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How is it after a couple minutes- 1/2 hr? What finish is the pole you’ve been trying this on? Are you warmed up, the pole warmed up, room ventilated (?spell)
I have BAD grip and I have tried so much ideas, waiting for pine tar! And it all comes down to (for me) the different conditions of me, pole, room, weather/temperature.
Paste or gel. Haven’t used toothpaste idea yet. Vinegar is working out normally- yes everyone knows when I’ve been around! -
I have implanon. Reason- I thought it would be best for my lifestyle (at time of insert) and was afraid planned parenthood would shut down (can’t afford $390 for 3 months of pills).
At the time I didn’t pole; I had multiple partners (was in open relationship, monogamous now); no births; mum & grandma had issues with IUDs. I don’t want kids, would rather be sterilized. Afraid Nuva Ring wouldn’t be inserted properly. I had to have my dad put in my retainer, because it didn’t click. And contacts- same thing (hopeless)
Periods have always been light max 3 days, before, I only needed light absorbency tampons. Since implanon lighter bleeding infrequently, always. Sometimes months, days, whatever , I take a urine preg test every month, scared.
No weight gain till I had cosmetic surgery, (couldn’t workout, then after I got clearance) the added weight doubled 8 pounds to 20 pounds, I can’t get off. I’m coming to terms with it. The warning did say weight gain possible.
Mood swings are desperate. I want to get a punching bag & do bad things to it. Sisters and mum have issues with hormonal pills, they choose different paths.
I’m afraid I might break it ( inside left arm, right is dominate) if I try certain holds- the bruises look different & are sore different.
I haven’t made an appt for removal because I’m afraid pp might not have funding, & having a kid is not for me (my bf would marry me if I wanted kids, that’s why we were in open relationship).
I wonder if it can be moved, or get a life time supply of pills, or security of birth control for my future. Or secretly get sterilized ( I was told it was a not a choice for non mothers) -
I understand. It’s sad when my chore growing up was to get the mail. My mum said get the mail so your dad doesn’t see the bills, & my dad said get the mail so your mom doesn’t get any catalogs.
Phone calls are literally anxiety attack. Growing up my mum said its just bill collectors, don’t answer it, it will only cause your dad & I fight.
When I grew up and started making money she demanded all of it because she gave me everything. She would take my money & claim it was for utilities & they would be shut off. I always went to pay station to pay afterwards. When I moved out she did the same thing to my sisters.
I have no idea how she can … Bad thoughts. But now she’s married to a man worst than her. I try to be quiet when she vents (I want to roll my eyes & said this is exactly how you are & were) its sad because he is purposely sabatoges their credit for a house purchase. Because he’s jealous. Or at least that’s what he claims.
I wish she either did better at establishing a healthy relationship with her family (my sisters, other relatives) or didn’t ingrain guilt. We finally have to save ourselves from unhealthy relationships, we know that now, but fall prey to American pop culture of ‘it all works out in the end’ and we have hope. -
Here spins(comes) Honey Boo Boo but it would great if she did try it. I know people who eat up that show I HAD to see if, cos I luv TLC- ohh idea TLC needs to have a reality pole show! Anyway it was *interesting* to view. Funny kid- EXCELLENT confidence (luv that) she has.
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So I made my list put it on the fridge for bf to see, put in on bathroom mirror, gargage door, and soon in car somewhere.
Yet bf had to try to defy it. What is with him trying to push my willpower,? He did/does this all the time with my pole studio's pole classes and fitness bootcamp.
I like to workout so I have membership to Planet Fitness (he could go with me) and we have a couples membership at another gym that has a pool (planet fitness doesn't, I want to learn to swim and relax in a spa after some invert (true reason for signing up at the gym))
He has yet to go. He isn't in bad shape, just not the best. He does out run me in speed, not endurance; when we go to the park to jog. I'm not a runner, jogger- neaaa, kinda. I said if we were at the gym we can jog/run together side by side at our own pace.
He complains I'm never home, I want to be a stripper (due to pole fitness?), you're too tired or sore for intimacy (arguement not valid- just….I won't go there)
But I'm gonna to try! And my argument is 'There is not try, only do.'
Anywho. I'm always a motivator for others and want a physical motivator I can run (haha) to speak to when at home discouraged.
SO keep it up Veeners!!
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@ – I have to use UV beds when it rains and under 68*F AND also when it's under 65*F. I was thinking about buying a red light/blue light for light therapy but I discovered 'tanning' beds.
At work when the AC is so low, I can't body temperature regulate so I start getting mini migraine symptoms (dizziness, blindness, auditory hallucinations, and nauseam). I know I literally would not be able to live in colder climates. My despression comes for psychological and physiological disfunction. I had to go to the doctors for constant migraines and then breaking down with symptoms occur- he hypothesized SAD could be it. And we agreed for a hollistic approach, I want some medicinal support as well, it was so hard.
@MadisonsWorld- I can say, I too with the sexual encounters and partner of 10 yrs who is now my bf after discussion of limits is kinda weirded out about his boundaries on that. I say partner because I was in relationships with others that could satisfy parts of what I need/want/desired. Not everyone is fortunate with an open lifestyle and it boiled down I wanted traditionalism more than some other needs met.
Bests to you, if you don't think this area of sexual gratification is a concern, I agree and so many others do too (find a sex therapist for both your husband and you to talk in a safe place with) But ultimate issue of the post was depression, again the bests to you. Like to hear resolution of appt or Tx.
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Roadtrip to Florida for hugs. I understand pain desire. Sometimes I can deal with it other times I release and do various things. I never cut before. Do you have a friend in the piercing business? That could help? Non permanent.
I have major SAD (seasonal affective disorder) it’s weird how so many people make it illegitimate.
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YES PRACTICE!
Point toes and be conscious of leg and hip angling. Yes balls of feet walks and wall/pole work looks better imo, learn the acyrlics (platform area) and ankle placement for slide down pole and floorwork pike (?)
PRACTICE!
Stilettos were never a thought in my life till I started poling, now I can't wait to buy another and another. I've been hooked on pleasers (brand) treasure (name of style) so I can stuff random trinklets in them for fun!
PRACTICE!
Look for sole rubber grips and if the toe (straps?) are too taunt try heating with blow drier to warm them.That is my quick fix stretching, because I like them a little taunt when I'm sweaty (always) I don't want to slide off 6-7 inches mid sexy walking. Ankle straps are good for (imo) climbing on hot days, learning inverts (always scared I might stab myself in the face)
PRACTICE. Don't let height scare you, I can walk better in 6 3/4 -7 1/2" heels (must be the platform) than 6 – 5" heels.
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I gotta do this for me. I never knew what these 100 Day challenges posts were. I think I will tweet it or somewhat for me.
Thanks for the idea!
Luv the awesomeness that comes from here!
Can't wait to here more
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http://Www.tuscl.net
The ultimate strip club list???? That’s what we occasionally use when the studio & friends want to visit some clubs.
I’m not a stripper nor dancer nor performer nor talent. Luv and support anyone brave, talented, good work ethics (above titles are NOT excluded) that serves and delights me! -
I read the Fifty Shades trilogy in 2 weeks. I love how the writing sucked me in. Waiting for another writer who can do it, Harry Potter books similar (odd).
What turned me on was the mannerism of Christian hand running thru his hair and various smiling. It was like- real. And the rich man buying her stuff. I have always said "Let's go dutch because it's fair, and my name's Dutch." No man ever argued with me on that, pout. Because my dad was like Christian- felt emasculation if a woman would attempt to split or buy. Told me to find a man that would treat his princess like a respectable lady, and in turn he will get his princess. I want to feel like I'm worth being treated on, at least dinner dates. Yeah all the other frills where a turn on, but thats because I'm self deprived of gifts from others.
Could not stand ANA. I was Christian dump Ana I'm here, willing, obedient! (anyone feel the same?)
I'm into erotica, other genres. I heard Grey's was BDSM focused so I was weary of getting into THAT and what curiosity could become. This is mild – for anyone hesitant.
Just google erotica, you can find a lot of webpages for different genres and there are books- like Best of Erotica 2012, like a story or writer, seek that out.
Enjoy!
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Yup, why are you so down on your skills? What are your skills? When I started I was scared but I had to do it, no refunds on the classes and I couldn't afford walking away. I was scared that this isn't my skill other people were more at ease, more of everything I was criticizing myself on.
I decided to focus on my strengths which were surprisingly climbing and floor work, wall work. Good – I was good at something. I can live on that for hope, and I did.
Write down something you are good at, pole related or not.
Write down a reason why you decided to do pole, ( can't be 'my friend asked me', because not all her friends are in the class, are they?) If it's something your friend asked of you – why do you think she think to ask you (she was having fun, she was finding pride in her newfound abilities, she wanted you to feel the same excitement)?
Write down a goal for yourself in this pole journey ( I want to do a spin, I want to booty shake, I want to walk confidently in heels, I want better flexibility, I want to not blush when I receive a compliment) ANYTHING. Try to meet that goal – then reevaluate if you are right for pole or not.
I'm not trying to force feed you pole, but to help you try something new out, give it a chance. True pole isn't right for everyone, but you thought about it, and giving up could be not right for you- now.
CHEERS!
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@ https://www.studioveena.com/users/view/4e999784-63b4-4de1-a312-6afd0ac37250 – I have told EVERY female about the sexy pushup. I refer to it as the "at home argument winner".
My mum knows. I'm pretty upfront with her after moving out of her house. We don't see eye to eye on many things of life, but we both understand I don't care if she does or not.
But she's always happy when I'm happy. So indirectly, happy I pole.
When I had my pole up in the apartment I told her to grab it and walk around silly, sexy, whatever. "Do it a couple of times I'll leave the room." I showed her a couple of simple moves since I lacked space. I told her she's not allowed to leave to refreshen up till she did a squat around and whatever she wanted to do afterwards. She did. – I grew up with my mum telling me "you'll do it happy or sad, but you're doing it" I fed her her own medicine. She was invited to do a intro class at the studio. But as usual "I want to lose x amount of weight and get into shape before…" (How did I lose my weight? Pole)
After gifts she knows I like money- who doesn't?! I said now you can give me gift certificates to my studio or these clothing lines (pole clothes) which she does. More happy to give a gift than just money. I should have her buy my pole!!!
She was kinda scared I would be a stripper- but was reassured I would tell her if I did. "Why do you think I have 3 jobs? It's so I have a neutral image for my future I don't want to taint that, but I'm not embarrassed if I was a stripper I would be flattered along with posing in adult entertainment." Eye rolling.
Monster in law is 'unhappy' I pole. I once showed on a family camping trip the 'poling tree' magic, 'look so skinny and no poison oak!!!' and invert! afterwards she had to put up a clothesline on that tree. And when boyfriend & I moved into his new house I brought over the too short for our ceiling pole and she growled (literally if was funny scary, because she's so 'decent') "F*ck No." I explained this wasn't going up, "oh good I was concerned" this is too short for any of the ceilings, so I'm giving it to a friend and in due time buying a more suitable one for the exercise pole room (in that growl) "Ahem what exercise room? That room I told (bf, her son) that was going to be a guest room. A pole will not go into this house, garage, anywhere. This is why you. are. bad. for him. You are, sorry Jennifer (I hate to be called my in trouble name and she's been corrected so many times and doesn't care) you just are no good and it's a shame you can't be an adult and let him move on." I smile as I learned this is war.
(Note bf and I have been living together for 9 yrs he doesn't like that I pole because he is afraid I will say in public 'I want to be a stripper' I think that his mom has sometime to do with that, I've assured him and teased him- a stripper with this body? He's scared I'll hurt myself, before poling I was the weakest person to walk this planet, my own admission)
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Poling can be done in teams Anderson! I want more friends and boyfriend to pole so we can be a practicing-to-be bad ass doubles!
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oh my my first message got so edited, stupid phone!
I was stating my dad wouldn't let me do jazz as an elementary school child because of the immodest outfits, and the religious base of modesty at all times. He let us dance however we wanted even if some were adult belly dancing moves – ( he mentioned, if the kids are having fun why should I scare them to think there are predators that demonize dance, music, cultural outfits). Also my dad did his best to protect my family against negative self image (if you worked on a team you fall prey of competitors that might not like you for whatever reasons, pressure you to feel and behave not true to yourself) he wanted me to work hard on being healthy and strong.
Maybe he would have disapproved of me pole dancing in any point of my life because he would've wanted to protect my body and mind from pain and judgment. But I'm grown up now
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hypocritical wonder of being able to climb and SPIN (oh cool!) and be strong.
I think it's WRONG to allow our culture to keep being scared of our sexuality. Our bodies can and will be sexy whatever we do- depending on how people view it, or define it. Being sweaty, with hair misplaced, and bruises are not sexy- yet at times that's "pole dancing" for me. Wearing booty shorts, that's volleyball to me.
If we make people scared to think outside the box of vertical fitness, pole dancing, "whatever you want to call it to make yourselves feel better– strippers in training" it will be a long time to open the possibilities for more fun things that are foreign to us and in the US.
Maybe in kid classes there should be a horizontal and vertical pole.
If I were a guest or audience member I would like to ask, What's your fascination with the stripper population Anderson? Why can't we discuss that? Or are your executive producers fascinated with underage athletes?
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I was thinking of getting a 45 or 38mm PS. I love hand grip on 45, curious in a good way about 38. I’ve never tried any thigh grip or kneepit grip on the 45. (visiting another studio).
But at times I wonder SS or Brass.
I’m a sweaty girl and SS is sometimes a nightmare sometimes a dream. Brass is optional for me, due to grip only perks (all seasons I like brass when attempting/ learning a spin, sit, climb, grip. But spinning on brass (50) in studio -when I know the spin- no fun.
So those with PS 45 or 38; brass or SS why? Sweaty body & hands – always or heat seasons? -
When will Studio Veena and platinum stages have a cool order agreement ?
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I was an infomercial exercise junkie. But I needed a place time and others to committ to. So I did bootcamp at my pole studio. Some instructors I gave them my Brazilian Butt Lift and Pilates and insanity discs to mix it up luv that they’re being put to use by me one way or another.
I want to get flexibility DVD but I know I need a class to attend (eye rolling) in order to actually do it.
Whatever makes it work, works! -
Same boat I can’t wait for some advice.
Practice is ok on my hands, then when I think of doing a combo – I’m just happy I still have grip. At the studio I have 2 towels in my shorts or tank, (for me & pole).
My nerves get the best of me and I just close my eyes most of the time. Which isn’t smart.
Polers what can we do or think good thoughts to be more progressive ? -
Well just make some plans for the performance and say sorry I can’t make it.
I never want to perform for our studios open house student shows and luckily my bf is old school & doesn’t want me to even do pole. I kinda use that as a lame excuse. I kinda want to only to show other girls you don’t have to look pro to join, then there might be more lower level & conditioning classes. That’s tempting, not enough tho.
Your teacher can’t make you. And tell her these expectations makes you feel uncomfortable to stay at the studio. -
Last year I was 29 & 183 lbs. last year I started making a bucket list because life was either just beginning or ending. I didn’t know which attitude I was going to hold. I started to let depression capture me. I was energetic, weak, and grossly underweight in my teens & thru college I became the best student, not good person to myself.
My bucket list was to learn dance- as many forms as possible, develop flexibility, strength, confidence in myself, become less cynical.Get healthy! Along with more items on my bucket list. Above mentioned are the things I can say I’m attempting everyday with no check box near them so it’s always a work in progress. I like it that way! Poling awaken me to be a better me. Sometimes I’m blue sometimes I’m tickled pink. I think everyone is a various times.
If it works make your bucket list be busy getting old. -
A while ago that was me. I was uncomfortable, and felt unsafe to address issues to the boss. My boyfriend said to me- make finding another job your first job, the job you have your second priority. I’m currently at my first job, but I’m not as uneasy, I’m being more professional. And my boss got laid off from corporate office. I still need another job due to the evil coworker is the weird reason my boss was a freak and got laid off.
Advice; job then quit. Money has a face, faces have mouths, mouths talk; Money talks. Speaks volumes- especially when it’s nowhere in your hand. -
Have you paid for Veena’s lessons? Are you a type (I am) that needs a specific place, time, person to be motivated to workout?
Have you thought about the fun BodyRock.Tv website (FREE) other than some tools which you can modify.
Cheers to you for taking a step, progress is progress, like the proverb states Its the journey, not the destination, that makes us who we are. -
O KAY Stylish is a guy- not as jealous, still awestruck. Damn. I had a zumba instructor who would do this- it annoyed how good he was, tiny butt not yummy I like thick ass men.
