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  • Power of the Pole?

    Posted by marle777 on August 11, 2009 at 4:41 am

    So I’ve been itching to comment on how someone here stated a while back how it seems like a horizontal bar for ballet or gymnastics is so much less intimidating to our current societal mores, but once you place it on it’s end, it’s suddenly slutty. Anyone ever considered the Freudian and Jungian psychological aspects/associations going on here? Apparently when a woman decides to achieve a level of her own ‘personal physical power’ it tends to ruffle feathers all over the place.

    The horizontal bar is static, passively lying on it’s side, but the pole.. all erect and such — people can’t handle it when a woman can claim her OWN sexual identity without the specific need for some man’s "erect pole" they get their undies all in a twist you know, slinging around derogatory uses of the word ‘stripper’ or even worse. It seems it all comes down to the fact that people can’t stand to admit the true power of the female nature; that which magnetizes, attracts (and yes, nurtures, but this is what we’re ideal used to conforming to) and is completely irresistible. So many times this is demonized and shoved away to the back of our collective psyche’s closet. When a woman truly possesses and masters her very own "masculine" power in a graceful and feminine way she is a force to be reckoned with!!

    No wonder husbands, boyfriends, "friends" and family get scared! They can call it degrading or whatever, but the truth is they just don’t understand their own sexuality and it’s inherent power and if you try to for yourself, it tends to make them feel uncomfortable with themselves and they feel the need to project their emotional immaturity and stunted perceptions of morality upon you! So ladies or anyone out there dealing with someone you care about making you feel bad for poling, just giggle to yourself in the back of your mind knowing why they can’t handle it! Maybe if Barbie had stopped trying to be everything men told her was "acceptable" to be and just embraced her womanhood fully, she never would have needed Ken (that is, unless she wanted him!)!

    Usually when one sees the depth of skill it takes to execute these moves, they tend to break past their old paradigms and respect our art. This isn’t always an easy point to get to with some people, but I’ve never seen anyone say anything less than "Whoa!!" to a well executed jade, death lay, etc. – So don’t get discouraged, we’ll soon get to the day when the idea of balking at a woman on a pole will seem archaic and silly; until then, happy poling!!

    LondonCalling replied 14 years, 10 months ago 4 Members · 3 Replies
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  • PoleDanceABCs

    August 11, 2009 at 7:44 am

    Oh my gosh I loved this post… I wish there was a way to add it to a favorites or something.

    I think some of it has to do with people being old-fashioned. My mom immediately took my interest in pole dance with something degrading. "How can you show so much skin and still be decent?" But when flappers showed their knees in the ’20s it wasn’t that much different. Things change and a lot of people have trouble letting go of the past.

    And yes there are still many many many issues when it comes to gender equality. Men still make more money than a woman if they hold the same position or job title… men still have a lot of power and say in gov’t (think of the percentage of males in power vs. women and we are on the low side)… more women get sold into sex slavery or get physically mutilated (think of FGM in Africa). So when women try to seize power or be powerful through their femininity or sexuality it is automatically a deviant act. *sigh*

  • SissyBuns

    August 11, 2009 at 6:39 pm

    Oh my god I love this post! I wish I could articulate this to people when they make a funny face at poling!

  • LondonCalling

    August 11, 2009 at 9:27 pm

    Well said mate. It’s hilarious how a gender that will so quickly label a woman as a whore, slut, or skank will so easily release their hard earned dollars for such a woman to dance or appear at his side at a party . This idea of a woman realizing her worth has been a constant in the male ego and it seems whatever way they can decide to hold control of a woman, they will. Case in point, abortion. Granted some may not agree for religious or just ethical reasons the choice still rested on the shoulders of 200 upper-middle class, Caucasian, middle-to-upper aged men to decide what rights I, or any woman have, over her uterus and the contents therein. A woman still only makes 79 cents for every dollar that a man makes and yet an exotic dancer’s salary can trump that of any male who works a blue collar or white collar job. I don’t work in the profession, but I embrace my "sexy" and if that means it’s good neutral sense against whatever poor labels and gender roles society wishes to throw at me, I say "Bring it on bitches!"

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