My mother is dying. :(

Lyme Lyte · 2014-12-04T10:07:06+00:00

As you all know my father passed a few years ago. You were all so helpful when I went through that. She bought a condo across the hall from me a year ago and has been living very independat with a little help form me. But she is still driving, cooking, cleaning etc. Well, the doctor told me Tuesday she is in her final weeks of life. Her liver has shut down due to IV antibiotics she was on for an infection. I had to break the news to her last night and it was difficult! I was waiting for her in her condo when she come in with shopping bags! I had to sit down and have a talk with her and tell her what the doctor said and that we have to get her on Hospice. Regardless, I am in shock. I am trying to stay positive, because I don't want this to cause my Lyme disease to come back. I have not been eating, constantly crying and I am sad because I was just getting back to pole, was hoping for my Christma Tree splits and now all of that just doesn't matter. I just am a mess right now. Thanks and hugs to all the Veeners.

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monica kay · 12/5/2014
sorry lyme.
ipole2 · 12/5/2014
So sorry that you are going through this - wishing you strength and peace.
Tracyvdm3489 · 12/5/2014
You already know I'm sorry. :( I've been thinking about you. It is so awful seeing a loved one slip away. :(
Slkysmth · 12/5/2014
Sending you all the strength love and power for you your mom and the rest of the family to get thru this. ((Hugs))
WebJunk · 12/5/2014
I lost my Mother nine years ago this week to cancer. My Father is almost three years. Was his caregiver for several years and then did Hospice at home. It is always tough and painful but as my parents had told me at one time, our parents always want us children to carry on being the best person we can be, while continuing to live & enjoy our own lives. Stay strong for your Mother and yourself.
QueenJewell · 12/6/2014
Sorry to hear this. I wish you strength during this devastating time. Bless you and your family.
studio409 · 12/6/2014
All the Goddess from Studio 409 send you love xxxxx
Saeth · 12/6/2014
I'm so sorry to hear of this news. There isn't much one can say other than to enjoy the time remaining with your mother. Be kind to yourself also. You are starting a new chapter in your life and it's important to show yourself some kindness to help you through it. Wishing you and your mother as much quality time together as possible, strength and peace.
Skullpixie · 12/6/2014
So sorry to hear this, so sad :( xxx lots of hugs xxx
RoMo · 12/7/2014
Big hug from the other side of the world. Please take care of yourself. Do you have someone there to help you? If there's anything I can do to help (have food / groceries delivered to your house, etc...), please don't hesitate to ask for help. We live in an amazing world and even though we are scattered across the globe, technology brings us closer.
Hazelnut · 12/7/2014
There's not much that anyone can say at times like this, but we are all here to support you. I know going through these things is so difficult but you're a strong woman and you can get through it. When the time comes you need to be strong for her so please make sure to try and eat something and look after yourself; it might seem selfish (and a silly practical thing to say at such a terrible time!) but you need to keep your strength up. Keep us updated; I really wish all the strength I have over to you.
Lyme Lyte · 12/7/2014
Thanks everyone. ;)
Ava Madison · 12/10/2014
So sorry you are going through this Lyme; thinking of you and your family. Take care of yourself and you have a wonderful community here to help support you. Big hugs!
Lyme Lyte · 12/11/2014
Thanks for everyone's support.
newschik · 12/11/2014
I'm so sorry that you are shouldering this burden. Your mom is blessed with a loving daughter. You're in my prayer chain....Take care of you and her
Sarah Brace · 12/11/2014
So sorry to hear your news, stay strong & know that so many are sending thoughts of love & support. XX
Sonja Steidl · 12/11/2014
so sorry you have to go through this, lyme. my dad passed a couple of years ago, so i can maybe understand a little bit what you are feeling just right now. wishing you and your family strength and peace. stay strong! a big hug for you from austria
tiggertail · 12/11/2014
Sending a lot of love and hugs to you and your family. Hope that when her time as come she will go away smootly knowing how much you love her. If you need us we are here for you xx
Sam Adelaide · 12/11/2014
There are no words for this. Hugs.
Poledancefan · 12/22/2014
I hadn't been aware of the detail that this was a medication side effect. I had assumed it was just a naturally occurring situation and this news makes it that much harder to bear. Poledancefan is Joel Lessing
hookedonpole · 12/23/2014
I also was not aware or missed the details of her illness. I can't even imagine that! So very sorry for your loss.
Cherished · 12/23/2014
Lyme, I am so sorry, I'm sending lots of love and hugs your way
mystical · 1/1/2015
Lyme my mom passed away December 8th 2014, I am still heart broken cause of it...All I can say is cherish the moments with your mom and tell her how much you love her. I know if my mom was still here I would love to hold her again in my arms and tell her how much I love her, I miss her dearly...If you want you can always message me...So sorry to hear about your mom..
Lyme Lyte · 1/1/2015
Thanks for everyone's replies. My mom went really fast actually. It was only a few weeks after doctor said "last weeks". I had no idea it would be so quick! I spent a few quality days with her before she became unconscious. She was only 67, and passed December 19th.
RoMo · 1/3/2015
Lyme, So sorry for your loss. Be strong during this time. Hug.