Runemist34
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Alright, well, the reason I ask about the make of your pole is because there are so many kinds, and unfortunately, I don't have any information on your make of pole.
My suggestion would be to contact the people who made it, they usually have some kind of customer service number somewhere on the stuff that came with your product, or you could look them up online.
And also… please be careful. Around here, we hear a lot of horror stories about people falling off their poles when they fail to hold us up. Poler error is one thing, but when the pole fails, it can be very bad. The companies we often tell people to look into (Xpole, Lil Mynx, and Platinum Stages) are reputable and well-tested, both by the ladies here and in their own manufacturing process. Something like the "Carmen Electra Pro Dance Pole" advertises that people can do spins and even inversions on it, but most of us here have heard some really scary stories regarding that pole. Having heard nothing of the brand you're using, I can't say whether it is safe to use with bigger, stronger moves, or whether it is unsafe to use even with the easiest of spins.
So… yep. Contact the manufacturer and tell them you're having issues. And be careful 🙂 No one wants to hear another story about a poler getting hurt. <3
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Sorry, what brand of pole is this? Where did you buy it from? A little more information about the pole, and how the instructions say it should be going together would be really useful!
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Yeah, that doesn't sound like fun.
I'm sure you've heard the old adage of not eating just before swimming- it's more that you need to give your stomach some time to digest before working out. Your stomach takes a lot of energy, and I've really felt faint and shaky if I eat just before working out!
Otherwise, hmm… I also generally just freestyle for a warm up, but I keep it to easier moves. Nothing above some one-leg-on-the-pole spins, and rarely the bigger strength moves. I don't really invert till I'm working on the strength moves and past my 20 minute sucky mark.
And, for something missing from the diet… have you ever tried Instant Breakfast? I know it's a weird suggestion, but I have a double dose every morning, and I've found a HUGE increase in my energy, and my ability to work out. I've got an Iron deficiency, so it really helps. The brand I use is Carnation (specifically, I like the chocolate one), but I'm not sure what you guys have in the 'States!
That's all I can really think of… maybe just give yourself a little time to get some more information on this feeling. When it happens during your workout, what happens afterward, how much water you're drinking, when you eat before workout and whether that affects it.
Everyone reacts differently to different things. That's why the fitness industry is so confused as to what works for people wanting to lose fat, gain muscle, or spot reduce! So, you have to learn about you. Do some research into yourself 🙂
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Totally understand your plight! I HATE cardio workouts, so my endurance is fairly poor. When it comes to dancing, there are a few tips I could see helping…
First, for holding your breath: Try to practice your moves while slowly exhaling as you do it. So, if you're doing a basic invert, as you lift your legs begin to exhale, and when you set your legs on the pole and grip on, you should be reaching the end of your capacity, and you'll need to inhale. This is often a problem with a lot of "macho" weight lifters, too. We feel we get more power by hardening all of our core muscles, thus freezing our lungs and holding our breath! But, I've found I get a lot more power, and I run out of air a lot less, if I exhale through moves. Eventually, you can even start teaching yourself to inhale through moves which expand your core and chest, too!
Next, have you warmed up? This one is surprisingly important! That little "5 minute warm up" or whatever doesn't cut it for me! I notice that by the time I'm in about 20 minutes, I'm huffing and puffing and totally pooped… but after I go and have some water, walk around the pole and do a half-spin or other light things, I am ready to go again. And, not only that, I'm energized and feeling way better than when I started!
Scientifically speaking, that's the point when your cardiovascular system (heart and lungs) catches up to the level of energy and oxygen you're demanding from them, thus introducing enough to your muscles, and allowing you to burn fat for energy! Fat can only be metabolized in the presence of oxygen, so after this point, you're working at a much more efficient level, and that fat will give you all the energy you need to get your dancing done!
And, lastly, have you been taking rest days? You need them not only to repair your muscles, but to get past the time of muscle repair, so you can have all that energy again! If your body is trying to do both, repair your muscles AND work them, I would think it'd get tired!
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This is a tricky move to get! It's always been one of those tough ones for me, especially with holding my legs up long enough.
However, with the striking the pole issue… have you tried doing this hold without spinning? Just set your hands into your split grip hold, and get those legs up? This is how I originally learned this move (it took quite a while for me to go "Wait, you can SPIN that?") and it really helped me figure out the hold and how to get my body away from the pole.
I'll also point out that you want to tilt your hips forward, so much that your back rounds out! You want to make a big C with your body! It'll help you get your legs up and keep them up, so that you don't get tired, and you can stay away from the pole.
The rest, I suppose, is that tricky bit of keeping your body rigid so that you aren't "overtaking" yourself (as in, one leg isn't hitting the pole as you spin, because your hips have gone too far, or whatever), and you are still able to relax your hands enough to make the spin happen.
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I hate to be contrary to… basically everyone on this thread, but… well, I'm going to.
First of all, it concerns me very much that you say "1200 calories due to my height and weight." I'd like to point out that your height and weight has very, VERY little to do with how much food you should be taking in, or how fit you are, or how much your belly is going to stick out. I daresay the height and weight of a person has nothing to do with those other things, at all.
Secondly, I would like to point out that, as a female, your hips are going to tilt- we aren't men, and that "flat spine" in all directions is simply not an option unless you want to walk really funny. Many women have flatter spines, and many have curved spines- mine is very curved, as I have very large hips. I believe that most women have organs in their midsections, and those organs have to go somewhere!
According to most medical studies, women are considered "healthy" with at least 10% body fat, and we cannot control how that fat is stored on our bodies. You may find that, if you lose weight, you have a completely flat chest, yet your hips remain large. You may find that you continue to have fat on your thighs, but everything on your back melts away. It's up to your body, and for a lot of women, that "dream" of a flat stomach is well into the dangerous, less-than-10% range. Very few women can achieve this without getting into that range.
Finally, I want to say this: I am very saddened by the idea that women judge themselves so harshly on a piece of their bodies that they believe are less socially acceptable, or less aesthetically pleasing. I am positive that your stomach is fine, even beautiful, and that you are a delightful, intelligent woman.
So, why not just eat enough food until you don't feel hungry, have a brownie, and love yourself?
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Generally for crash mats I just use pillows or couch cushions 😉
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Oh man, that sounds much more advanced than what most people are ready for, after a month of pole! Have you been particularly active with anything else previously?
Anyways, the idea of fear while being upside down… is something I'm terribly familiar with. I HATE being upside down! Seriously, HATE it! I actually had to help myself get through it a bit by hanging my head upside down off the couch for a bit.
I generally find that going a CKR is easier, and I feel much more secure being upside down in that position… but I certainly didn't start that way! I really had to practice that move, slowly and consistently. My CAR is NOT feeling secure, and I've only done it once properly. It'll be one of those moves I work on for a long time before I'm comfortable with it.
My basic invert? Well… unfortunately I am still not secure enough to let go with my hands. I know that it's a mind-over-matter thing, that I'm psyching myself out about it… but, well, I'm upside down and really very uncomfortable!
So… the verdict is that yes, there are people out there that get very uncomfortable doing upside down moves. As you get into tougher moves, I know that those issues get worse, but that they can be worked through!
Take your time, and do what's comfortable for you… and then push yourself just a little bit every time. At least if you're practicing letting go in your CKR or CAR without putting yourself upside down, it's an awesome ab workout!
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Quirkygrl16, I'm not sure that 5 inches on two sides and 4 inches on the other two sides is going to be enough to dance in
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Let's do this thing! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_rambo.gif
I'm hoping to stretch as much as I can, because my body is falling apart without my workout and stretches!
And also I love the splits. What better way to prove to myself I can do the impossible? 😉
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Good to know, thank you <3
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Bump! I'd like to know if anyone is interested!
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I'm counting the days till I can get an SV pole as well! I think it'll really help my grip issues in the summer, and I would absolutely love to have a spin mode to play with. I'm so excited! September is going to be a fantastic month!
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You can always remind him that, with the greater muscle tone, and the building of muscles, it'll come back, even better than before!
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My ex-husband constantly told me "You would look so good with just ten more pounds." And, well, I tried. I went up a total of 40 pounds, and was the largest and heaviest I've ever been, particularly during the end of the relationship. I wanted to please him, I wanted him to be interested in me (because, well, I never "got any"), and I trusted his opinion.
And you know what? I was miserable.
His behaviour never changed, I felt awful and heavy and it was hard to actually feel motivated to dance or work out- partially because I knew that, if I did, I would lose the weight, and I feared he would be even less interested!
Now, though, I'm at a very healthy weight for my body, and I am wanting to become stronger, more toned, more muscular. I don't care what anyone else thinks, I want to be happy with me! I want to feel healthy!
And my boyfriend is totally behind me, 100%, because it motivates him, too!
And yeah, when you feel healthier, you'll be more interested in having sex, in going out, and in being happy.
It's your body, and you've got to look at it, be in it, and love it far FAR more than he does.
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This one is probably the best in her series, and the most varied flexibility routine I've ever seen. You don't just get "the hamstring stretch," you get multiple hamstring stretches, for different areas!
She breaks things up into different areas of the body, so if you want to, you can just skip to the one you want and do that one for the day.
I'd say give it a shot!
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Oh, and also- if you ever need someone to talk to about this, or need some support, you can inbox me and I'll get it within 12 hours. 🙂
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I actually have had depression before, for a very long time. I know how you feel- I've seen many of my loved ones go through what you did, even as I did it to them. It feels horrible on both ends.
The very basic thing I can say is this: You're right, you cannot help him. He must help himself.
The bad news about this is that he has to find his "rock bottom" in order to feel that he needs to do this. Most people have different versions of "rock bottom," up to and including attempting suicide. This really is the deepest, darkest hole that one can ever encounter, and I've seen it time and again- everyone I've ever spoken to or heard of who had depression said that they had to reach that point (however they define it) in order to "bounce back again."
The good news is this: Your support and love can help him back. Having a life around him, and having friends, allows him to see that there is more there to live for, once he does reach that bottom.
The thing about counseling, or talking to other people in any way, is that it only helps if the depressed person wants it to help. If they feel that it is their outside environment that must be "fixed," or they simply do not acknowledge that they have an issue, then there is nothing to "talk about," in their mind.
Unfortunately there are a lot of misconceptions about counselors, and a lot of them revolve around the process- rumored to be something like scrambling one's head, doing hypnotism, or other very much less useful "tactics." The best way I can explain counseling to someone would be… being forced to ask those questions that you never wanted to ask, the terrifying questions. And, having someone there to suggest things you never thought of, probably think will cause the world (either inside your head or not) to explode, and… they would actually work if you think about them.
I'm currently going through this process with a counselor, dealing with my anxiety.
I would like to say that depression is complicated, it can come from a huge variety of places, and it can come out in some very destructive, hurtful, and cruel ways. It sounds like your husband is also stuck in what I tend to call the "victim mindset," and that is a very, very difficult thing to even admit, even notice, let alone to get out of.
I also want to say that nothing about this is your fault, nor your responsibility. You deserve to be entirely happy, having your hobbies and enjoying yourself. You love him, and the best you can do for him right now, despite any protests, is show him that a happy life can exist. That being happy in life is possible.
Don't put up with the bullshit- I know you know that already, but it's not yours and it's not yours to deal with.
Tell him you love him, but don't take that crap.
And remember that you're awesome. No matter what happens.
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To be perfectly honest, I find that the little rubber feet on the bottom of my Lil Mynx are perfectly fine for gripping various types of flooring. I've used my pole on linoleum, and fake hardwood floors. And a lot of carpet 😉 I don't own a skid pad, so I just don't use it!
My only worry for you would be, if you put a lot of pressure with the pole on your tiles… can those thing crack?
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Poledanceromance, I don't find you confrontational 😉 I love the idea of standardizing much of the tattoo and piercing industry!
Unfortunately in the current world, I've had about a million different pieces of advice about both my piercings and my tattoos. The cartilage piercings in my ears I had for 5 years, and tried just about EVERYTHING, and they still constantly tried to reject. I was told "Some people just can't do it," or "Have you tried _____?" endlessly. I refuse to accept that "I just can't take it." As I said, I'm hoping to try again one day.
I suppose I assumed that, if the piercer is putting jewellery in someone else's body, they would be competent… but I suppose the scary truth is that they aren't necessarily so.
Strange how alike the piercing and pole world are!
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To be perfectly honest, any advice given by your piercer should be followed, and if you have questions, ask them about it.
Piercing's are like tattoos- everyone has a different way to treat them, heal them, deal with them. The vast multitudes of contradicting information that I received when researching the care of my first tattoo was insane. It was similar for my cartilage piercings, too.
"Should's" and "should not's" all depend on your body's chemistry, the way your piercer does the actual piercing, the metals used (and your body's reaction to them) and a million other factors. I've heard saline was great, epsom salts will heal my piercings, use sprays and Emu oil and all this other stuff. And, you know what? None of it worked for my cartilage piercings. Not even time. I'm going to try again some day, but only after my hair grows long enough to pull back, to I know for sure it's being kept away from them. And I'm only doing it one at a time next time.
The "science" behind piercings and tattoos is very much like the "science" behind being healthy. It will be different depending on who you talk to- sometimes very radically different.
So, that's my advice- talk to your piercer.
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Hey Lyme!
You can also "block" a person on Facebook, which means that you will never see anything from them. No comments, likes, messages- nothing. Might be something beneficial!And seriously, if anything like that was going on here on SV, I would hope that someone would talk to Veena or Webby about it, because that stuff shouldn't be tolerated, and the person doing the harassment should be banned!
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@zeemarie: Yes, that's a form of martial art 😉
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Best advice I can possibly think of: Push your hips forward. It feels awkward and unsteady at first, but it'll bring everything into alignment.
You'll get it soon! I've fought with spins for a long time before 🙂 I got them eventually!
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Well, depending on the grip tape, you'll probably find that the tape edges roll when you put that much pressure on it- it'd get gross and sticky pretty fast. You might also find it fairly uncomfortable after a while. Obviously there wouldn't be any spins possible with something like that, or really a lot of sliding in any way…
Not to mention the horrible mess if/when you take it off the pole. That glue won't come off easy!
But if you make it work, it'd be neat to hear about how!
