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Love the new name! LOL i had the same problem that joel did with your name in the beginning!
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yay congrats!!! can’t wait to see the vid!!!
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Cali omg honey, i’m so sorry! everyone here gave such AMAZING advice and support, i agree 100% with what everyone has already said, so i’ll keep this short and simple.. it sounds to me like you’ve been taken advantage of, and taken for granted of, to the extreme- so much that you even got used to it! Trying to work things out is almost always the best thing to do before accepting to divorce, but just know that some behaviors and attitudes are very difficult to change. and it seems like he’s pretty much made up his mind. I know this may sound a bit harsh, but i’m trying to be realistic. It definately won’t be easy at first, so be prepared for a bit of a rough time, but you WILL survive, and you will come out of this STRONGER, and it WILL BE TO YOUR BENEFIT in the end, because you don’t deserve that kind of treatment!
It’s hard to see this now, but it’s better that this happens now rather than later on.. You’re so young and you have 2 kids, and that’s what makes this sooo hard, but soon enough you will find someone who respects you and takes care of you, and that is when you will truly realize that all that you’re going through now was worth it. I know this can’t make you feel any better at the moment, and i really can’t help you with the practical issues either (i don’t live in the US so i’m not familiar with housing programs and support groups).. just remember what everyone else here told you, and that we all care and will support you in any way we can! stay strong sweetie!
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awww i’m glad that you’re feeling a bit better and that it’s most likely not a new health issue! and the call was really no big deal, i just can’t stand it when a woman thinks that anything related to her body is "gross", or when we automatically assume that things like this are our fault and that we should be ashamed about telling our partners! Plus it’s soooo easy to go crazy over our gynecological issues.. but i’m so glad glitter that you went to your doctor, and like you said, if caught early on, it can be treated properly, and you’ll be just fine! keep us updated sweetie, everyone here loves you! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif
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oh glitter, if i had your number, i’d seriously be calling you right now! First of all, NOTHING about this stuff is gross or disgusting in ANY way whatsoever, and the last thing you should be worrying about is what your boyfriend will think of you! Like jacq said, even if it is an std, which you can’t know for sure that it is, you can’t know if you or your boyfriend had it first, and who gave it to who. and it won’t really matter at this point anyway. I’m so glad you made an appointment for tomorrow morning, don’t freak out, it’s most likely due to the cervical issue that you already know about. Worst case, even if it is an std, most are treatable if diagnosed early, so you did the right thing making an appointment right away!
And pleeeeeeeeze, do not stress over what you’re going to tell your boyfriend.. wait till you find out the results, and then we’ll see about that! plus, don’t forget it’s just as much his responsibility as it is yours, you did nothing wrong considering you haven’t done anything behind his back and you didn’t lie to him about anything! And it may even be something completely unrelated to std’s that’s no big deal! Whatever it is, i’m sure it’s not as bad as you think.. please let us know soon as you get back from the doctor.. i’ll be so anxious and i’m sure everyone else is worried and cares about you as much as i do too!!
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congrats, thats so awesome!! i can’t wait till i can do those moves, they look so fun!
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ps i just watched one and it’s absolutely beautiful.
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I didn’t get the chance to watch those vids, but whatever the music and dance, you do NOT need to apologize just because some people are closed-minded! I’m not saying that everyone has to like it or agree with it, but you do have the right to express yourself in anyway you wish, as long as you’re not hurting anyone, and everyone should accept at least that! People can choose what they watch.
In my opinion, They’re the ones who should be apologizing for leaving rude comments and making you feel bad for being kind enough to share with others something that is so meaningful to you, and for innocently expressing your faith in a way that is personal to YOU and helps YOU.
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ohhhh ,i hope you figure it out soon cos your vid on youtube isn’t available in my country (because of the song) and i can’t watch it!!!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cry.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cry.gif
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OMG sascha, that doesn’t sound good! you should call your doctor asap. When did this happen? and are you swollen? i know that this sometimes happens due to infections (and in rare cases can be purely psychological). Call either a dentist or general p. Hope it’s nothing and that it goes away soon!
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i don’t know if you’re doing anything wrong, but chances are you’re not. this move hurts in the beginning. it’s mostly a matter of practice and gaining strength to hold your self up.. make sure to hook your foot behind the pole, so that your weight can be supported more (if you’re not already doing that). eventually, your skin becomes resistant to the pain.. maybe someone else has more tips.. good luck and keep practicing!
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i’ve never heard that of that before, but a while back someone had made a post about their knuckles hurting a while back. If they stop hurting after you’re more warmed up, then maybe you could try warming them up before you start. Maybe moving them around a bit as if you were playing the piano? i bet once your fingers get stronger the joints will stop hurting too. hope someone else knows more about this!
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awwww thanks everyone.. i never make a big thing outta my b-day, so i’m blushing now.. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_redface.gif
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Hey foxyrei.. i’ve been poling for about 5 1/2 months, and for the past 2 weeks i was having the worst practices! Even basic moves that were fairly easy for me by my 2nd month seemed really difficult, and i had to really struggle to get into them! Not only that, for some reason i couldn’t dance either! i felt like i was a beginner all over again..even my spins were wacky. I was gettin so frustrated that i would just quit mid-way through my practice. And then just when i was beginning to think that i just cant progress anymore, and that i’ve just been lucky up till now gettin some moves (and that my luck had run out)…. bam! i had the best practice ever yesterday!!!
It happens to all of us.. to some for just a day, and to others (like me) even for a couple weeks or more. I hope it was just that day for you, but either way, i bet your next ‘good’ practice will be your best so far!I’m sorry about your husband, the fact that that happened around the same time with your "off day" and the event with your best friend probably caused you to feel more upset about it than you normally would’ve. But i agree with glitter about just explaining it to him, and that men tend to be more thoughtless in terms of foreseeing what could cause an inconvenience to others sometimes.
About your friend, i would’ve been a bit annoyed too in your situation! I don’t know if she has any kids- but if not, i think that people who don’t have kids sometimes don’t realize the responsibility that comes with it, and that more planning is required! or they just forget (i’m one of those people too). And i don’t care if this sounds cheesy, but i really do feel like i’ve developed some friendships on this site (especially through PMs and emails), even though we’ve never met in person. So don’t feel bad about venting to us!
Sorry so long again, this is why i’m trying to cut down on posting a bit, cos i always tend to write so much!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif -
i’m sorry aliira.. my mother had one too, before having me. i hope you feel better soon.
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yippeeeee skippeeeeeee i did straight edge!!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_bounce.gif
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First of all, congrats on gettin in the grad school you wanted! Secondly, i agree with jacq 100% (and i’m sure you do too) that grad school is definately a huge priority. You can pole-dance forever, but grad school is temporary and of course it would be better off to do it now.
It sounds to me like your dad doesn’t know about you having a pole. I understand that he’s very conservative, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t tell him. And if he doesn’t accept it, well then you’ll just be back at point A, with one possible option eliminated, so you have nothing to lose.About telling him: it is EXTREMELY important the manner in which you bring it up. First impressions are the strongest and longest-lasting. If you seem nervous, or sound like it’s something naughty, or that you don’t think he’d approve, then chances are he’ll pick up on it and he’ll really think that there’s reason for him to not approve.
And whatever you do, don’t make it seem like a big deal (example " i have something that i need to talk with you about")- first reactions to that phrase are usually along the lines of "uh-oh, i’m gonna hear something baaad", and then this predisposition will actually cause the person to interpret the whole thing as something worse than if you hadn’t started off that way. Just be casual about it: say that you got a new exercise pole to work out on, and since you really like it, you’d like to put it up in your room, but you just want to make sure that he knows that it won’t mess up the ceiling in his house. This way, it sounds like you’re asking him for permission because the ceiling is an issue, and not his permission because it’s something provocative that he may not approve of. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif Take the attention away from the pole itself and what you do with it, and focus on the ceiling, the joist stuff, and how the equipment works on pressure. The more ‘normal’ you sound about it, the more normal he’ll perceive it to be. This may also be easier over the phone than in person. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cat.gif
If you don’t like this idea, you can always just straight out say how you feel.. that you’re worried he’s not going to allow it because he’s so conservative, but that really it makes you happy and keeps you in shape, or whatever else. I personally would just go with the first idea though, because it really isn’t something that should be a big deal. I’d tell you not to say anything, and to just casually put it up, but i assume you wouldn’t risk doing that. Bringing it up beforehand will be good for getting it off your chest sooner, and testing his reaction ahead of time. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_albino.gif
Don’t get me wrong- i don’t think we need to hide anything or be ashamed, need anyone’s approval, or even lie to people about pole-dancing, but sometimes it’s to our benefit in cases like these, to just say things in a different WAY, or to just focus on a certain feature.. especially to people who just won’t understand it in any other way, and super-especially if it will make the difference between being able to have a pole or not in someone else’s house. good luck and sorry this is soo long!!!
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wow pole-twista i’m soo jealous!! congrats!!! arite, now pass over your secret tips!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/bom.gif
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jacq- it sounds like we do have to thank Henry and asshole boss for this site, lol!
wow veena, i find it very interesting that there was not one, but TWO events that happened within a day of eachother, to prevent you from opening a studio!..and that then things proceeded in a way that allowed you to create this site (ex. your husband finding another great job). I don’t know if you would’ve been happier owning a live studio (sorry don’t know how else to call it), but creating this online pole community has helped, benefited, and brought together so many people from all over the world (many of whom also don’t have classes in their area/country), and that wouldn’t have been possible if the studio wasn’t online. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_sunny.gifTracy welcome to the site! I’m sorry to hear about your leg and that you had to quit running. And i hope the ‘investigation’ helps to find you an effective treatment for the ulcer.. And how can you not fall into depression when you unwillingly have to quit something you love? I really hope that poling does open a new door (and i think it will) and that it can be an even better replacement of your previous passion (i beleive it’s therapeutic for depression as welll!). Just make sure to take it slow and to check with your doctor first about your leg. Thanks so much for sharing your story!
Trena, LOL. i know, funny how i started this thread without telling a story of my own.. i only have one such story that’s related to pole-dancing, but i think that it’s still in the process of being unfolded, so i don’t want to jinx it by talking about it yet! Silly, i know, and i don’t really believe in jinxing, but it’s really too early to put it together just yet! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_geek.gif
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i’m glad you all liked it. Haha butterflii i’m a bit cheesey in other ways anyway. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif
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hey static and welcome! you’re more likely to get the best advice if you post a vid, the girls here are really helpful. the only tip i have that might help you is to concentrate on engaging your arm muscles, and think about allowing your upper body to fall back as you invert. I’m not an expert, but i don’t think there’s anything wrong with giving a little small kick with the outside leg until you’ve built up more strength (this is a bit different than jumping though).
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That’s really weird.. hope everything’s ok (i’m pretty sure it’s not a big deal). let us know how it turns out!
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hi redpassion, welcome to the site! As far as space goes, the more the better, although many people have been able to ‘get by’ in pretty small spaces (you just gotta be really careful in that situation, and will start to feel restrained at some point). I would think that at least 2 arms length would be ok, (but more would be better). I’m sure you’ll figure it out once you start using your pole.. good luck!
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Jacq i wasn’t hoping for anything in particular, and i’m really glad you responded! I believe that there’s no such thing as "not deep enough" when it comes to topics like these.. only you can feel how meaningful or ‘deep’ something is for you! I really enjoyed reading about your experience in discovering pole dancing..and i love your interpretation in terms of how you suddenly found something physical that you were good at, the events that led to it, and what it means to you.. thanks so much for sharing that!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_rendeer.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_viking.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif
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omg that was insane!!!
