[LillyBilly]

I don't want implants…

I like their size, they are just… flat. My dr estimated tha after a lift they will be D cup (right now they are DD). I'm happy with that.

[LillyBilly]

Thank you 🙂

[LillyBilly]

Thanks, everyone 🙂

No one knows how long should the recovery take?

[LillyBilly]

I've consulted with a plastic surgeon and I was told that I will probably not be able to breast feed if I'll do it.

The thing is – I don't want children in the near future (I assume I will want them some day, but right now I really don't want anything to do with children), and my body issues are bothering me now. I don't want to wait untill I'm 35 to be happy with my body. Aan of course, I expect that pregnancy will bring a whole new bag of other body issues with it…

[LillyBilly]

I think that if you do so much physical work during the week, maybe you should just forgive yourself for not having the motivation to do more physical work for fun. I don't think that forcing yourself to do somthing is going to help your motivation, nor make pole more fun for you. When I busy with other things, I just accept that my pole progress is slower.

That said, I find that:

Taking classes helps me stay motivated because I learn new tricks I wouldn't have learned by myself.

When I practice alone, I try to treat myself to some "fun pole" first – I work on freestyle and dance, which are more fun for me than learning tricks, and it gets me in the mood for the more demanding work. When I feel really down I do only the fun part.

If it is hard for me to keep practicing once I've started, I work with a camera. This way I see all the problems with what I do and it makes me want to keep working to perfect my tricks.

Set up fun and creative goals. For example, about a year ago I wanted to make a clip with all the superman variations I could think of. I made a huge list of combinations of tricks and transitions that the include superman (I think I even invented one), and started working on them and filming them. I had great fun working on it, and it really pushed me forward superman wise.

[LillyBilly]

@RikkiL Yes, we also have several men and we don't have the problems I described. I don't know what causes this in gyms. Maybe the fact that there are much more men there? Maybe a different crowd? I don't know.

[LillyBilly]

Hi,

Some differences I've noticed (I'm making gross generalizations, sorry men):

Men may feel insecure in mixed classes, espcecially if they are new and the women do better than them.

Men tend to try to advance more quickly then women (to prove themselves?) , and sometimes act recklessly. We see that a lot in stretching lessons where new men always try to force the stretch, and in pole – they are the only ones to crush.

Men will typically be stronger and not as flexible as your average women. This means they will sometimes compensate for lack technique with their strength (just as women compensate with flexibility). It's important to notice when your students do that, although it is easy to get carried away with how fast they are advancing. Men can get injured from using incorrect technique as well.

Continuing with my previous point – while new male students may be very strong, they may not have the level of coordination and body awareness that is required to perform complex pole tricks. Also – their body may not be prepared for that kind of physical stress (joints etc…). While they may be bored with beginner level classes, they still need them. 
Maybe, as others wrote, it's a good idea to create beginner level classes targeted for men.

Our dance teacher always says the men in the studio dance more sexy than all the women put together! 😀 LOL!

Regarding how I feel about mixed classes:

While I think that it is a good thing that more men get into pole, I am a bit uncomfortable with mixed classes.

I am not poling for the workout. For me, pole is a very hard emotional journy – I struggle with my body image, I struggle with my social anxiety and I struggle with my sexuality. I always say that for me, every dance is a small war against myself.

I have this invisible shield that I carry around with me all the time. With metal spikes and stuff. And in order to win my small wars, I have to be able to take off that shield and let go during class. 

The fact that when I started poling I was working only with women really helped me do that. I find that places with mixed crowds (i.e – gyms) tend to have a different environment. Not as supportive. Men compete one against the other, everyone is trying to impress the opposite sex. They become a meat market. 

In this kind of environment, it's really hard to take off the shield.

[LillyBilly]

Thanks 🙂

We've practiced several times since I posted this and I feel that it's starting to come together…

[LillyBilly]

@portableninja I'm often told I dance sexy. I figure that the the best way to go about it is not to try be sexy, but rather – just think about sex. 

[LillyBilly]

It's as if in a relationship everything is "figured out" already, and it's impossible to create tension… 

I dance best for strangers 🙂

[LillyBilly]

My BF doesn't really care for pole dancing. He does like seeing me move because it turns him on, but all the tricks just bore him. So if I dance while he's around he will either watch me for about 30 seconds and then lose intrest, or immedeiately get all handsy, which is another way to say "I don't care for the dance", I think.

So I just don't dance for him. 

[LillyBilly]

I don't like touching my hair when I dance – I always have hair cream or something in it, and it makes my hands slippery…

[LillyBilly]

You can also use your shoulders to add volume to the movement. 

[LillyBilly]

Supportive and cute bras for women with large natural breasts (bras with "bones"). 

HALTER TOPS, SUPPORTIVE HALTER TOP BRAS OMG I WANT SOME.

Turtlenecks

Cheeky little pants. 

Sexy underwear that is not g-string (which looks good on precisely 3 women in the world). Victoria's secret has some cute models – I am especially fond of these: http://www.victoriassecret.com/panties/3-for-33-styles/lace-trim-cheeky-panty-very-sexy?ProductID=84566&CatalogueType=OLS

Nothing with rubber that cuts into the skin. All rubber stripes should be wide and loose. See Bad Kitty pole file brazil shorts: http://www.badkitty.com/pole/polefit-apparel/polefit-bottoms/brazil-pole-dance-shorts-8182.htmlPants should be low-rise in the front and higher in the back – it's a common cut here in the middle east, which really flatters women with wider pelvis.

Wide crotch area.

That thing badk kitty do with the back of the pants – I don't know how to call it in english, that makes your ass look delicious: http://www.badkitty.com/pole/polefit-apparel/polefit-bottoms/brazil-pole-dance-shorts-8182.html
I love it, I know some girls who don't.

Cute cropped tops (cropped either above or below the breasts), with long sleeves and holes for your fingers and possibly a hoodie: http://www.dancewearsolutions.com/MJ3220.aspxhttp://www.dancedirect.co.il/%D7%91%D7%92%D7%93_%D7%92%D7%95%D7%A3_P386_26303

I have this unitard, which is no longer being made: http://www.dancedirect.co.il/%D7%91%D7%92%D7%93_%D7%92%D7%95%D7%A3_P386_26303 
(sorry for the Hebrew). It looks cute on the model because she is a kid, but on me it's really tight, really cheeky, shows a lot of cleavage (zipper won't close LOL) and really flatters my somewhat curvy figure. This is my pole outfit that I get the most compliments on by far. The only problem is that it has no exposed skin in the waist area – maybe you could do something with it.

Generally, I love rompers and unitards, but most of the models I've seen are really ugly. It's hard to find something that looks good. Anastasia Skukhtorova usually chooses good models, but I couldn't find anything similar models online:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NCxK_1pYCC4
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=obC7vjVc8Rk
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LhrJD9qO5MA

For performance, I like pretty much the same, only nicer looking. Cloths that are made for exotic dancing are usually "too much" in my opinion – too shiny, too sparkly, too colorful, too everything. Again – Anastasia's outfits are good examples of what I like.

Hope this helps 🙂

[LillyBilly]

For me it is every move that requires me to balance with my head up side down "too far" from the floor. For example, I am terrified of handstands (but elbow stands are ok), Ayesha and all its variations, streight edge etc.

It really helped me to take it slowly. I've spent several months just learning how to use my core muscles to hold myself in elbow stand on the floor before I was confident enough to try (and nail!) my Ayesha.

I am also really afraid of doing moves you need momentum to get into, so I just try to use as little momentum and as much muscle as possible, and accept that it may take me longer to achieve this move than someone who just jumps into it.

[LillyBilly]

In my bag – 

Water
Pole clothing (shorts, leggings and leg warmers, bra, leotard, ballet slippers)
Grip aid
Mighty grip gloves

In my locker at the studio –

High heels
Long shirt, in case it is cold in the studio
Deodorant
Alcohol (for wiping the pole)
Vinigar (for wiping the pole)
Ankle weights
Energy bars for emergencies

[LillyBilly]

We just learn it as an advanced outside leg hang. My teacher prefers this variation because it gives cleaner lines.

[LillyBilly]

@bok choy  – LOL!!!

[LillyBilly]

@Juliana Dentata Being really sensitive to how people feel sound interesting. I can never tell how anyone around me is feeling – I just project whatever is going in my head onto them https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_confused.gif

But I can see how it can create a problem – I guess many of our normal interactions depend on being able to hide our immediate feelings about things…

Also SPEED READING – YEAH! I want this!

[LillyBilly]

@CreativityBySteffie – I don't know, maybe… The image at the top of the wikipedia article about synesthesia is similar to how I see words, only my colors are really "washed out" and what they write about numbers having a location in space seems right.

[LillyBilly]

LOL! That's an awsome thread!

I have very sensitive nose – I identify people by smell (I can tell who is in the office by the sniffing the air), I know who was in the toilet before me by the smell of their poop (or whether it was a man or a woman if I don't know the person), and I can tell when people are sick by smelling their breath from across the room.

I remember words with colors (which makes it really difficult to distinguish between words with similar colors).

I can raise each one of my eyebrows separately

I can make my butt chicks bounce really quickly 🙂

I can make a little tube with my tounge, rotate it 180' to each side and tie cherry stems with no hands 🙂

[LillyBilly]

Hi,
I've had digestion problems for the past 13 years or so, and eventually I came up with a method to regulate my bowl movements:

I don't like laxatives – you can become dependant on them. I use them only when I have an emergency.

Enemas are ok from time to time – use a simple water enema (no coffe or soap or any of the other stuff people put in it), but be careful – it can irritate your stomach, so don't do it for the first time before a show.

Water – drink. A lot. And drink water – no sodas no sweet or diet drinks, no hot drinks. Just water. I drink at least 2 liters of water every day.

I don't know much about the paleo diet, but if you are constantly constipated – maybe it's not right for you? Do you eat enough fresh vegetables (If I don't eat a giant salad in the evening, I don't poop the day after that)? Do you have enough fibers in your diet?

You can also take fiber supplements on a daily basis to regulate your bowels. If you do, DRINK.A.LOT.WITH.THAT. It can also cause stomach ache and may take some getting used to, so don't try it for the first time before a show.

Adjust your lifestyle – make sure you have enough quiet "poop time" every day. If you skip one day, the next one become much harder.

[LillyBilly]

Hmm…

965 https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_rambo.gif

[LillyBilly]

WOW! you are really strong! You inspire me!

What's the name of the trick on 1:36? It is so prety 🙂

[LillyBilly]

Maybe if you post a video, we'll be able to troubleshoot it…