sad news

polebunny started this discussion · 5/22/2010

so theres no easy way to say this but i miscarried my baby. its been a very hard time for me which is why i haven't been online at all. both my hubby and i were devastated. but now i'd like to start poling again, i haven't really danced for like three months and i'd like some tips on getting back into it and hopefully progressing further than before. i really need the exercise and the distraction we all know pole can give us lol. 😳

21 replies

Ginger Kitty · 5/22/2010
Oh, sweetie, I'm so, so sorry to hear that. I know that you are heart broken. I had two miscarriages before I was successfully able to carry a baby to term. I later had another miscarriage in between some pregnancies. The one thing that some one told me on my second miscarriage that I wished I had heard on my first was that "it was a baby and that it is ok to grieve". big, big hugs to you!
polefairy · 5/22/2010
I'm really sorry to read that polebunny. You and your husband have suffered a terrible loss, make sure you take enough time for TLC and don't push yourself too hard. Sorry again.
yogabeachbabe · 5/22/2010
So sorry Polebunny. I can't even imagine what you and your husband are going through. Sending you lots of cyberhugs. My heart goes out to you.
poletrickster · 5/23/2010
i am so sorry for your loss 🙁
tiggertail · 5/23/2010
Losing a baby is very hard so take your time, it's ok to be sad and it's part of your life don't put that sadness away. But on the other side dancing it might be a way to heal.
Veena · 5/23/2010
Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear that. I can't imagine the pain of a miscarriage. Your pole family is here for you let us know if you need anything. As for getting back to pole....take your time. Start off with strength work then on to pole holds. Enjoy the therapy that just dancing around your pole can give. Big hugs.....
MissHoneyrider · 5/23/2010
I'm so sorry .Big hugs!!!
Layla Duvay · 5/23/2010
More hugs!
Dayanara · 5/23/2010
aw hunny, ((HUGS)), we are here for you. about poling, start slow, spins and such until you feel more comfortable with the heavy duty stuff, your body probably needs some recovering.
dustyfox · 5/23/2010
im so sorry to hear that hunny...i know what your going threw i have been there myself.tons of hugs goin your way
Charley · 5/23/2010
I am sooo sorry, words cannot express what you are going through and I can't imagine. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. As for returning to pole - dancing is great therapy and like Veena I suggest working on transitions and just dancing around the pole.
Gsylass · 5/24/2010
Sorry to hear your sad news hunny, big hugs to you.
NightFall · 5/24/2010
I'm so sorry. Look after yourself. xxxxx
Trena · 5/24/2010
Oh I'm so sorry to hear that darling. Your Veena family is here for u! Hugs xxx Start off slowly, no need to rush anything. I think you could start by working on spins and transitions. Best of luck with it xxx
Tantric Limpet · 5/25/2010
I am so sorry, I don't know what else to say just that I am sorry and I am hugging you through cyber space xxx
glitterhips · 5/25/2010
im so sorry honey!!! i will keep you and your hubby in my thoughts xoxo
Sofija · 5/29/2010
I'm so sorry for you! I wish you and your husband strenght!
SissyBuns · 5/30/2010
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss but I'm happy to see that you have motivation to get back to poling and I believe that dancing can be very therapeutic and will be good for you. Like Veena and Daya said, take your time. Dance around and if something hurts stop doing it. Go easy and keep your head up girl. (hug replacment smiley) 🥂 🥂 🥂 🥂 🥂
RM2012 · 5/25/2012
I am so sorry hun. We lost a bub after our daughter, and we lost our eldest son's fraternal twin also. There are no words that can take your pain away, I wish there were. It's something no mother should have to experience <3 When it comes time to get back into pole, remember to be super kind on yourself. Your body has been through some big changes, take your time and go slowly into it - don't think you should be doing the same level if you are not up to it. You will get there with your dancing. Just remember that physical healing and emotional healing are very different things. Sometimes the pain inside can hold us back physically, and if that happens it's ok. So sorry for your loss x
Lyme Lyte · 5/25/2012
Exactly what R;2012 said. I too have lost a child before birth and it is hard. Hugs to u!
ORGANIC ANGEL · 5/25/2012
I am so sorry that you are going through that. That happened to us last year too. We conceived on Dec. 24 2010 and lost our angel 7 weeks later. I did a dance to my bab(as a tribute)y and I recorded that one...(I'll try to find it to post here)Than about 8 weeks later, we conceived again and our baby was due on December 24! We had our precious miracle baby on Dec. 22, 2011. Getting back to pole just be kind to yourself. Allow yourself time to heal. Allow yourself to grieve and to get through it in your own time. When I got pregnant the second time, I still poled but I did not do any ab work. It just "felt wrong". I also didn't do any moves that I felt uncomfy with and I stopped completely at 30 weeks. Just listen to yourself and your body. In the first pregnancy, my equilibrium felt odd-I couldn't even dance in heels. The second time around, I felt fine. Sending hugs and prayers for you🌸