Teaching yourself "flow"

Runemist34 · 2013-05-06T13:39:26+00:00

Hey everyone! I know that this subject has been tossed around here a lot, but unfortunately, none of the threads really seem to do it for me- I can't seem to get the answer I need from them. I've struggled for a long time with trying to find "flow," or that illusive sexiness that I so desire with my dancing. I can get moves, sure, and I continue to work on more and more moves, even transitions and simple dancing. However, I don't seem to have that... umm, how do I even explain it? That sensual quality, the put-together-ness of a dance, the connection between dancer and music? Kind of all and none of those? I'm reminded of The Birdcage (if anyone has seen that movie!) where the flamboyant "maid" explains why he's not ever allowed in any of the shows: They're afraid of his "juatamaleness.(spelling??), my natural heat." I want THAT! lol So I suppose my question is... how do you teach yourself that? How is it taught in classes? I know some people have "sexy flow" classes, or something similar, in their pole dancing studios... what do those classes entail? There aren't any around here that I can take. My boyfriend suggested just taking a whole bunch of dancing classes- doesn't have to be pole dancing, just ANY dancing. I used to enjoy belly dancing, and he said I could start with that... and improve that which I'm looking to improve. What do you guys think?

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Runemist34 · 5/9/2013
Hey ladies! So much feedback! I'm really surprised ;) Generally my routine is to start with freestyle, which is how I warm up... And, in typing that, I just realized a problem. LOL! Anyways, I'm going to fix that pretty immediately. My freestyle is no longer for warm up... because if I'm warming up, I don't want to do advanced moves, right? So I specifically refrain from climbing, from "strength" moves, and from more advanced spins. D'oh! Anyways, I'll try to slow things down... and work on my floorwork. I've not done much at all, and I always love to see it! Someone told me once that she didn't like floorwork because she thought it was "too stripper-ish," and while this was in reference to Burlesque dancing... I suppose it must have leaked in and gotten to me. Comments like that tend to do so. Video taping... I guess will come in time. Perhaps as I get more and more comfortable with my mirror (it only just went up a little while ago, and I still stare at it like it's an alien in my pole room), I'll get more and more comfortable with seeing myself dance and move around. ❤️ You guys. Thank you!