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Also I've noticed a couple of people that are on here, from Reykjavik!
You guys maybe wanna get together, we could hang out? >_>
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Also, ladies, I thought we would all appreciate this!
http://bustygirlcomics.com/tagged/comics
I can relate to… a lot of these. I think all of us can! I also liked her little thing in this website about "Am I busty enough?"
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Lyme- Oh, to have Double D's again! lol!
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First of all, I don't consider calling it a "stripper pole" a derogatory thing- it's kind of like calling a Katana a "samurai sword." That's not technically what it is, but that's how people know it socially, so… it's just a name.
Next, I'd also like to point out that I don't find the connotation of "stripper" to be derogatory, because those ladies work HARD, and need respect for what they do!
That said however, this person is using both of these terms in a derogatory sense, and sounds like he's trying to express a certain amount of insecurity when it comes to your hobby. He's trying to belittle you and make you feel bad, likely because he feels that pole dancing is not a "normal thing to do," and it likely scares him because of the unfortunate stereotypes that we place upon strippers (being loose of morality and addicted to drugs, that kind of thing).
My suggestion would be to ask him why he feels so unhappy about your ownership of your dance pole, and why exactly these things are not acceptable to him. Tell him point blank that you did not allow his girl to dance on your pole, as you had specifically been asked by him to enforce that rule.
It's not anything about YOU that he's judging- he's placing his own stuff on you. He's handing it to you and asking you to deal with it so he doesn't have to. The tricky bit here is that you don't have to accept it. Many people in our lives with continue to hand us their "stuff" and ask us to deal with it- we automatically take it because we feel that's the right thing to do, especially if pleasing people is a high priority in our lives. But, we don't need to take it on, and it's not OURS to fix! It's THEIRS. So, if they throw it at you like this guy, and you don't take it and continue to be happy, unphased by his comments, he will have to deal with his stuff, because now it's made a mess on the floor.
You can just help him out by asking pointed questions, such as the ones I suggested: Why does he feel so unhappy about a hobby you choose to do for fitness? What's wrong with strippers?
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Unfortunately there is no longer a studio in my area… however, there used to be one!
I did go to classes now and then, but as previously mentioned, the cost and time commitment of them ususally were not in line with my life at the time, so I was very limited. I know that, if I could have been able to afford to go consistently, my progress would likely have been far faster than it has been.
I very much enjoy watching DVDs, but there are many out there that don't really discuss the move- they show it to you a few times, then in slow motion, and then move on. It's not really "teaching" as it is showing you the move and hoping you get it! But, there are also many DVDs out there that work very well, such as Jamilla's.
I really agree with everyone else here- it depends on how you learn, and if there is a pole studio in your area that teaches in a similar way to that. It depends on your funding and the time in the day you can devote. Most humans enjoy that sense of community when starting a new hobby, which is why we're all here on the forum 😉 It's also why a lot of people benefit from classes.
Honestly, you could always give a shot to both and see what you like best. It might be a little more costly at first, but in the long run, you can figure out what helps you out the most. Get a couple of DVDs (I highly recommend Jamilla's), take a few classes at a local studio if you have one, and see how it goes.
And, for sure, get some of Veena's lessons. They're awesome.
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Hey hon, if you find anything good, let me know! You and I have the same bust size- though my band size is a 30, making me an H cup (ugh!)
So, I would love to know if these things work for you, because I've not really had the chance to look around… but I know the choices are thin :/
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Wow, I may be a chesty lady, but a lot of the issues sound very similar!
I generally agree with the idea of garment tape and pasties- I also find that halter tops fit me really well, and no matter where the shifting happens, they never seem to get out. Have you been going for molded cups, or soft? I would think that the molded cups would be a bit less effective for a lady of smaller chest size (just guessing, though!).
Now I'm gonna go cry about sports bras for $6…
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Also it seemed too good to be true… but I guess that is in fact the case! Woo!
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Alright! I just wanted to check that with you ladies, because I really wasn't sure, and if that WAS the case, I didn't want any disappointment!
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Hey Ladies!
I just wanted to point this out: It says in the rules of the website "each unique visitor," which basically means (I believe) each IP address that visits the site.
That also means that once you've clicked, you're counted- multiple clicks doesn't help >_<
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That's very interesting- I've heard other stories about how humans were made in Greek mythology as well. Man was made, and then one of the gods liked them so much that he gave them lots of gifts, including fire! And Zeus got angry with him, and sent him away from the humans (which were only male at this time), and Zeus took away the gifts. However, the god (who's name escapes me right now) came back with Fire, and gave it back.
Zeus got so angry with him that he banished the god to the end of the earth, where his liver would be pecked out by a vulture (I believe) every day for "eternity." He eventually got out, but that's another story.
Zeus was so upset that Man had fire again that he sent something to trip them up: he made a Woman. Her name was Pandora, and she was given a box. She was told never, ever to open the box! Then, she was sent down to be with the men, who I'm sure found her quite fascinating. She opened the box (because for Greeks, women were irrational creatures ruled by emotions, and were not actually considered "people" and thus couldn't make logical decisions), and let loose all the problems of the world.
I might have it slightly jumbled… but I LOVE stories about how all this stuff came to be! I love hearing about mythologies and ideas on how the world, humans, and all of everything came about. Greek is one of my favourites 😉
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Technically I don't know if I'm strong enough to do it or not- I never tried. It seemed like a strange and very awkward way to get into a move that I would NEVER use during dancing, and I didn't previously see the point in attempting such a thing.
I am beginning to see the merit now- likely some of my muscles will protest the strangeness of the move, but if I get the technique correct, I am sure I won't have issue with the strength part of it.Much like that thigh grip- my issue is all about technique https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_rambo.gif
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Unfortunately, I do not currently do Veena's lessons, but I did a while ago and I recall how the move is done. It never really seemed feasible to me, as my shoulders are… imbalanced at best. My rotator cuff muscles are pretty bad, and I get tendonitis in my shoulders quite often.
I can give that one a try, though, and continue working at my shoulders as well.
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Well, the tricky bit with the reverse handstand is that… I can't do that one. I don't even have enough upper body strength to do a single, proper pushup, let alone a handstand! It has a lot to do with the way I'm built, in that I have a lot more weight in the middle and lower (I'm 60% leg) so it gets a lot harder when I try to do one, rather than from the knees. All my power is in the legs and hips!
So… That's kind of not currently an option. I'll try working on it though!
Otherwise, I've been trying to just work on it with my hands (or arms) on the floor, as close to the floor as I can, and see how much of the weight I can take with my legs before I start to freak out.
I've always had a fear of being upside down, unfortunately. Lord knows why I chose pole dancing as a thing I love! Lol! I guess it's just teaching me to get past the fear.And yeah, Zoey, I can do cross knee releases and such just fine- even get my back arched all the way down so I can see the floor! But, that's because I trust the hold a LOT, and because I'm not starting off staring at the ground. If I am looking at the ceiling, I'm perfectly fine 😉
I suppose it really is just practice! I've got a couple of other moves I can work on this one, so I don't get too frustrated though.
If you guys have any more tips for me, just let me know 😉 It's good to hear I'm not the only one a bit freaked out by this move!
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Portableninja- Wow, good to know that about the ways of cheap versus expensive heels! I might have to start doing a little bit of replacing 😉 Y'know, one day, when I have the money! I've been creeping various websites, looking at the "every day" heels that Ellie and Pleaser make, and I have to say… some of them are fabuolous! I've got a bunch of them bookmarked. Those steampunk heels will be mine one day soon >_>
Verticali- While I do live in Canada, unfortunately the company I'm with is American, and quite cheap when it comes to health coverage. I don't think Orthotics are even on the list! I'll double check though, because that is an amazing idea that I totally hadn't thought of.
I don't know if I have weaker ankles or anything, though I do know that every now and then they just fall apart on me. Good thing I'm flexible and can bend that way! Else I'd have cracked my feet off a few times now 😛 But, I understand how it goes. We just gotta work on it 😉
Thank you so much ladies, you've all been so supportive and encouraging me into my heel fetish 😉 I'm going to try to wear more and more as time goes on. It should also help me to not wear out my work shoes quite as badly! 🙂
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A lil Mynx rotator, in Stainless steel, is their most expensive non-removable pole (and I don't know if I'd recommend their removable pole, seeing it in action…), and it's at $289.
The cheapest they have is the coloured (thus powder coated) one, stationary, at $189.
I don't think these include shipping though?
Anyways, I've got a Lil' mynx stainless steel, it doesn't rotate (yet!), and I've been using it for four and a half years. I love it, it's my baby! I've certainly gotten used to the idea of grip on this thing… I've never really danced on anything else, so… you figure it out after a bit!
I certainly find them stable, and strong. I can be pretty rough on it. The only issue I've had so far is the fact that the joists in my current place are metal, which means there's not much for the bolt to screw into and grip. However, we seem to have come up with a fix for that, for now!
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I have a SS at home, and being that home is the only place I dance, I know what it's like when it just won't co-operate! Stainless steel can be bitchy sometimes.
Some of my little tips would be:
-Make sure you're not dry. Yes, moisturizer is bad when polling because it can introduce oils, which immedaitely get onto your pole and make it SLICK AS HECK. But, if you are too dry, you won't stick! Make sure to drink lots of water, and try to moisturize on days or at times you won't be poling a while- such as at night, or just after poling.
-Warm up both you and your pole! The pole won't be sticky when it's cold. Seriously, you gotta dance on it to make it warm! This is partly why my warm up is dancing- it helps me get warm, and my pole gets warm, too! Just warming it with your hands, spinning (the friction) and such is enough.
-Clean your pole, and sometimes your hands. I use windex, it doesn't do anything bad for me, sometimes can make my pole slightly more grippy (since the sweat from my hands is coming off the pole, I imagine), and water cleaning off your hands will work wonders! But, these are both only for a short time- brief moments of grip to help you get to that wonderful warmed-up pole state.
Otherwise… yeah, grip aids work. I'd rather use them for moves that I seriously CANNOT grip otherwise, no matter how hard I try. Like using 4wheel drive when off-roading in a jeep- you don't want to use it all the time, get stuck, and then not have anything to fall back on! Use it when you actually get stuck in "normal" to get yourself out.
My skin is naturally smooth and dry, so I feel your pain, hon. Keep at it! I love my pole, and I wouldn't trade it in for the world. Even if it does come off all jerk-face now and then 😉
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JeHanne, I actually don't drive cars. On the safety idea… well, in my mind, a car is a giant killing machine that I WILL eventually hit someone with. So, every time I try to drive I sort of have an anxiety attack.
But back to shoes!I've got a couple of really nice pairs of shoes, and some of them have insoles in them. But, I have noticed that my toes and everything really start hurting, so perhaps I'll work on leaning more weight on my heels, instead! That would be such a big help!
And yeah, I'm pretty picky with the size and fit of my shoes- of all my clothing, really. If it doesn't fit, I won't wear it, so I don't buy it! I'm quite picky… but when I do find something, I'll love it forever 🙂
Thank you so much, ladies 🙂 If you have any other suggestions on comfort, I would love to hear them!
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I dance! I do some low-stress free dancing, with just very simple spins (front hook, fireman, usually) and just…y'know, hip circles, footwork, body rolls.
I find that it generally wakes up my joints, gets me into the dancing, and I feel happy doing it!
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I would love for my dancing to be more balanced between shoes and bare feet, but… I agree with LittleEngine! I feel like an awkward deer in my heels! I can, at least, walk in them now.
To be fair, I don't practice much in them, and my pole is kind of short, so the taller I get, the less pole I have to play with. One day… One day I shall have vaulted ceilings!
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Also, here's a very amazing, sweary kind of guy explaining, and then creating, some Dubstep:
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CapFeb- usually you can determine Dubstep by it's excessive use of Wubwubs, and sounding generally like Drum and Bass slowed down, with almost no good climax.
I mean.. what?I suppose there are a couple of songs I have that border on Dubstep that I could tolerate Oo;
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As everyone has said, the length of time can vary. I've not been very dedicated in my pole dance, and after 4 years, have only recently been seriously getting into aerial moves. However, if you know how your body works, you workout SMART as well as frequently, I would say that you could, potentially, achieve this within two or three years of consistent practice.
That said, I agree with the others; everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. It could take you four years to get the flexibility, but only one and a half to gain the strength. Or vice-versa. How your body is made, and what it's good at, will create a very special, specific and unique journey for you.
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Depends on where you live! I know that up here in Canada, we have very little geared specifically toward Pole (not that I've seen, anyways) but you can take Fitness trainer's certification, and specifically in Group fitness, thus certifying you to be able to teach classes and such. It also all comes with an amount of insurance, though you have to keep up with your training as well.
I imagine that the UK and other countries would also have dfferent things available!
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SkylerWither- could you explain some of those exercies for me? Or even better, put up a video? I also have issues with core strength, and I would love to have more variations of core exercies to keep things interesting!
This thread is awesome 😉
