote time to it, but I can’t just pick up and leave for a pole camp or competition, or train several hours per week at the studio, etc. I just can’t do that without forsaking time and money necessary to raise my kids and make sure they have what they need. Therefore, I say, pursue your dreams while you are young and single and have nothing to hold you back! If you want to take a year off of school to devote your time to dance, then do so. Live it up! Explore! Now is the perfect time.
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I would so participate if I could!
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Aw! Nobody knows???
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It sounds like this woman is trying to put her own personal ideas and concepts of “yoga,” “comfort,” and “relaxation,” on you! How silly! I’m so surprised at the terrible stories of studio owners/weirdos on here. I never would have thought! Good for you for sticking to your guns and cancelling. I believe her rules are unacceptable. The best instructors are those who work with you and what your comfort level is. She’s not a licensed therapist, correct? To my understanding she is there to instruct pole and fitness and not to be a personal therapist to you or anyone else. I’m disappointed to hear this story and feel for you. Glad you are moving on!
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Oh boy, you’re speaking my language! Yes, I have had back problems and it’s hard. I just take it easy when I have flare ups and be sure to see my chiropractor when things don’t feel right. But building core strength -gradually- is key, and I’m working on that. It gets better and better with time and work.
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Minnesota girl here! Cities suburbs! Knockout Bodies is my studio, when I go! It’s been a while since I’ve been there!
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This woman does not have the best communication skills. If all your saying is true, she really has no graciousness, tact, or finesse. You’re probably not the first and certainly won’t be the last person who has felt slighted by her way with words.
I would have had a very difficult time not taking that personally. She focused on there being something wrong with YOU, instead of the class or even her (ahem) teaching style not suiting your needs. That is where she went very, very wrong. It is hard enough to learn pole as it is, and we are hard enough on ourselves as it is, without an instructor heaping “blame” on us as well. “You’re not strong enough.” Give me a break. Really? What a horrible choice of words!
Anyway, I don’t blame you for feeling the way you do. Even though it sounds like a tired cliche, the FACT is the problem is with her, not you. Don’t take her poor language skills onto yourself and make them part of you. Or her seeming “uppity”-ness. Blah!
I personally wouldn’t choose this instructor for any further classes, or if you must, have an aside talk with her about your discouragement. Here’s hoping she’s apologetic and more sensitive from now on. -
Spins are hard! It took me over a month to build the strength to be able to do one safely. It sounds like your instructor may be moving you along too quickly? There’s nothing wrong with you, everyone is different. There is no comparison between you and someone else’s abilities and strength levels.
I recommend the lessons on this site. Veena gradually moves you through as you go at your own pace. I view that as the best method because it works for everyone.
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Here is a video, ladies… https://www.studioveena.com/videos/view/53683404-adb0-43e2-9a13-22790a9aa0eb
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Love this!
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Amiloo, don’t give up!
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I got a lot out of this! Thanks!
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Minneapolis, awesome! Shall I talk to the studio I’ve been involved with and ask if they’re interested?
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*coming… COMING. Not soming.
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Anastasia Sokolova seems to be sort of up-and-soming?
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Alright, the biggest question is whether you’re coming to Minneapolis?!
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I am pleased to let you all know that since I wrote the original post I have made the decision to keep my workouts to an hour and a half or less.
SUCCESS! I take a nap beforehand also, and it really does help. I’m so pleased with not feeling like being hit by a truck afterward 🙂 -
Hey, Feline!
First of all, take heart. Right now, pole may seem this grandiose, complicated, and intimidating thing. I can assure you that it’s not. Really. We can make it complicated, though, and that’s when things become overwhelming and discouraging.
I have a short list of advice for you. Ready?1. If you have any extreme health issues, of course clear vigorous exercise with your doc. I would also recommend going to a good chiropractor to stimulate your circulation. The numbness sounds like it could be tied to your spine.Get on some supplements to encourage circulation also. If you don’t know where to start, I can recommend some for you.
2. Keep it simple. I cannot stress this enough. I’m preaching to myself, as well.
3. Subscribe to the lessons on here. Truly. They are all listed in order, and Veena walks you through each and every step. It’s like having a trainer next to you, talking you through as you learn.
4. DON’T look at advanced dancers and believe that is what you must accomplish in short order. Those ladies (and gents) have been poling for years. There is no comparison.
5. Recognize this is your own journey. YOURS. NEVER compare yourself to others. Do YOUR thing.
6. Utilize the discussions and support of this site!!! You will find everyone on here encouraging, supportive, and kind.
7. Start with the Beginner’s lesson section and TAKE IT AT YOUR OWN PACE. Sorry for the dramatic caps, but I can promise you, if you stick with it, you will improve.
8. Remember that pole is about having fun!!! It will be whatever you make it.
I hope this is encouraging and helpful to you! We’re all here for you.
