[Neke]

I feel like I should admit I was trying to do aerial cartwheels at work last night. How the hell is that physically possible!!? Lol I figured out how to do cartwheels 1 handed, and then I was too scared to try it without the hands. You are insane Lola, I quit! Also, my arms are killing me. Not sure if that’s from handstands or cartwheels or pole, but I’m going to blame you – it’s not the same muscles that are usually sore.

[Neke]

Hey,
I’ve bought shoes and costumes from http://howcool.com/catalog before – even with the insane shipping prices to Australia, they are still cheaper than anywhere else I’ve found that delivers here and they have everything. I used to find what I wanted on the Pleaser website and then order it from howcool. They would usually arrive in about a week, but they were coming a very long way – I think they send them out as soon as you place the order.
Free shipping for the US too.

[Neke]

Guys, I just wanted to say that even though some of you might not think you look sexy, you’re probably wrong. Show those terrible videos of you rolling awkwardly around on the floor to a guy and he will nearly die – you never think you look as good as you actually do! I’ve seen a lot of girls start out, and they never ever think they look good, but they’re almost always wrong. The only time they actually do look terrible is when their toes aren’t pointed. Sexy moves like leg spreads look really trashy and horrible if your toes aren’t pointed.

So it really doesn’t matter what you do, you will still look sexy. It comes naturally https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif Flop around like a beached whale on the floor if you want… so long as you’re pointing your toes I guarantee it will look hot. I’m sure I can rustle up some videos of me sprawled all over the ground after falling off the pole if nobody believes me – still massively sexy https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif

[Neke]

That is amazing, congratulations! I’m sure you will be wonderful https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif
Don’t worry about what people might be thinking – everybody goes through tough times and they will be able to see that you’ve come out the other side as a strong and beautiful women – Your scars will probably make your students admire you even more. If they do notice, I’m sure they will think more of you for it, as you’ve obviously turned into a wonderful, successful person despite the troubles you’ve had in the past. Not many people end up doing what they really want to do, so I’m so happy you are getting closer to your dream!

[Neke]

Oh yay, you live in Brisbane! I’m at the sunshine coast uni – long story, but basically the journalism course there is a billion times better than the ones in brisbane. You’re pretty much guaranteed a job when you finish, and you get to do a lot of hands on work with local papers, which you can’t really do in brisbane.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY btw, even though I’m an hour late https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif I hope you had a good one, free of stress.

If you’ve been into showies then I’m sure you would have seen me – i’ve practically lived there for the past 4 years. I would say come in and say hi, but I just saw your video and I’m afraid you’ll show me up! And as for the construction, I live on the northside right in between where the airport link and the northern busway are going – 24/7 they are either drilling, demolishing or clanging things about outside my door. Not cool – I feel your pain!

[Neke]

What kind of place do you work at? Are you a professional dancer?

I work in a club, although I’m probably not that professional

[Neke]

I think you just get used to it, although I don’t think the pole I use is as fast as normal ones because It’s so old. Every once and a while they readjust the screws and oil it, and I nearly go flying! I think learning on spinny is a lot easier than than learning on static and trying to swap to spin mode, because you just slowly get better and slowly start going faster, so it’s not a sudden thing. I love going fast!I only ever get dizzy when I twirl in little circles (kind of like pirouttes) around the outside of the pole. Maybe it’s because I’m dancing in a huge room instead of in a small one – I think if the walls were closer it would be worse.

[Neke]

I’ll throw in some visuals https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif

Most of you have seen the stage at my club -if you haven’t, it’s a spinning platform with a main pole in the middle and 5 poles around the outside. There’s a metal bar connecting the outside poles in a circle around the top – the whole thing looks kind of like a birdcage (they even used to have a ring in the middle!). I’ve seen so many accidents on that thing, almost all of which involved alcohol. Some of the girls like to do stupid things like climb up on top of the connecting circle at the top and do tricks off it… not a good idea especially in summer when it’s slippery, but you can’t really stop them. One incident that sticks in my mind was when a girl was hanging upside down off the connecting bar, doing something acrobatic like she usually does in her stage show, but she’d had a few too many to drink. She slipped off the bar, went SMACK on the stage, and then SMACK on the ground. There was blood and ambulances… She wasn’t back at work for a while, but when she did return she had a massive scar running from her lip across her face towards her eye. It’s the first thing you notice when you look at her, and it’s there forever.

Other serious injuries involve mostly broken bones, with the occasional bone snapping and cutting through the skin, twisted ankles… lots of ankle injuries and more broken toes than you would expect, especially when stupid girls are drunk and stumbling in heels. Let me tell you from a lot of hand on experience of people crying to me, that a broken toe isn’t pleasant. You can’t wear shoes, it takes ages to heal and there’s nothing they can do to help it – they don’t make tiny toe casts.
There was also a broken hip bone from one of our more athletic dancers, and a lot of buggered up knees. Our pole is pretty short, but it still doesn’t end well when you come crashing down and land awkwardly – in an inebriated state, your brain isn’t functioning well enough to tell your body how to land in a way that causes minimal pain. It goes ‘whoops’ then BANG (and then the sound of sirens in the background).

Hopefully that will help to get the idea across that alcohol and poles don’t mix https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif

[Neke]

Frida, I was actually just looking for Fleur’s vid as well – I wanted to watch it again. There was one bit where she slowly lifted herself from lying flat on the floor into an elbow stand without actually appearing to use any muscles… it just kind of happened. That has stuck in my mind since I saw it… and I love the way she slinks all over the floor.
Fleur! What gives? Put it back missy! I wanted to gape in awe at you again.

[Neke]

I don’t know if this will help or not, but I’ve got 9 hours of classes left before I finish my degree – 3 weeks and two assignments until it’s over. I’m trying not to get excited until I’m done… I’m terrified though – don’t be in a hurry to get it over and done with, because I hear growing up and getting a real job is overrated.

In the 3 years I have spent at uni, I have gone out drinking and partying maybe… 8 times? That includes New years eve and all the other festive times when you’re supposed to have fun. This year I have been intoxicated a total of 1 time – that was on my birthday, and it was while I was working. I figured if i had to work on my birthday I may as well act like an idiot.

So you’re not alone, don’t worry. When you’ve finished and you have that piece of paper, at least you’ll be able to say that you did your best – you studied your ass off and you got good grades. That guy has it good now, but if he gets used to cruising through life without having to put in any effort then he will start to expect everything to be easy and one day that will bite him on the ass. Don’t worry, the time will fly by and when you’re rich and successful with your dream job it will all be worth it. The horrible stress and the all-nighters and the fingernail biting and that feeling of panic when you realise you’re nearly out of time and you’re not finished… sprinting across campus to hand something in 1 minute before it’s due… screaming at a slow internet connection when you’re trying to submit something electronically and it’s not working and the time is running out… passing out on your keyboard … it all builds character, and it’s a part of the whole uni experience https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif

Also, whereabouts in oz are you? Pole jam anyone?

[Neke]

I’m excited about this one – I don’t usually post videos publicly because they’re always too sexy and skimpy rather than fitness orientated. But if everybody else is going to do it then I won’t worry https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif I’ve done a few already but they’re all sloppy because I’m tired when I do them… I’ll try again tonight though https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif I’m looking forward to seeing everybody else’s!

[Neke]

Not that it needs to be said again, but congrats glitter! I knew you’d be awesome https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif

Unfortunately, that’s how it usually is – the poles are slippery, the music is bad and the shoes are annoying. As for the poles, I always wipe them down with a cloth and spray bottle first – It looks silly, but at least I don’t fall down. After 2 songs they usually get slippery again, and I have a list of moves I can do without needing great grip – it’s handy to figure out which tricks still work on a slippery pole because sometimes you don’t have an option. Especially when some of the girls are stupid and wear moisturisers, it just messes the poles up for the whole night.

As for the music, I hate techno. Some clubs have dj’s and you get to choose the music – I worked in one where they had everything on a computer and each girl had her own folder. When she went on stage the dj would just pull up her folder and put on the songs she likes to dance to. In clubs like that you have to pay a dj fee though, to pay for the service. In mine, its just a computer with a heap of songs on random.. if you’re nice to the boss sometimes they’ll put music on but not always. In 4 years, I have had to dance to some shockers… included are mmbop – hanson, yellow submarine (three times now, not cool), the nutbush, the macarena, bat out of hell (it goes for like 10 minutes and we have to do 4 songs)… and the bob the builder song. You just get used to dancing to crappy music after a while.

As for the shoes, plastic tops (for grip) with ankle straps are the best on stage – i’ve seen so many shoes go flying, ankle straps are important! If I don’t have ankle straps, I get a pretty ribbon and wrap it around the top of the heel and then my ankle, so at least they don’t go flying.

Pole twista – i’m not sure how it is in the US, but here every club is different. Some clubs have a varying percentage – if you work 2 days in a week, the next week you only keep 40%. if you work 5 days, the next week you keep 90%. A lot of clubs have a door fee – you pay a certain amount to work for the night. Some clubs change it depending on the time you start – so if you don’t want to pay a door fee you just start really early. The later you rock up, the more you pay. It’s usually higher for busier clubs, and also higher on weekends. In some clubs they sell tipping money to the guys, so you have to hand it in to the club to get the money back, and you only get a percentage. In some they just trust you to hand your tips in and you keep half…

Most clubs here have a bond as well, in case you’re interested. You have to pay a certain amount when you start – usually a few hundred. If you do something wrong or have to leave in bad circumstances – like not showing up for a shift, punching a customer and having to be forcefully removed, getting too drunk to stand and being sent home or fired – they keep the bond. It kind of keeps the girls in check, they don’t misbehave because they lose their cash.

In mine, there is no door fee, but the percentage is only 55%. We keep our tips and the girls are friendly. The bond is the pay you make – they give it to you on your next shift instead of on the same day. If you make $300 one night, and just don’t show up for your shift, you lose that money. If you’re late or do something wrong, they can fine you and take that out of your pay. There’s much more to it than just giving them money, but usually if you do the right thing you don’t lose anything.

[Neke]

I just wanted to say that I knew straight away who had posted this thread as soon as I read the title… who else but Sascha? https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_rolleyes.gif

And you are all laughing about this, but it is NOT funny when there is a club full of people and the stupid music skips and turns itself off, leaving no other noises but a ringing in your ears and a very unladylike sound. That is all I have to say about that.

And as for "tightness" (giggle) I don’t know whether it’s me exercising without realising it or pole dancing in general, but since I started dancing EVERY muscle in my body has become stronger.

[Neke]

Oh that sucks, I’m so sorry!

I don’t know much about ceilings or x poles, but can you just put it up between the ceiling beams, without having the whole ceiling there? They’re the important part aren’t they? Maybe Veena will have a solution https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif Don’t despair, I’m sure it will happen eventually!

[Neke]

Hey guys, thanks!

Is there any way to check that it’s a genuine x pole? This seller says they’re a certified x pole stockist – is there any way to check that?

This is the one I’m looking at – Have to buy it before tomorrow though! What do you guys think?

http://cgi.ebay.com.au/NEW-X-POLE-DANCE-POLE-SPINNING-STATIC_W0QQitemZ320360803327QQcmdZViewItemQQptZLH_DefaultDomain_15?hash=item320360803327&_trksid=p3286.c0.m14&_trkparms=66%3A2|65%3A1|39%3A1|240%3A1318" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

[Neke]

We should consider ourselves lucky! A girl started at my club a few weeks ago with some kind of disorder.. I can’t remember what it’s called, but her skin is really sensitive and she bruises really easily. She came back the next day for her second night and her knees were swollen to twice their size and they were bright purple. Her legs had BLACK (like… BLACK) bruises all over them, each one about as big as a whole hand, and the backs of her knees were black as well. I thought mine were bad… I’d never seen anything like this, I was stunned. I should have taken pictures. I had bruises almost that big when I started skiing, but they weren’t even comparable to these. They even sent her home for a few days because it was just that bad she could hardly walk (I made her take my bottle of arnica!) A week later they were all still there, just a lot lighter. So no matter how annoying the bruising can be, at least I know it can be worse!

[Neke]

I probably won’t be able to help, but I’ll try https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif
I like to get into the superman from a hip hold – my hands are free, so I brace on the bottom with my right while bringing my legs closer together, and bend my body out and reach up to grab the pole with my left. Superman!

With the knee hold, I just couldn’t let go at first… then eventually I could hold it for a little while until my bottom leg would slip and I’d try to grab myself before getting bashed into the pole. I couldn’t do it when I was slippery or the pole was slippery… eventually it didn’t matter. Then I could hold it a little longer, and now I can get into it while I’m spinning and hold it for ages. I think its just like all the others – eventually you get used to it and the bruises go away. Good luck! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif

[Neke]

Ahh poor little glitter! *hugs*

I hope you feel better – sex and the city has gotten me through a few sicknesses and I can vouch for it’s healing powers! Eat lots of cupcakes for me, you’ll be fine https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif

And Azriel, I could kiss you!

[Neke]

Lol Trena, thanks!
I’m the exact opposite – if my partner is going to a stripclub I don’t want to be in the know at all – I don’t want to hear about it, I don’t want to have anything to do with it. I don’t think he would ever get a lapdance, but if he did I really really really don’t want to know. I wouldn’t ever want him getting a dance with somebody – I know all the tricks, I know what goes on, and even though there’s nothing X rated or below the belt, the whole thing is designed to put X rated ideas in their brains. It’s not sex, but it’s very sexual and it’s supposed to be an intimate experience, just without touching anything naughty. There are a million little things… like in my club there is no mouth contact. But some of the girls will breathe on the guys necks to simulate mouth contact. There’s no touching below the waist, but you make them think that you’re GOING to touch them below the waist and then not do it, and watch the disappointment all over their faces. Fun! But I don’t want HIM getting excited about the idea of somebody else doing that! He doesn’t want me coming home from work and going ‘Omg I had this awesome dance with a muscly army guy…’ same goes for me. I don’t want to know about ANY hot chicks he was checking out.

I’m insanely hypocritical, but that’s how I feel… I don’t mind him going into clubs with his mates, mostly because he is the kind of guy who wouldn’t normally go in there anyway. I think after being with me so long and meeting so many of my friends from the club he can appreciate women without lusting after them, especially when it comes to pole dancing (when I’m watching pole dancing vids I’ll often see him look up and go WOAH!)… but the whole point of a lapdance is to encourage the lusting. If he went out with his friends and got a private show and I found out I wouldn’t be upset, but to know the details and to see it going on are very different.

And just for the record, I would definitely fly halfway across the world to hit strip clubs with Sascha – I can guarantee that will be much more fun than with your man!

[Neke]

I’m a little late, but I thought I’d throw in my 2 cents.

As most of you know, I work in a club, and as a dancer I wouldn’t recommend taking your partner to a strip club as seedy as that one sounds. My ex got a dance with a girl once – even though they just sat and talked, watching my partner with a pretty, half naked girl on his lap really got to me. If he’s suggesting it, it’s most likely because he wants to look at the girls, which will bug you no matter how much you don’t want it to.

I really, really hate when girls get dragged into the club by their partners. They usually go in thinking ‘it’s ok, they’re probably all crack-whores, I’m hotter than them’ and then they get in there and see that the girls are all decent chicks with smoking bodies, and they start to get irritated with the whole thing. It can become incredibly offensive if girls are hanging around and they clearly don’t want to watch you dance. As a dancer, I never talk to a guy with a girl on his arm. If I want to communicate with the couple, I will sit down with the girl. Guy? What guy? At least that way nobody gets jealous and the girl has fun.

Girls on their own or that actually want to see the dancers are another story – they are much more fun than the male population.
Guys are like ‘Awesome! Girls! Sweet.’
Girls who are actually interested are usually like ‘OMG THIS IS THE BEST NIGHT EVER YAY OMG EVERYTHING IS WONDERFUL WOOOOOOOOO’
I do find that I drop the act a bit with girls as well, and talk to them more casually than I do with guys – maybe it’s because they’re closer to normal people https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif

I don’t like girls – I’m sticking with men for the time being – but we do a lot of double shows with other dancers (nothing raunchy, just an extra set of everything). I also do the occasional dance for girls or couples, and they are incredibly awkward if the girl has been talked into it and isn’t very keen. Like Veena said, I will usually just start talking about clothes or hair… she doesn’t want to see me dance around on her boyfriend, and she doesn’t want me dancing around on her. A few days ago I got booked for a dance with a couple and I’ll admit I screwed up my nose when they told me. But it was with the sweetest, cutest little chick I’d ever seen, and her boyfriend was just watching. She loved every second of it, he loved every second of it and they left hand in hand with giant grins on their faces – you have to want to do it for it to be fun, otherwise you’re just throwing money away. I find that if I’m giving a dance to both people, it’s important for the couple to feel close to each other as well – usually I’ll encourage them to hold hands or for him to put his hand on her leg, so it becomes more intimate between them and more of a shared experience. I’ve had some very uncomfortable and not very pleasant experiences over the years before I figured out how to manage the situation… so be very careful, because it can easily end badly. But it can also be a lot of fun https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif

And thanks glitter! You make me blush… but there are a zillion dancers in clubs who are a zillion times better than me, lol. Redke71 is around here isn’t she? She always leaves my jaw on the floor!

[Neke]

I just wanted to add that it has to be something you feel comfortable being referred to – something you could respond to every day. I ran a lot of names through my head before I found something that felt like it fit. I eventually chose something the same length as my nickname, starting with the same letter – it didn’t feel as weird at first to have everybody call me that. Try not to choose something too strange either, because I find guys have trouble hearing a name over loud music if it’s something completely foreign to them.

I’ll chuck out a few too, in case it helps anybody – Holly already has a nice long list though, and she’s covered all the bases.

Envy, Rose, Tara, Charlotte, Libby, rocket, krista, nadia, kat, melody, heidi, charlie, sunkey, holly, mishka, nina, dotti, alexus, liza, tia, jemma, deja, flick, rogue, maritious, imogen, scarlet, candy / lipstick (I find girls who use those type of names are usually trashy, but there are always exceptions )

And for guys, the only names i’ve ever come across are Buck and big jim – that kind of thing.

[Neke]

That was really, really well put charley. I’d like to stress the importance of your relationship with your partner as well – It took my ex about 6 months before I started to believe him when he said he was ok with it, and then a few months later he blew up. He was not ok with it. My partner now was friends with me for a long time before we got together and he knows me, he knows what I’m like, he knows all the details about what I do. There has to be a lot of trust there – he knows I’m not going to meet up with anybody after work and he knows I will always stick to the rules.

Charley spoke about cars – most girls don’t drive to work. A lot of them drink and then catch a cab home. I purposefully drive because I’m not stupid enough to drink and drive, so that way I can never have more than a few drinks in a night – I’ve found this works really well. People offer me drinks constantly, and I would probably take them if I wasn’t driving, so this keeps me sober all night. It’s a party atmosphere, but a lot of girls forget that you’re not there to party – you’re at work.

Don’t tell anyone your real life story, name, address, etc.

This is really really important, especially now with things like facebook and myspace – one of our hostesses who uses her real name was being harassed on facebook a while back. I have a fake name, a real name, and a fake real name. When people are bugging and bugging me for my real name at work, I give them my fake real name. They then shut up, thinking that they’re special and they’re much closer to me than anybody else in the club. I tell the intelligent guys what I do – I’m a journalism student – but I make a joke about it when anybody else asks. This week I’m a dolphin trainer. Last week I was an astronaut – It’s obviously fake, so they don’t think you’re just lying to them, but when they’re chuckling over it I can change the subject. I also tell them I live in the suburb where my last house was – that way I know the area, I can talk about it if they ask (small talk like construction, traffic and that really good restaurant on the corner), but they can’t follow me home.

And Butterfli, I could cut my hours – but then I wouldn’t make that much more than somebody working a normal job. The only difference would be that I don’t work very often and I get naked, so in my opinion there wouldn’t be much point. As charley said, there are a lot of benefits and it is a lot more fun than any other job I could be doing at college – you just have to be more careful than in any other job. So the tiredness is worth it and is easily fixed by a red bull, tiger balm and arnica.

[Neke]

I agree, I’ve seen it go bad a lot as well. But mostly girls get overexcited about the money and spend big and don’t prepare for the bad times, when there isn’t as much. When girls get messed up in my experience, there are usually drugs involved… just stay the hell away from drugs. It starts with just one, or just sometimes, and then they’re living on the streets. Some clubs have a higher number of girls who do drugs than others (hardly anybody at my club would do drugs at work, and there are a surprisingly high number of girls who are squeaky clean).

So yeah, i just wanted to stress what Rouge said – choose the club carefully.

[Neke]

I figured I should probably reply to this or I might have glittery cupcakes thrown at me. Please keep in mind that while some of this might sound a bit wild or whatever, it is not wild in a sexual way. Just mostly us being idiots. This is a massive essay, but I figured that’s what you wanted. If I just said ‘do it’ or ‘don’t do it’ I’m sure you would roll your eyes and kick me https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_tongue.gif Be aware that I don’t usually talk about this either, I like to leave the person that I am at work, at work (which is probably why I"m funny about posting videos). I don’t mind if it helps you though.

First of all, this is from my club. I think clubs in America are very different, but I have no idea. I’ve worked at other clubs here that were similar, but made me act slightly more civilised. For example, my friend and I got in trouble at another club for chasing each other around the room trying to attack each other (she has those g-strings that unclip on the sides and gets really annoyed when I undo them… I can’t do my bra back up while it’s on the right way so she loves undoing it… so we constantly chase each other when we’re bored). We do not get in trouble for doing this at my club, which is the main reason I love it. I can be loud, or outrageous, or talk in pig latin – one of my friends loves to yell my name out at the top of her lungs when I arrive at night. They don’t discourage this stupid behaviour and I can act any way I want. If I’m in a stupid mood, I can act like a retard. One of the girls goes for the guys who just want to chill out and have fun, and she breakdances in her lapdances, and does cartwheels, and the whole thing is just crazy. The other night somebody spoke in an obviously fake french accent all night and nobody noticed – i love talking to drunk guys in a fake dumb, ditsy way that they take seriously, but everybody else knows is me mocking them.

So I love being able to be whoever I feel like being and acting in a way that I would otherwise never get to do in the real world because It’s not socially acceptable or even remotely normal. The fake name helps with this I think, because there are no real-world consequences for your actions.

The second thing I love most about the job is that it is not hospitality. When somebody annoys the hell out of you in almost any other job, you have to smile and take it. If somebody says something I don’t like at work, I can respond in any manner I feel fit… I can insult them (which is much more fun if you are classy about it and don’t get angry)… when I started they used to really piss me off and I slapped a lot of them, or I’d kick them.. this would occasionally get me in trouble. Now I have a more lighthearted attitude, so I’ll wedgie them or spill a drink on them or something – pisses them off, doesn’t get me in any serious trouble. If somebody is being an ass though, they will usually get kicked out straight away anyway. My favourite response to somebody being rude is to make a big fuss and say ‘Oh no, I’m so sorry, I really have to go – I’ve got something really important I have to do! Sorry!’ and then kind of hurry away as fast as you can, and stand in the corner and stare at the wall with your back to the guy.

The third thing I love is that you get to meet a lot of interesting people. I can’t think of a single profession that hasn’t been covered.. school teachers, engineers, mechanics, chefs, bar tenders, salespeople, marine biologists, government officials, football players, counterstrike competition finalists.. I’ve had drinks with a rock band… I don’t even remember who, but it was something like Korn. Their voices were hoarse from yelling and one of the girls fainted she was so excited to meet them. I"ve also met Brad pitt’s cousin, Drew barrymore’s personal assistant and a princess of some African place – people like to make crazy shit up.

One guy was a professional lego builder – he goes to shopping centres around the country and erects insane lego buildings for display – I didn’t believe him so I found one of his friends who confirmed it.

The fourth thing is obviously the dancing – I love learning tricks, and spinning fast, and I love having a constant stream of guys wanting me and not being able to have me. It’s quite empowering to say no when a muscly, gorgeous, tanned, sweet guy asks you to go home with him. (It’s against the law here to even meet somebody from the club for coffee after work. I always say no.)

Don’t worry about your weight. There are some guys who won’t like you, and there are some guys who will. This doesn’t happen often at my club, but I have heard guys say some nasty stuff about girls, and about me when I started and was heavier. Nasty remarks about girls that were too skinny, or had a huge ass, or no ass… tiny tits, fake tits… There is no way to please everyone, and there will always be guys who don’t like you. If a guy comes in looking for a skinny blonde, he will not like you. If he comes in looking for a black chick with a huge ass, he will not like you. But for every few guys who doesn’t like you, there will be somebody who does. And he wont’ just like you, you’ll be his idea of a perfect woman (everybody has a different version) and he will want to spend the whole night with you and then you’re rich. A lot of guys will book a girl purely because she looks nice… but most of them want to talk to her first, to see what her personality is like. They do actually care about that. Girls with perfect bodies but no personalities don’t make much money here.

Now the bad stuff…The whole thing is a mindfuck. You either learn to deal with it or you don’t. Rejection is hard… I have a rejection meter. It slowly creeps up as more people reject me, once one of them says yes to a dance, it resets back to zero. Once it reaches the top it starts flashing and I tantrum.

Somebody will tell you that your ass is too big, the next person will say it’s a shame your ass is so small… it gets really confusing, and it can really knock your self confidence around a lot. I would be in tears at work a few times a week my first few months, and then at least once a week for a few months after that. It really gets to you. There are often girls in tears… we call it stripper stress.

Having said that though, now nothing bugs me. And even in your first week, getting up on stage and having people tell you all night long how beautiful you are is kind of awesome. I never used to think I was beautiful.. at first I was like ‘yeah right, whatever.’ After enough people say it, it really sinks in. There’s no denying it when hundreds of people are telling you over and over again.

I think I"ve done everything right since I started. If I could change anything, it would be to have this carefree attitude I have now, back then. But I couldn’t, because it has come from years of dancing. Before I started, I asked my friend who introduced me to it what she had gotten out of it in the 3 years she’d been dancing. She took me to her wardrobe, opened it up and said ‘ a shitload of handbags and shoes!’ She thought that was hilarious.. I did not. I manage my money well, I don’t go out partying, I don’t do drugs, I don’t drink it away. I’ve been on a heap of ski trips, which makes me insanely happy. I have a nice car, and an expensive comfy couch, and a heap of material possessions… I set myself a list of things I wanted to save for when I started, and I bought them all. Then I created a new list, and I did that too. Now I want enough money for a house deposit and a trip around the world, and then I will quit. Then I will have gotten something out of all this at least, instead of just partying like some girls do. Save for specific things and have a budget and put everything else away, is the best advice I can offer. Don’t ever even try one tiny little drug. Don’t drink much at work – only have one or 2. You feel sexier when you’re drunk… you are not.

One last thing, some clubs do have all skinny girls with fake boobs and blonde hair. You have to be a size 12 or under to work at love and rockets here. I would only go there for a bit of quick cash, it’s not somewhere i would want to settle down. Pick the club carefully… go in and figure out the atmosphere, figure out the rules. Some clubs here allow mouth contact, or at least they let the girls get away with it. My club does not – you need everybody following the same rules. If the girl next to you doesn’t mind grinding up against a guy and you will not do it, you will make less cash, so pick a place where everybody does the same things.

I told myself at the beginning that I would do it until I stopped having fun or stopped making money – you need both of those things. I have had a ball working as a dancer – I have had some terrible nights, but I usually end up meeting at least one nice person who makes it all better and restores my faith in men. You need to have a line and not cross it. I dont’ always make a lot of money either – I can count the number of nights that I’ve made zero dollars on one hand, but they are still out there – it’s a risky business. There is a possibility you could work 10 hours and not make a cent.

If you want to do it, do it. I have had fun, but I don’t know if you will. I have seen a lot of girls get all excited, start working and then never come back. It messes up your mind and your body. I am always tired and grumpy. It’s not the same tired you get from a normal job. My muscles are always sore – You know when you lift so much that your muscles are tired and sore? And then you keep using them and they hurt so much you want to cry? Working at a club, they get that sore… and then you have to do stage again and again, after you thought you were about to die. It’s not good for you and it’s not healthy and I never see my friends because I sleep all day… but I still love it.

I can give you a million good stories and a million bad… I’ve been in tears, have been handed a $100 note and the tears dried up instantly. I’ve been in a great mood, and some asshole has treated me like shit. It messes with you and you have to be able to take the good with the bad to do it.

[Neke]

In response to the questions about private settings on youtube, you can’t make it so just your friends can see. You have to set it to private instead of public and then specify each individual person you want to allow access to (they have to be in your friends list)

I’m not going to encourage people to do that instead of posting on Veena’s site though! I think most people on here would look past the sexiness or whatever and just appreciate the pole dancing. Having said that, I’m not comfortable at the idea that people might judge me for working in a club so I haven’t posted any on here yet – all the girls I’ve met are wonderful, but there are a lot of people here who I don’t know. I don’t send my vids to many people either – less than 10. If I wanted to show lots of friends I wouldn’t bother setting it to private.

Congrats again on the move skivvies! Be sure to take some pics https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif