My X-Pole is driving me nuts!

My x pole has always been a bit cumbersome. Since moving to the new house, I just don't understand why its acting funky. If I want a smooth spin mode, I have to be careful not to over tighten it, BUT, if I do that, its like it is barely tensioned. I tighten it up for a nice sturdy hold, and spin mode is tight and thump-thump-thump ing. I keep tightening it as the weather is dropping, and it seems like practice will be going along all merry like, I will do something such a simple fireman spin, and the pole will angle off and I have to quickly un tighten, reconfigure to make sure its level, tighten it JUST enough, test tug, test spin, test spin mode, untighten, test tug, angle the pole with the test tug, rinse and repeat. SO frustrated. It happened Saturday again and I just left it because I am SO tired of messing with it constantly. It did have the issue of the too tight/not tight enough at the old place, but at least once you got it in there snug, it stayed. I wonder if I'm not slowly lifting the roof off, and the pole is near at max thread without going up to the next extension size. *grumble*