Not pole related...hope this is ok

Legs4Days started this discussion · 7/21/2013

I know this isnt pole related, but for u gals that have older kids, like say early 20's...how do u handle it if you daughter or son is involved with someone that is not rite for them? I know how that sounds but Im telling the truth. I am afraid for my girl's safety and she only says "Im grown, stop living in the past, he's not the same as he was...2 months ago"! Ugh, Killin me...

6 replies

Beckypolegirl · 7/21/2013
My girls are only young so haven't had this yet lol when I was 19 I had a boyfriend who my parents didn't like and thought he was trouble. But the more they told me how they felt the more determined I was to be with him. This is typical young person behaviour the more you tell them not todo something the more they will lol unfortunately I think you just need to let them live their life but be there when they eventually realise you were right :) kids, nothing but a headache lol x
Autumn Sky · 7/21/2013
Wow, tough call. Unfortunately you know the decision has to ultimately come from your daughter, as parents of "adult" children our hands are kind of tied. All we can do is point out what We see and hope and pray that eventually they will see the same. My heart goes out to you. I know it is hard to sit back and watch.
Webmaster · 7/21/2013
Once a child is no longer, legally, your responsibility, the best you can hope for is to have a relationship with them. Just like a friend, with a potentially dangerous relationship or partaking in destructive behaviors, there is nothing you can "do" except to be there. If your fears do play out your child will need your support, and if they don't she's gonna need you close in order that she can say "I told you so".
Lyme Lyte · 7/21/2013
Webbie said it perfect! My son is 24 and not making the best decisions w partying all the time, but he's an adult, and I hope someday things will change. But for now, I support him although I don't always agree but that's the way most parent/child relationships are at this age.
Legs4Days · 7/21/2013
My main concern is her safety..I get the whole "they have to make their own decisions" but ur rite, it is hard to sit back and watch..... again. Thanks for ur responses. :)
monica kay · 9/4/2013
hope everthing is ok :)