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Accepting our partners compliments!
Okay, so I was thumbing through the forums today, and came across a wonderful topic posted by Polegirl about complimenting ourselves without adding anything negative about another part of our body we’re not too fond of. While reading the responses, I came across something that really struck a cord with me.
I am so guilty of this myself, and my husband even calls me out on it. I have no idea why I do this, but it is something I think other women do as well (I’m not sure about men). So, my question is, https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_scratch.gif why do we take our partner’s/spouse’s/significant others/boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s/bestfriend’s opinion about us as something ‘required’ of them? Why do we take their compliments for granted? Why is it so much more important to us when complete strangers say something nice versus our life partners? In my opinion, my husband’s compliments should be the most important to me. I should get giddy when he tells me how beautiful I am or how hot my hips look in boyshorts and a t-shirt. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cyclops_ani.gif That means he is still interested in me, and I am still significant to him. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif If they ever stopped, I would be in big trouble because something would be wrong in our relationship.
I’m not saying that compliments don’t feel good or that you should disregard compliments from someone you don’t know, I just think we should also be more accepting of compliments from people we have known for a long time and are closest to us, and to think of those compliments as the most important ones to receive. Remember, that person closest to you was once a stranger as well. You decided to give them a chance, more than likely, based on a nice compliment they gave you. I know I have a long way to go with rectifying my own issue with this, but from this moment on, I vow to appreciate the compliments from my soul-mate and to hold those compliments as the most important, top notch feel goods I can ever receive from anyone. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif Any one else? https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_question.gif
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