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I don’t like the article because I don’t think it’s necessary to overly police people for what they do for fun. I worked at a Mexican restaurant and could recount many things that could be deemed offensive by some people’s standards. Just a lack of understanding imo, but I wouldn’t call it blatant racism. I would go and joke about people’s “fuax pas” to my co-workers, stuff happens. If people drink and are happy then I’m happy too and that’s all that matters. People can choose to learn about me or they can choose not too. It’s a free country.
It’s admirable for people to be so compassionate and considerate toward others, but also, it doesn’t need to be forced fed either. MeganJoan, you deemed what is and is not appropriate, I apologize, but do not feel that is appropriate for you to tell others how to behave or dress. I do not mean this as a personal attack by any means, I just feel the article was a tad bit excessive. You have good intentions and that’s appreciated, but not everybody has to behave the same way.
I hope people have fun, life is hard enough without nitpicking like the article did. I’m pretty positive many of you do not have ill will when choosing to represent a culture other than your own. It’s a fun way to learn about others too if you’re interested.
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I LOVE LOVE LOVE her DVS’s!!! They’re a great price on digital download. Since you already have the flexy ones I would try out just one of her sensual ones just to see if you like it before you buy the other one. They aren’t trick heavy, she teaches her signature fluid style, so some of it shouldn’t be too rough on your shoulder. She definitely puts me in the mood and mindset when I do her DVD’s!
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Omg, that article is so stupid. Please dress as whatever you want for Halloween or a routine and don’t overthink it. DanteD what you described is absolutely not offensive and I hope you have fun and enjoy yourself.
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Hahahaha Phoenix Hunter. I live in Mobile now! Small world.
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If you’re really desperate and want to drive a bit. There is one in Mobile, Alabama. It’s an hour drive or so. The studio is called Detour.
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Dirdybirdy may not be considered “Elite” to some. She hasn’t done competitions or placed but she is one of the more well known polers. When she won polers choice award I read somewhere on her facebook or a comment she made somewhere on a post that she felt embarrassed because she knows she isn’t as good as Felix or Marion. She’s popular and people love her. She showcases her fluidity and strength well plus has a decent personality. I think people like her so much because she is more “obtainable” and “realistic”.
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This story is very disappointing to me. I can’t believe how rude some people can be. I would imagine after dealing with something like that that someone would have a difficult time going to try a different studio because of a fear of something like that happening again. It might be beneficial for you to try another studio or call ahead and see how their attitude is. I’m very sorry that this happened to you and that some people think they are so superior “we have the best trainers here”.
I’m sorry you dealt with racism as well. I feel the media has stirred the racial pot a bit and some people are being more open with their hatred. I’ve experienced some negative things as well.
Please don’t quit. It can be rewarding and you won’t experience that judgement here and veena has some great lessons.
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Lol that Vegan comment was very interesting to me I hear Vegans are very healthy. I read somewhere that Kundalini does affect the adrenals quite a bit. I stopped doing it for for right now cuz it was making me feel tired and drained. I probably need to do it and I may start again one day and see I can eventually get used to it and get passed to the point where I don’t feel like that anymore.
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I swear I had adrenal fatigue at one point too. As you say I can’t self diagnose but it seemed that way. I don’t have medical insurance or can afford any holistic medicine atm. I can’t wait till I have my degree, medical insurance, and some cash for holisitcs. I plan on getting so much stuff done to take care of myself but right now I just have to take care of myself the best I can and then later I can go to doctors and have then help me out. I have no tips for you but keep us updated if you figure anything out 😀
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I loved reading your story RaspberryAlice 🙂
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I’m fixing to unleash an ugly side of my personality. But maybe others feel as I do. Veena I think it’s compare and despair. I know we’re not supposed to but I think everyone does.
I wasn’t good when I started and I wouldn’t consider myself a “real pole dancer” until I could climb the top. When I finally climbed I wouldn’t consider myself a “good pole dancer” till I could at least do a spin. That turned into a basic invert which turned into a chopper, then to an Arial chopper, then to a jade, and so on and so forth. I don’t know when it will end for me. With all the new tricks and things from all over the world coming out I will never be “good”.
I used to satiate my feelings of unworthiness by dancing and just feeling great after. That doesn’t even do anything for me at the moment which is why I’m going to get into weight training atm because that gives me a good adrenaline rush right now.
My mind is rather unhealthy. It got to the point where I would do a new trick and wouldn’t care because my thinking was, “who cares, everyone has seen this a hundred times before. It’s nothing special. What’s the point of posting it.”
I think this happens in every sport and pole is becoming more popularized with gymnasts, circus people, and people from different countries raising the stakes.
There is also something else that has crossed my mind lately. In the lifting community there is a natty vs unatty movement going on. It’s basically people arguing over steroid use.
This got me to thinking that I don’t know what my pole “idols” are doing behind closed doors. With the stakes being raised I’m sure they feel the pressure as well. What if the people I am looking up to are getting to their point by methods that I’ll never be willing to use. Therefore I will never be like them. We kind of need hope to progress and steroid use kills hope a bit but I’m not mad if anyone who chooses to do it and i know they still work hard. I can admire them and their dancing but I can’t look up to certain things and expect to get there with 10 years of hard work and consistency. I’m not saying pole pros are doing steroids, but what if some are and some could be.
This is all a problem within myself and if I show a laymen my pole dancing they think it’s great. All I see is floppy feet, a belly, and how it’s not as smooth as I want. I try and show someone a clean chopper I’ve worked hard at and they’re more impressed with the ending Scorpio that wasn’t as hard to achieve. They think the trick I’m showing them is the scorpio lol. To the laymen I’m great, to the pole community I feel like a little unworthy tadpole in a pond of like tiger fish who can do like fonjis and stuff. Lol.
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The dreaded ego! It’s so hard to control. In strength training when someone lifts beyond their means and he injures himself they call it ego lifting lol. In yoga when we stretch to a point of injury they say it’s ego stretching.
I’m unhappy with my pole strength lately and have gotten a bit bored of pole and decided to begin strength training to get better for pole and feel good about it again. The environment is so competitive, and… Toxic. It promotes self hatred in a way. Many of those people have hurt backs and injuries. They don’t build as fast as they want and they begin injecting steroids from God knows where so they can be like their idols. They bulk and cut aka overeat then starve. They pick at every body part and they pick at each other. I’ve begun to feel sorry for men and I’ve realized they face body pressure as women do too.
Sorry for my little off topic thing but I guess what I’m trying to get at is that I hope you’re not too hard on yourself because you are injured. It’s such a natural human reaction and anyone in any sport or hobby feels pressure to be the best or be so excited that we forget to rest. I hope you have peace mentally and physically and find the safe space you are looking for 🙂 I hope you find your point of happiness in just being!!! I know I’m looking for it too 😀 Such a hard thing to accomplish lol.
I hope you can safely and peacefully get back to where you would like one day and this is just a detour that benefits you in the end and happened for a reason 😀
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ALL THAT FROM INVERTING???? You need to tell your story because I feel like many people think that’s a myth. I knew your were injured, but I didn’t understand from inverting. Despite that, you seem to be strong minded and positive. Hopefully you can tell your story because it’s so human nature of us to want to over train or do things so fast! Maybe you will be able to invert one day but your set back will have helped someone else to stop and think. You’re flow will be amazing though, well it already is. Hopefully you find happiness and release with dance. 🙂
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Awesome question this is how I feel! I have an easier time with arms and especially legs I can push to fatigue. But as soon as I start feeling discomfort in my abs, it’s hard to push my brain past to where I make progress. I thought I was the only one! TY for the awesome question!
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I think you’re doing good right now. You’re base level of strength seems better than mine when I began. You’re too hard on yourself. You’re also doing spin which in my opinion is more difficult.
PS. I used to work with a beautiful model who would always complain that guys didn’t like her or “bark up her tree” as she described it. It happens to models too so don’t be so hard on yourself.
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Lazarenka. I like your “he should be happy watching me read a book, much less dance for him.” The mantra I repeat often is, “the day I feel like a need a man and he doesn’t need me is the day I loose.”
If he doesn’t appreciate the time you take out to do something for him then send him on his way.
He dates gorgeous women and you’re gorgeous. I saw your video. He’s seen what you look like with clothes and is pursuing you… he’ll probably like you. We’re meaner to our bodies then men are.
Take him down a couple notches. Maybe he has student debt or something. Remind yourself that he is human and is not perfect nor can not have every facet of his life together and in no way better than you just because he’s a doctor, his looks, or his dating history.
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OMG! I called some companies and they were all closed cuz it was around 7. What a fantastic idea though and a bargain! I’m kind of scared to mess my pole up cuz poles are expensive. But I assume they know what they’re doing to have a business. I think I might go through with it.
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What type of company would I call and ask them if they could do that?
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Princess buttercup. How much money did that cost you?
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There’s only one studio in the area I’m at. The first thing I did was call and ask about their poles.
They didn’t know what I was talking about (maybe the person was new…) but eventually I found out they have chrome 50 non spin…
I’m a college student and on a limited budget and I’m not going to spend my money on an expensive studio that is very limited in my opinion.
I have a chrome .45 spin at home so… what’s the point.
I was also weary of their teaching methods and felt it was unsafe as they hired people with virtually no experience… (I asked them about that too) I also saw videos on their youtube page of instructors falling while teaching…
IF I had all the money to blow maybe I’d give it a chance but I got a negative impression.
If I was under the impression that the teachers were awesome maybe I would spend money despite the poles.
I don’t have the cash for a limited studio or the doctors bills when they instruct me into an injury.
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I saw it as someone who was proud of a hobby and maybe tired of tip toeing around polite society.
I don’t put stickers on my car in case I need to run from the scene of a crime, and I fear the sticker may identify me.
To each their own. It’s not the first sticker I’ve seen and though I don’t personally have them I don’t get upset.
I’m not in her head but maybe she wants a little bit of attention or a reaction… So, who is she hurting.
Why should people be shamed for standing out or deviating from the norm.
Facebook said, as social media always does: Let’s shame her back into a box everyone. Maybe our shame will make her take it off and stop making people uncomfortable.
Fact is, most of society thinks pole dancers are attention seeking whores.
(But there’s so many other fitness routes they could take but they choose THAT ONE, GASP!!!)
She could have went neutral with it and put “I love pole sport”. Nothing wrong with that. Some people still would have said. “It can never make it into the Olympics it’s only cardio, they call that a sport, hah!” Or maybe “oh a pole vaulter, cool.”
What if it is snarky. Why should pole dancers silence themselves and be considerate toward the feelings of people that shame us in the first place.
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You’re having this problem with a chrome pole, I’m so jealous!!! I live in the south by the water so it’s humid here. We have central AC downstairs and window units upstairs. My pole is upstairs. My pole sticks best in the winter when I don’t have that window unit running. I’ve thought about bringing it downstairs but less privacy. I feel like the window units do drag in moisture and make it less sticky so maybe it would be a solution for you. I’ve also heard about people using humidifiers or dehumidifiers depending on their needs…
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Wow I would have never known that judging from your videos! You’ve kept in great shape despite your issues. So many people give up because injuries and health problems can be defeating. I’m glad you’re not, and staying active hopefully will prolong your need for a hip replacement.
BTW I couldn’t touch my toes at 21 lol now I can but it took time. I’m glad you can. I think I read somewhere that people generally have an easier time gaining either back or lower body flexiness. People generally aren’t both and if one comes easier to them, the other may not. Back flexy is easier for me but legs are a struggle. Don’t be hard on yourself, be happy with what progresses you make, and stay safe!
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The comments on that are disgusting, I hate male dominated facebook groups cuz they usually get very disrespectful and degrading toward women… Then you have a few snipey random women coming in and agreeing with the guys to try and make themselves seem cool and like one of the guys… Cool sticker though!!! You got a lot of people’s attention. I wish people would get over pole dancing and stop projecting their hang-ups on us, but probably not in my lifetime… It’s fun, endorphin rushes are great. Dancing is fun lol let’s get over it now. If you choose yoga as a release and had a sticker in a flexy yoga pose then nobody would have said anything… PS. Judging from this post it seems army wives have a lot to go through, much respect. But it was so cool that you had some support from people you know too 😀
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This thread is making me want to toss my chrome out the window 🙁
