nilla
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Lol, in that case Charley, she brought it up, totally appropriate to then duscuss it 😀
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And "Troll" is a real term for people who leave comments like that too. Articles have been written on the subject: http://lifehacker.com/5854053/how-to-stop-caring-about-trolls-and-get-on-with-your-life
I got a comment once from someone calling me a whore, blah blah. Deleted and blocked. I made a facebook stutus about it to blow off a little steam and got a private message from a girl I grew up with. It turns out her soon to be ex husband left the message. She was so embarassed, and I was so glad I didn't engage in a war of words with that dude and make myself look bad. It was interesting that he was calling me a whore, because my friend was divorcing him for cheating on her with a 16 yr old and getting the 16yr old pregnant. If that's not the definition of a man-whore I don't know what is. Anyway, sometimes (most times) negative comments are left by trolls whose intent is to draw you into an argument, and sometimes it's just from a person who didn't have their manners hat on at the time. It sounds like your comment was from the latter. It's rare that a commenter will appologize when you call them out on it. That's why my policy is to delete insulting comments and block anyone troll-ish.
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I'm sure Charley would approach it in a sensitive way. I think it could be innapropriate for an instructor to be the one to bring up weight, but totally appropriate to bring up self confidence or strength issues that stem from that. If a plus-size student already thinks (fears) that her weight will keep her from succeeding at pole, saying "hey I noticed you're struggling because of your weight" might just reinforce that, but saying "hey you seemed a little self concious, but your moves looked beautiful once you let go of that" would convey that the real hinderance to her progress was her self conciousness. I think there's a fine line between doing that and tip-toeing around the issue. You don't want to do that, but I don't think it's always necessary to bring up weight if you can address the issues that may or may not be stemming from that.
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Cool thread topic, it's always cool to see the diversity of women in the pole world. I don't consider myself a real instructor yet since I've only taught two paid classes. And I don't have another job besides raising my kids, but man I wish I did. Before I had my baby I was a hike guide at a fitness resort and that was the perfect amount of "get me out of the house and interacting with adults" time. I have social anxiety, and without that regular "exercise" for my social skills I start to withdraw until I don't want to leave the house even just to go shopping or for a run.
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oh cool, thanks!
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My YT is
http://www.youtube.com/user/nilla216
I pretty much post the same vids here as I do there, but I like the envirionment here better for comments 🙂 I use my YT to share with everyone on facebook too, so if I do a real sensual routine I prob wouldn't post it there, only here.
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Sweet!!! I have just started hooping the past few months, this will help so much!
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Bah! I hate waiting! I'm guessing pole studio? or moving somewhere?
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During the summer I tend to have good grip. It's hot and dry here but once I'm warmed up my skin is dewy enough to grip. In the winter I have problems with dry skin on my legs not gripping but I found that if I break open a vitamin E capsule and squeeze a tiny amount onto my shins, feet, and thighs I get pretty good grip. Vitamin E is an oil but it's a thick sticky oil so somehow it works. It DOES NOTwork well for hands though. At least not for me.
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Beautiful challenge idea!!! I have my song picked out. byrrdgirl if you do silks I will be excited to see it! I really like the silks vid you have posted already.
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I'm the same way. Watching user videos on studioveena of women(and a few men) of all shapes, sizes, and ages was so encouraging for me when I was trying to decide if I should get my own pole. I don't know, I guess I thought I couldn't do it because I didn't have the "bombshell" silhouette that you always see in pole dance logos. Thanks Veena for creating such a welcoming and encouraging pole community 🙂
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Several months ago me and my husband were talking about how someone needed to put something like this together. I was actually contemplating what it would take to do just simple still shots of each move and was daunted by how much work it would be. I am so impressed that you got video clips of each move. I also love that you have women and men performing the moves. The general design of the site is very clean and well done. Congrats on getting it all up and running!
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OH MY AWESOME! My foot is totally in my mouth. The first time I saw steven rocking heels in a vid on youtube I wasn't sure what to think. I think I was looking for artistic pole clips at the time to show ppl that side of pole. And I had seen him in other clips without heels and I thought he was an amazing dancer, so when I saw him in heels I think I mentally took note not to show him to my family, lol. I really didn't think he could win the audience over in heels. The fact that he did just goes to show how awesome he is. I loved how sweet he sounded in his pre-interview, and then just busted out his awesome moves. He has an obvious love for what he does, and he is able to convey that with every movement of his body when he dances. I'm so glad he was brave enough to do AGT and that the audience loved him!
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Thanks for posting this topic! It's so interesting to me, and it's why I think it's silly when highly sexual people (or just averagely sexual people) claim other people are repressed or prudish or unnatural if they are not into the whole sexy thing. The pole community in general is definitely in touch with their sexy(which is refreshing compared to how I was brought up), but I think it's kind of naive, possibly even inconsiderate to assume that other people have a problem if they're not. Even if a person is not asexual they just may not want to share that aspect of themselves with the performer up on stage or a colleague at work or even their friend at a party. I think this is evident in society. Wherever you look there is a code of conduct, with a different levels of appropriateness. You probably would be thought of as inconsiderate if you pranced around in a gogo outfit at your local park, but totally embraced at Burning Man. So yeah, I'm grateful for places like studioveena where I feel okay letting loose, but I'm also understanding of societal boundaries.
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Lola, I've been waiting to see a pole dancer on SYTYCD too! My sister and I watch it religiously, we take turns making dinner and have a SYTYCD night at her house every week. I haven't seen a pole dancer yet but I think it's just a matter of time. I have seen a burlesque dancer and this season there was a stripper that tried out. She did all kinds of ghetto booty poppin it was awesome. She didn't make it through, but I think the judges were thrilled she was there, they were extremely civil and thanked her for coming. I was glad cause she seemed really sweet. I think SYTYCD would be a perfect place for a talented pole dancer to showcase themselves. I think in order to do well they'd have to tailor their performances/wardrobes to work for a general audience TV show but I've seen enough vids on youtube of performances that would work that I'm confident that there is somebody out there that could pull it off.
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oh awesome 😀
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I think if someone was looking for free porn they'd probably go to a free porn site. There's not really a shortage of those on the web. Anyway, if voyeuristic lurkers are hanging out on studioveena it's no different than the creepy guy at the grocery store checking me out.
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Don't feel bad at all! You are right that doing a cradle spin with split grip can put too much strain on your lower wrist if you're not strong enough for it. Keep progressing at a pace that makes sense for you.
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My pleasure foxxy. I have loads of performance ideas, maybe someday I'll be good enough to actually do some of them…haha
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d'oh, I should refresh before i post…the evanescence song you picked sounds awesome for a vampire theme too. Pretty please post your performance after! I'd love to see it and I'm sure everyone else would too.
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A few concept Ideas, all these songs have kind of a mysterious vibe to them…
Song: Beautiful monster by Neyo Costume: Anything dark and seductive or animalistic
Song:Welcome to Mystery by Plain White T's Costume: Something mystical or otherworldly http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-cMkZ04AgOI
Song: What's a girl to do, by Bat for Lashes Costume: just listen to the song, you could take this any direction you want, could even work for a vampire! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n1wnOUH2jk8
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Awesome, thanks! It will be interesting to see what they do.
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Something to remember when using the word "toned" is that it's an appearance thing. Your legs might be getting a good workout and building strength, but if your body fat% isn't low enough, or if your body type simply stores fat more in your legs it will be hard to see the results. I agree with Chemgoddess, taking pics is important if you really want to gauge your improvement in that area.
If you're looking for motivation to keep going, consider your strength and endurance improvements as well! For instance are you gradually able to lift your legs higher or hold a V longer? Also, remember you can combine workouts to do cardio and strength in one workout, which can end up burning more calories throughout the day than just cardio alone.
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I keep a stash of fruit on my counter at all times for snacking. When I'm craving cheese I microwave two light string cheeses for about 30 seconds. They come out melty and good and only 120 calories. Those two things alone will usually keep me covered. Another thing I like to do: whenever I make treats like cookies or lemon bars I put most of them in the freezer as soon as their cooled off. That way I don't feel like I have to finish them off before they get old. When I get a hankering for something sweet I know I have something I can microwave that will hit the spot, instead of snacking on packaged cookies for hours and never really satisfying the craving. I think having a plan allows me to enjoy it more too, instead of loathing myself as I'm eating it. One last thing I like to do when I feel like my self-restraint is failing me, I take psyllium husk fiber as a supplement because it expands and helps give me the "full" feeling. If you take it just be sure to drink water with it!
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Welcome! I am hooked too 🙂 I bought a pole without ever having taken lessons and learned from Veena's lessons and a few DVD's, so don't feel like you have to know a lot to have a pole at home. If you get a pole at home you will soon know a lot more! Have fun with your lessons!
p.s. You're from Adelaide? Have you ever seen Ben Folds? I'm a fan.
