NaughtyLibrarian
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Posts like these really make me appreciate my family! I never even thought about keeping pole a secret. I posted all about my first class on facebook. My mom thinks it's great. She's really impressed with the things I can do and has told me several times how proud she is of me. She's seen the positive changes in me since I started and she's really happy for me. And my MIL! She's crazy! She brags about me all the time, to everyone. She also makes some of my costumes and loves to casually drop into conversation "Oh yeah, I have to work on my DILs pole dancing costume tonight." just to see people's faces. I am blessed.
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I had the chance to meet her at the Midwest Comp last weekend and she is just as sweet and adorable as she seems. She actually DID start out as a cheerleader! Her winning performance at Midwest was even more insane than this one, but the video isn't up yet. Definitely one to watch!
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I ordered a pair of shoes for a costume once and when they came they had rubber soles. I took them into a shoe repair shop and the guy put leather dance soles on them for about $25. They worked great. (Well, the shoes worked great, I was a little unsteady!"
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Check out Amber Richards, too. She's tall and absolutely amazing!
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Mine's on carpet and I dance in ballet slippers. I'm able to pirouette and it leaves the tops of my feet and ankles free for climbing.
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I've been struggling with this recently too. Usually I don't care and will tell anyone and everyone about pole dancing, but I recently broke my toe and have to wear one of those special shoes. Which brings me to work. My coworkers all know, and that's fine, but I work at a public library with LOTS of kids and they all want to know what happened. So far I've just been telling them I was doing a handstand and whacked my foot on a wall, but their questions have started getting more in depth. I think I'll start going with aerial/circus arts.
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It sounds like she's usually a pretty level-headed kid and that this guy is out of character for her. You're telling US that she's really smart, capable and makes good decisions (usually), but have you told HER that. Not in an OMG, I though you were smarter than this way, but really earnestly. I'll preface this by saying I have a 3 y/o son, not a teenage daughter, but yes, I was one of the difficult ones, and I've spent some time doing volunteer counseling with teens and parents who were having difficulties. The main thing I've heard from teens is that they feel like they are not being heard by their parents. I would suggest telling her that you'd like to talk again, but that more importantly you'd really like to listen to what she has to say. Make it a whole bonding day if you can. Shopping, mani/pedis (if that's your thing) or maybe something you guys did together when she was younger, but haven't in a while. Sit down to lunch someplace nice. Then tell her all the things you've told us. How smart she is, how proud of her you are. Tell her why this guy, to you, doesn't seem to fit with all those things you know about her. Then ask her what you're missing. What does she see in him and what is she getting from the relationship. In all likelihood her reasons will make you want to shake her and scream "Don't you see that he's manipulating you?", but try to refrain from doing so. (This is why being in a public restaurant is a good idea :P) Instead, thank her for sharing with you and tell her you know that she is smart and capable enough to make good decisions. BUT, that you will always be her mother, always worry about her, and always be there for her if her good judgement tells her that she might need some advice or help. Tell her you love her so very much.
Good luck.
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You're 5 1/2 months post-baby and you're in competition condition!? Honey, that is NOT nothing! I've only competed twice (didn't place either time) and done 2 regular performances, and it IS different. It'll take some time to find your "competition rhythm". If you even want to find it. There are a lot of great polers out there who have decided that competing just isn't for them. It sounds like you know where you went wrong (choosing a song you didn't connect with) and that has nothing to do with how good of a dancer you are. Don't get too down on yourself. Spend a little time with a pint of ice cream (or your vice of choice) and then go hit the pole!
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That is cool as hell.
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If you go to the USPDF Fan Page on facebook, they have released a lot of videos recently. I just saw Alethea's handcuff routine for the first time. Amazing!
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Ha! My brother just texted me asking what I thought of you! I was like, well I actually know (of) her from a pole web site and she's freakin' awesome!
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The valdez can be a really pretty transition from the floor to standing. I used to do it as a kid in gymnastics and would love to learn it again, but it's going to take awhile!
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You were awesome! Loved the audience reaction to the drop split!
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Give you one guess!
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I can't wait to see it! I wrote to Leno back when he was a douche, but of course, he wasn't brave enough to have you on his show. Now he can suck it! And if you get any hate mail, just post their addresses here and we'll trample them with our stilettos.
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Me too! I just turned 35 and I'm damn proud of what this body can do!
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Ah, pole and research librarianship. I love it when my worlds collide! 🙂
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Well, she was in the Master's division, which is 40 and up. Maybe she just hit the wrong year when creating her account. I don't think you can change it.
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Yeah, definitely check out Mattcrobat and Swift Ali from Jasmine Dragaons. It could also be this guy, Evgeny Greshilov. Another Russian dancer.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7W9xdymmS3w
As for his concern about being seen as gay, remind him that hanging out with a bunch of uninhibited, scantily clad women is unlikely to draw scorn from his peers. 😉
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Here's a post from a research blog. It contains citations from primary sources at the end. I think it also answers your question about the term "exotic" dancers. HIstorically, the women who performed these dances were from (or advertised as from) exotic locations, such as the middle east, India or Romania (gypsies). While audiences enjoyed being titillated, no one wanted to think that "good" European descended American women would do such things.
http://blog.readex.com/hoochie-coochie-the-lure-of-the-forbidden-belly-dance-in-victorian-america
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You could try wearing a pair of microfiber seamless undies under them. Black would be barely noticeable, or you could have some sexy red or hot pink peaking out.
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Neither Pantera nor Aerial Amy do the TG handspring. Amy has a great blog post about it.
http://aerialamy.com/blog/2011/11/01/tuesday-tips-twisted-grip-handspring-from-the-ground/
She also has a post about not every trick being right for every person, but I couldn't find it.
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I find playing up the artistry aspect helps too. If I'm talking to someone who I know might not "get it", I have Natasha Wang's Black Swan performance ready and waiting on my phone. Very few people can watch that and not be awed.
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I also have a stubborn belly. It's genetic for me too, everyone in my dad's family carries their weight in their middle. It has been steadily decreasing, but it is slow. I was just clearing old photos off my phone and saw some pics from about a year ago and realized how much I had changed. That was encouraging. Bust out some old pics from 30 lbs ago and congratulate yourself! It's actually very motivating. As for exercise, I love the boot camp class at my gym. It provides cardio and strength training all in one, but mostly I just like having a group to work out with. Keeps me from cutting corners. Just try to find something that you don't hate. As they say, the best exercise is the one that you DO!
Nutrition-wise, if you have the resources, see a dietician! They can tailor an eating plan specifically to your needs and you know that it will be healthy. There's so much information and mis-information out there that it can be almost impossible to wade through it on your own.
And my one "diet" tip: I am obsessed with Greek yogurt. I've been making my own salad dressing with it using powdered dressing mix, Greek yogurt, a little vinegar and skim milk to thin it out. I LOVE giant salads, but dressing always packs on the fat and calories. Making my own means that instead of making my salads unhealhier, the dressing is actually adding nutrition, since Greek yogurt is so high in protein.
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I had the same problem. I remember inverting, going through the the steps to get into position, and then realizing it was my bad split. I was just hanging there, upside down, thinking, "Well, shit…". Then I got down and started working on my opposite invert.
