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  • body image

    Posted by witeroze on October 11, 2009 at 2:23 am

    Sorry I know this isn’t pole related but I wanted to share because it put a smile on my face.

    I’ve noticed that even the most FIT people on here like to put themselves down sometimes, complain about their physical flaws, and even feel like they have to "apologize" for the way their body is every time they upload a new video.

    So I thought this video was fitting to post here… besides from being funny, I find it to be so true:" onclick=";return false;

    Mindy4pole replied 14 years, 8 months ago 9 Members · 8 Replies
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  • Runemist34

    October 11, 2009 at 4:30 am

    It’s so true!
    Despite a husband telling me he think’s I’m beautiful, and lots of other people telling me I’m sexy (or acting like it) I always feel…bleh. I love this video, because it’s so true!

  • pole-twista

    October 11, 2009 at 2:24 pm

    omg that was so funny and yet so true!
    when i look at myself i dont think i see myself as a whole but rather in parts and flaws (my flat butt and flabby belly ect) which is why though dying to wear a bikini in 1 of my new vids, just won’t.
    my bf hardly ever calls me by name. always calls me "beautiful" yet i hardly feel that way. i am always telling other women how beautiful and sexy and amazing they are but cant seem to say it to myself, or rather i say it to myself but it’s like saying to myself my tap water is hot pink.
    i can say it but i don’t believe it. with basically all my vids (some more than others ) i think i look OK as doing them but than when i bother to take a glance once there posted i think wow.. not good..
    i will say this however, as much as i may pull myself apart sometimes i WILL NOT tolerate being disrespected or put down by ANYONE else NO MATTER WHAT.
    i let 2 ex-boyfriends (one when i was only 15, the other 20) tell me that i looked like a "whore" and other awful things any time i made an attempt to look pretty or girly. they were physically and mentally busive bc they were scared insecure little boys in a mans body. (the guy i dated for over a year when i was 15 was 18 when met) i couldnt even tuck my shirt in bc my breasts might have some shape under my shirt that way! as hard as things were for me during those years, i wouldnt trade them in bc it made me super diligent about not letting others put me down or make me feel less than what i am. now any negativity thrown at me gets used as fuel for the fire that keeps me working hard, dreaming big, and loving the good people in my life including ME!
    sorry for my famously long posts, but wanted to share..

  • Trena

    October 11, 2009 at 3:35 pm

    That was just great! I love the last bit where he names out all the things he should do and then when he looks all chiselled and muscly he says, "And then maybe Id look like this. And then maybe Id feel better about my body. But I probably wouldnt." Because its so true! Ive always worried about my weight and compared myself to others so for my wedding I decided I wanted to lose some weight and you know what, even when I was at my thinest I STILL wasnt happy! Its a viscous circle! Ive started to relax a little bit more now though. Fuck it, we only live once right!

  • Veronika

    October 11, 2009 at 5:26 pm

    That video was great to watch ! Lack of confidence makes us watch ourselves so different and we dont remember we are unique and wonderful human beings !
    Thanks for giving us the link !



  • Layla Duvay

    October 12, 2009 at 3:00 am

    That was amazing and so true! Even when I was dancing full time (6 twenty minute shows a day, six days a week, plus one hour workouts every day) I still felt "fat" and was told by my mother to lose 4 more pounds. Agents dangled before me the possibility of earning more money if I lost fifteen pounds. "From where?" I wondered. I look at me then, sleek, toned and fit and shake my head. These people made me feel like this:

    Now there are parts of me I’m not crazy about, but I don’t care. This mortal coil will be shuffled off soon enough, so I’m enjoying its pleasures now rather than stressing about how it looks.

  • Veena

    October 12, 2009 at 4:51 am

    LOL that video is so true.. we never seem to see ourselves the way we really are. I don’t know why we do that to ourselves *sigh* I do it too, but I have gotten better about it. Trena is right life is short…

  • Fleur

    October 12, 2009 at 4:59 am

    very funny! and sooooo true! I remember going through the teenage years and being convinced that I was ugly and being overly critical of every part of my body, I even drew a picture of myself pointing out all the things I didn’t like (like the video)! Thank goodness I grew out of that self-conscious phase to realize I may not be perfect, but I’m good enough!!

  • Mindy4pole

    October 13, 2009 at 8:18 am

    I love this video. Thanks for posting! Body image IS crazy.

    When I was almost 100 lbs heavier than I am now, I felt so sexy. It was like I was outside the social norm, and so I could accept myself as who and what I was. If people didn’t find me attractive, that was their problem. I remember going to a renaissance festival dressed as a slave girl — 200+ pounds, wearing nothing but a bra and harem pants. I had all these people coming up to me, wanting to take pictures with me, flirting with me.

    Now, I’m pretty close to the cultural "ideal", but I can’t see myself that way at all. I feel "fat" and that my breasts are too small (even though I wear a 32DD bra!) I keep trying to shake these feelings, but they are still there.

    Any ideas on how to be more accepting of your own beauty??


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