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Hey Roxy…think I need to skip it and just sleep I have been shooting 14-16 hour days since tuesday and I am beat https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_sad.gif

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I would love both and thought about it but in the end the 45 was much harder on my legs then I thought it would be…great for my tiny hands but my legs were not loving it…so while I have 2 poles they are both 50’s…now if I could only switch on of the finishes to brass https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif

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Hello…there are a lot of us here over 40’s – i am 42…anyhow i have felt as you – lots have. Isn’t it crazy how it’s really easy to get down on ourselves but really hard to give ourselves a much needed break https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif

I think it really hit me when someone told be to just dance…for me, not for a man or a competition or to push myself to learn the latest greatest trick but to just have fun…

Here is a post I wrote years ago on another forum but it really helped me and a lot of other women…hopefully you will get something from it as well https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif

* and by the way for the record I go back and forth between a size 8-12 at any given moment so I understand https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif

"I have noticed a lot of posts lately regarding weight, feeling sexy, and having a love hate relationship with the pole…so here are my feelings on the whole thing…

First of all please know I am not a small girl…I hang around a size 10-12 although I have moments of being a size 8…in my mind I want to be an 8 but…my body really doesn’t want to go there so why fight it! I have T & A and they are not going anywhere – plus I LOVE THEM!!! Outside of the fact that I can’t seem to kick the last 2-3 cigs a day I am very healthy LOL

So as far as weight goes, let’s be honest it does effect certain moves, but so many things do!!! Height (for example with the layout (CAR/CKR) certain variations of it are easier if you are taller. If you do the foot hook it is MUCH harder if you have short legs LOL the thigh cross is easier – my teacher pointed that one out to me THANKS for all the short girls) chest size (girls with bigger chests when coming out of a snake dive ( inverted crucifix)on the floor can literally get caught on the chest if they are pouncing down- trust me I know LOL). Hair length…try crawling and accidentally getting caught on your hair (talk to Jenny ) OUCH, flexibility – well you get the point…I could go on forever. There are always modifications of moves that you can talk to your teacher about as well.

The point is we all have issues and while I will admit to thinking from time to time "hmmm if I lost 10 more pounds that move would be easier" I also recognize things that my 10-12 size body can do that others can’t. I have Popeye arms…which I hate LOL I did gymnastics for years and get very bulky muscles quick…I would LOVE to have a long lean look but with my height and body structure it wouldn’t matter how much I lost…I have and will always be compact LOL…but I have really strong arms…I can climb with ease. I have big thighs – again not loving that but they do posses a Vulcan Death Grip If they were smaller I would not be able to do a lot of what I can. Pick something about YOU that YOU love and focus on that…it might be the curve of your neck or as simple as a flip of your hair…or your smile…we all have at least ONE thing about us that we love…we ought to have more!

What I’m trying to say is that EVERYBODY TYPE has something beautiful and perfect about it. Smaller, Larger, Short, Tall we all have something magical and perfect about us. There was one girl from one of my classes who NEVER touched the pole and had a body to KILL for – she ALWAYS mesmerized us in class…one dance – seriously the whole class was SILENT when she danced…on the way out she seemed down and said "V why did nobody cheer when I danced like the rest- it’s because I do no pole tricks right?" I said "NOOOOOOOO IT’S BECAUSE WE ARE SPEECHLESS!!!! YOU ARE THE MOST FLUID DANCER I HAVE EVER SEEN…YOUR HIPS DO THINGS I DIDN’T THINK POSSIBLE – WE ARE ALL IN AWE".

It was at THAT moment I realized…larger, small, tall or short we all seem to be WAY TOO HARD on ourselves and we all have our hang ups.

And there are things we can all do to improve our dance/pole work…pole ups (GOD I hate those). AB work…blech – but it helps LOL…and of course my nemesis – working on our flexibility. But I think the number one thing that improved my dance or my feelings towards my dance was just not giving a rat’s as* anymore about if my stomach looked larger in that outfit or if my thighs look too big…once you let go of those inhibitions your emotions and dance will have the ability to flow freely.

blah blah blah so many words! I am tired…enjoy https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif"

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cool!

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Thanks!…I will check out the Polefit web site

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any LA peeps want to meet up for the Dec show?

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actually old videos that I try to look at are doing the same thing https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_scratch.gif

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me too https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_sad.gif

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You should be fine I have a lil mynx and have been from 155-180 and had no issues with it – on both hardwood and tile https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif

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love the handstand wiggle!!! I got them as well https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif

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very cool!!!

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have a great birthday!!!!!!!

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Bumping up the new map…

http://www.mapme.com/map/polepals

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Mr Blue…cooked for a gaggle of pole friends who were visiting in town for a studio video taping then promptly vacated the premises so we could have the house…spots me…has always installed my poles – and some of my friends as well…gently prods me to go to my class when I am being lazy "you’ll feel better"…indulges (for the most part https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_twisted.gif ) my obsession with shoes and boots I will never wear anywhere else in public…thought it made total sense to put up an aerial hammock and silks in our living room…AND thinks we might need a second hammock for him!

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love that… https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif