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Day 4! Today is our last day at this RV resort. We’ve met beautiful people here and throughout our travels and for that I am greatful! 🙏

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As you can see you are not alone! I would guess every woman goes through feeling of not being sexy or desirable. It’s not something that will change over night.

I know I’ve gone through times like Poleisnewtome, where I feel great about my body but do not feel sexual, or sensual, this often happens when life gets busy and I just don’t have time to relax enough to feel sexy. I’ve also gone through times where I feel so dumpy and unattractive, this usually happens when I haven’t taken the time to workout, my mood gets low and I start to pick at every little flaw.

Over the past few years I’ve learned that sex appeal is not about looks, it’s so often about attitude. The good news about that is… you can change any attitude you have about yourself if you are persistent and surround yourself with positive influences.

When it comes to dance, I need the feed back from a mirror, I know some people say the mirror is not a good idea because you might become too critical of what you see. For me though, I need the feedback… turning down the lights, putting on some heels and watching myself, I can see what looks nice (to me) and what I didn’t care for. By watching, I can now see what others do! There is a time a place to just let go, feeling the movement and not worrying about what you look like, but there’s also something to be said for accepting what you see as beautiful. I’ve met many pole dancers who dance sexy and look amazing, BUT they will not look at themselves dance in the mirror, because they don’t like to see themselves.

If you’re looking to get your sexy back, practice, you can do this everyday, because you done have to do all kinds of pole tricks to be sexy!!!! Also, because sensuality is hugely mental, try writing down what makes you feel sexy or what you love about yourself. Make the list as big as you can, maybe try adding to it daily. Then when you wake up read the list, before you dance, read the list. Read it again before bed. Our thoughts create our reality! xoxoxo

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X pole is the best option out there if you’re looking for something that requires no holes! It’s worth paying the extra money for a safe quality pole.

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Thank you for your suggestion! I’m in the process of creating new lessons so it would take me a while to write everything down. Maybe the next time you watch it write it down some place where you can take it with you to the gym? Also if you have a smart phone or an iPad you can watch the lessons as long as the connection is good. 🙂

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msusagi, as a beginner it’s important to build up strength for some of the things shown in the video. Have you taken a look at the lessons here? I have placed everything in order for you this way you will build strength and find your pole progression is safer and faster!

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Beautiful! Allyson, and Thank you Shoog!

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The basic pole climb I teach is for strength building. Have you checked out the other climb variations in the lessons?

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Day 3! While it’s been challenging to find space to stretch while living in the RV, I’m so thankful I had the opportunity to travel and meet new people! 😍

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Try this trick! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jgvvc2uvcFw

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Here are my thoughts.

Always try both sides when learning something new, you never know which side will feel more comfortable or be stronger.

Learn beginner and as many intermediate to advanced things that you are COMFORTABLE with. As long as you do the basics or other off pole strength work, on both sides you’ll be fine. And there’s no reason to push things like extended butterflies, pencils and things that take a good amount of balance, grip security and place you in a head down (towards floor) position.

Really as long as you to strength work on or off pole on both sides you’ll be ok.

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Yes! It’s Rara Silhouettes, she’s a member here. This is her FB page. https://www.facebook.com/rara.silhouettes?fref=ts

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To do*

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Not sure I will be able to so every day this month but here’s day 1 and 2!

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Feel free to start a new thread for Nov if you like 🙂

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Think of it this way, for spins your upper body is doing the work, the legs are usually barely touching, they are not there to hold you up, the upper body does that. The legs help create a pretty shape and keep you moving in the right direction. 💜