How to Tell the Kids Not To Tell

MommaBear · 2010-04-23T12:32:25+00:00

I made the decision not to hide the pole away like a dirty secret and explained the reason I was getting one and showed them all videos about how the pole was used for fitness - my kids are fine with it and are begging to play on it. But . . . how do I also include a conversation of - well, even though there is nothing wrong with it - don't tell all your friends and teachers that your mom got a pole!!! I've been thinking of how to explain it, without also having to include a entire conversation on strippers, and strip clubs and all that muddy water 🫡 Any ideas? Outlines? Slideshows? 😂

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litlbit · 10/17/2010
This is just my personal opinion. One when we were raising our kids the first thing we did was not hide things from them...especially things that we believed in and were not ashamed of, we never told them not to "tell" because that implicates something to hide. My thoughts are if you believe there is nothing wrong with what your doing then it shouldn't be a "secret". If you are doing it for fitness or whatever reason, it IS FITNESS, and a form of gymnastics. So the easiest way in MHO is to simply tell them that's what you are doing, no one questions gymnastics. I have a good friend that works with kids, she is a child psychiatrist. I asked her her professional opinion on this topic, she stated that if you try to sugar coat poling to make it easy for others to accept, then you yourself still have some questions and or uncertainty's about what you are doing which your children will pick up on, and that if you truly believe what you are doing is not hurting anyone and or "illegal", then it doesn't matter what others think as we all have our own beliefs, perceptions, and opinions no matter what. It is the younger generation that can make changes if we just plant a healthy seed and stay honest with our kids...kids don't mess up kids, adults do. Just thought I'd share her thoughts with you.
Tania · 11/15/2010
I have 2 kids a 15 year old son and an 11 year old daughter - I have been straight with my kids from the begining. I told them I excerising on the pole and they can join me anytime. That now my daughter is better than some of the advanced girls I teach. My son decided to tell his friends at school pole dancer - does not mean stripper......it means dancer using the pole......stripper is a person who removes clothes....seriously is english that difficult to understand. He felt he could deal with their close mindedness as he saw how I benefitted from what I was doing and THAT is what mattered. I don't know laws etc about kids knowing too much but considering this is not dirty in anyway - I feel, be proud and don't let people that can't open their eyes beat you down.
Glaminatrix · 11/15/2010
haha me and my daughter were just discussing this. I'm a very young mother also, and my daughter is 5. I never hid the pole from her. She watched me put it together, she took some first spins with me and she grips better, holds better and basically blew me away being a natural at it the very first day lol. I took it out of the house so her friends parents wouldnt get to see and say anything about it and put it in our own studio. I dont tell her she can't tell, I just tell her people don't always like it and some just don't "get it". The only person I definitely say for her not to tell is her daddy 😂 but he's always looking for a fight to pick I don't booty pop unless I am totally alone, and dont watch any videos like that with her (yes we watch youtube and SV together) I also like the vertical ballerina comparison and started to push some ballerina themed things on her. Maybe I will buy her a tutu haha.