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  • how do you politely say no

    Posted by JenLFG on June 8, 2010 at 12:20 am

    i have my own pole & i am self taught. an ex~coworker asked if she can come over & pole with me. she has zero pole experience & i am not very good at all! (i just did my first invert today) i’m definitely not good enough to help someone else learn proper form. & i have injured myself countless times from lack of know how! since she & i are not like BFF’s i don’t want to put myself in a situation where i would be liable if she were if get injured & since i really don’t know her outside of my old job (we talk on facebook, but we have never hung out outside of work) basically, i just don’t want to get sued! lol! & of course i don’t want anyone to get hurt. so, any suggestions on how to politely say "no you can’t come play on my dance pole"?

    _ang replied 13 years, 11 months ago 5 Members · 6 Replies
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  • NerdasaurusJess

    Member
    June 8, 2010 at 12:49 am

    I feel you. My one friend makes people sign waivers when they come over her house! I would suggest to her that both of you take a pole class together and your lack of knowledge of the subject. That way you can bond and she can see pole really isnt as easy as it looks, plus you can learn proper form.

  • Meleania

    Member
    June 8, 2010 at 8:59 am

    I feel you. My one friend makes people sign waivers when they come over her house! I would suggest to her that both of you take a pole class together and your lack of knowledge of the subject. That way you can bond and she can see pole really isnt as easy as it looks, plus you can learn proper form.

    omg I should get a copy of a pole waiver so I can make people sign them too, it would be great for partys

  • NerdasaurusJess

    Member
    June 8, 2010 at 12:37 pm

    I know its a genius idea, I thought it was a little insane at first but people are lawsuit crazy. I have never had people use my pole at my house. Mainly because it is never up, I really need to clean my apartment. However, I do have pole waivers at the studio and in my car.

  • Mary Ellyn

    Member
    June 9, 2010 at 4:52 pm

    This brought to mind something else for instructors: part of the reason we incorporate our business is to separate our personal assets from our business for liability reasons. However, if you own a business and you allow someone to pole dance in your home, you have now put your home at risk as it is no longer separated from your business.

    Waivers are always a good idea. They won’t prevent a lawsuit but they will show responsibility which looks better in the eyes of the court.

    I have no idea if they are effective for when you have friends over to pole dance in your home? https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_scratch.gif

    I think you just need to be honest and let her know that you aren’t comfortable allowing someone else to pole dance in your home as you would feel terrible if they injured themselves and that you’ve made it your own personal policy not to allow it. Then I like the idea of suggesting you take a class together somewhere!

  • JenLFG

    Member
    June 18, 2010 at 6:59 am

    well, i sent her links to local studios & places to buy poles (x pole, platinum stages & hardcore poles) & said something about not feeling comfortable with anyone other than myself using my pole since someone could get injured https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif & honestly, i have no desire to take a pole class with her (that sounds so mean but she never in 5 years wanted to be "real life outside of work friends" before she saw my dance pole, so… https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_confused.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_thumbdown.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_confused.gif ) & i really don’t have to $$ to spend on a class either. i am saving up for a crash mat so i can stop using/destroying my couch cushions, lol! & i work much better at my own pace so online lessons for me at home works out perfect https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif

  • _ang

    Member
    June 24, 2010 at 3:02 am

    I understand completely. I’m having a girls night in a month and I’ve already been teased that I won’t let anyone near the pole (unless I know they’ve taken lessons already). I’m actually going to take it down and put it away (which sucks because that means I have to put it back up afterwards) because I don’t want anyone to get hurt. Drunk women and a pole is not a good thing (at least I don’t think it is).

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