ChevaleresseMommy
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My Kids are 2 boys(10 & 5) and 1 girl(1 1/2). All of them play on it. I find no harm in it at all. My 10 year old can do awesome stuff on it. No prior teaching. My 5 year old is good to. My daughter runs around it, but I also will do pole moves and have her in my arms. When I stop and put her down she cries. Personally I don't see a problem with it. It is starting to become popular. Its not distasteful at all and I think its an amazing form of Art. And it shows the true power and strength of the female body and mind. Shows how strong we truly are. My Fiancee tried it and was so sore for next 2 days.
To sum it up I feel its ok and personally I don't see any harm in kids doing it. I think it will make them more prepared for sports later in school. Plus it teaches that if you work hard, you can do amazing things. Just have to work hard. And as for the parents and what they think I feel its not their opinion. But thats my personal feelings.
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My Kids are 2 boys(10 & 5) and 1 girl(1 1/2). All of them play on it. I find no harm in it at all. My 10 year old can do awesome stuff on it. No prior teaching. My 5 year old is good to. My daughter runs around it, but I also will do pole moves and have her in my arms. When I stop and put her down she cries. Personally I don't see a problem with it. It is starting to become popular. Its not distasteful at all and I think its an amazing form of Art. And it shows the true power and strength of the female body and mind. Shows how strong we truly are. My Fiancee tried it and was so sore for next 2 days.
To sum it up I feel its ok and personally I don't see any harm in kids doing it. I think it will make them more prepared for sports later in school. Plus it teaches that if you work hard, you can do amazing things. Just have to work hard. And as for the parents and what they think I feel its not their opinion. But thats my personal feelings.
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How old are you?
I am 24 going to b 25 this month.
How long have you been pole-dancing?
Off and on for 2 to 3 yrs. Had to break for Pregnancy and recovery.
What got you into pole dancing?
I actually found out about it while I was dancing. I had to start dancing because my fiancee 30.00/hr wasnt enough to keep us afloat. So I started dancing and I ran into a girl that did really amazing tricks on the pole. I asked her how she did it and she told me its pole fitness. She didn't go into huge detail,but I looked it up later. I fell in love with it. Honestly I feel like if I hadn't learned about this i would not be the person I am today.
Why pole dancing and not something else?
I have never fit in and have always felt like I was a oddball. That and I have been judged my whole life. Bullied and so has Pole Fitness. Its misunderstood and judged. It kind of suited me and I turned out to be pretty good at it once i learned and practiced. Its art and it takes strength.
What makes pole dancing special to you?
It has helped me cope with my feelings and emotions. I had a very terrifying childhood and have always had issues talking about it. But it was always in my head, when I hopped on the pole I didn't have to think. Just dance and it gave me a little comfort and made each day less painful. This allowed for me to let my guard down and embrace my relationship with my man. My whole life I felt like nothing and a nobody bc of how my parents treated me. I come from a very broken family. I lived 19 years of my life in terror and fear. I experienced stuff no child should ever have to go through. I was bullied in school everyday 8th grade till out of High School. I tried to stand up for myself one time and in return for the rest of the year this girl got the whole bus to chant trailer trash. I heard it twice a day everyday. I had no one to talk to about it so I learned to feel no emotion. My parents didn't want to listen to me and if i cried i was weak. I wasn't allowed to cry. When I wasn't bullied at school I was getting yelled at and hit at home. My own mom made me feel so worthless, I wished she had aborted me. When i met my fiancee I was a wreck and very guarded. I didn't let him close to me. Shortly after we met I danced as mentioned above. I got into this and it helped me cope with my past demons. Im not over all of them because there are alot. But it allows me to feel good about my self and Like I am a somebody. Its made me realize that those who have hurt me were in the wrong not me. They had issues not me. That it wasn't my fault they treated me this way. It cleared my head enough to sort through these situations. Pole fitness saved me and my relationship. It means alot to me. I'm obsessed with it. I just wish I had more time. It also helped with the passing of my Aunt here this year. She, my grandma & Grandpa were why I made it thru my childhood and teen years. They were the little light I had in my world of darkness. But their safety and embrace only stretched far enough to provide me financially. As well to give me the love I needed to be able to love those I cherished in my life. My grandmother offered to buy me from my mom because of the life I lived in her care. My mom said no because than she couldnt get child support or food stamps. My grandmother told me one time she went over to my house and my mom had been gone for a couple days. My mom left me with a babysitter and they let me cry in bedroom. My grandma said I was filthy, hadnt been changed or fed. She took me home and my mom showed up 3 days later. Any whos as you can see my life wasnt the best. It has made me strong, but poling has helped me regain my confidence and find myself. Its amazing.
How did you first find out about Studio Veena?
I was looking for pole fitness classes because there were none in my area. It was the first site that popped up. I checked it out and loved the site immediately. Became a paid member that same day.
How much time do you spend on here? (hours a day/week/month)
It varies. Sometimes everyday for an hour. Other times maybe 1 or 2 a week.
How did you choose your tag (AKA User Name)?
Chevaleresse is French for Female Knight. And I am a mommy of three. They sounded good together.
I apologize if I went to in depth for this. I just started typing and ended up with that. Sorry if to long. Your welcome to use this if you would like
If need to get ahold of me feel free to message me on here or message me
This was a awesome thread. I loved reading everyones stories and think it was a good subject for you to pick for discussion.
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https://www.studioveena.com/users/view/500e246f-3d7c-4f03-bf15-36130ac37250: I'm sorry about your Aunt as well. Thank you for your post. I was considering doing one I just want to find the right song. If I hear certain songs or think about her I do cry. Its hard to allow myself to grieve because my parents told me when I was younger its not ok to cry. It showed weakness. So right now I feel super vulnerable. Thanks for taking time to post a comment. Your words gave me comfort.
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I did ametuer night . Typos
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I will be getting one, but not till after we move. This pole is amazing, I so wish I was in a house so I could get it.
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@ StudioVeena: Thank you, Im sorry for your loss as well. *air Hugs* It still doesnt seem real, but I know it is. We are waiting till my grandma goes and than hopefully moving. Need a fresh start.
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Thank you. Yea I think if my Aunt would have had a second opinion she may still be alive. Im so glad you made them listen and didnt stop till you knew it was right. You seem very strong and Im glad your overcoming the disease. Its a shame that these doctors have liscenses but dont do their jobs the way they should. They mess up alot here where I am. If your going to be in charge of saving peoples lives or helping them you should have to do the job correctly no matter what. Thanks again for your kind words.
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Hunny im bigger boned and curvy. I had two babys and have now started using poling to lose this excess weight n fat.I want to be sexy and feel good about myself. Since I have started doing it seriously I love it. The weight is coming off fast and my strength is better n better. My fiancee said flex the other day. He feels my bicep. He was like omg your arms are huge. They may be bigger than mine. Its kinda flattering though bc I like my guy to know Im equal as him. Pole fitness is amazing. Happy Poleing
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Its possible to do. I had my nails done one time and my grip just felt weak. I felt like I didnt get proper grip. have no nails but I like it that way.Im also a tomgirl. So nails arent my thing. But if you want to try to learn with them go for it girl.
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I apologize for mentioning Need new Dr. twice. A tad tired.
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Sorry I am a tad behind on this. I went to the doctor (Monday) and he gave me antiflamation meds and said I have runners knee(Peoria and chillicothe IL Drs. arent the best). So I have been taking it easy and kinda winging it because I really think my dr is wrong. I cant stay completely off it because I have 3 kiddos I take care of two are home full time. Anywhos Thankfully the fluid is going away. I think I may have Hyper-Extended it.
But I forgot to mention that last year in November I was at a wedding. It was time for Bouquet toss. I got the flowers but I slipped on my skirt when it went under my shoe(really slippery floor) So I ended up falling and all my weight went down on Problem Knee. I fell hard enough to leave a permanent bump in my bottom from my shoe! My dr told me not to worry. I think its time to find a different doctor becsaue he wont even refer me to a specialist (I think its time for New dr, may try Chicago dr. Heard they are good). Could a Chiropractor help with this situation?
@https://www.studioveena.com/users/view/bcc80c30-d89d-11df-ab19-12313b090e12 am definetly going to try to do more stretching. Does you knee fill with fluid also when it flares up?
@ https://www.studioveena.com/users/view/4e731f4e-4dd4-4a93-bc74-53190ac37250 If you could that would be so great. I don't want to do anything that can mess my knee up worse. But I want to still commit to keeping up as much as I can.
@https://www.studioveena.com/users/view/4dc9de3c-cf2c-410b-b8c3-72ab0ac37250 I mentioned pole fitness to him(Because he asked how I hurt it), he just looked dumbfounded. My town is rather small and Judgemental. I see you are from Southern Illinois. Im in Central Il. I thought working through it would be possible, but than I was like no. Thank for your kind words
@https://www.studioveena.com/users/view/5144c8a6-8008-4c57-bcaa-43ed0ac37250 Im sorry that you have to deal with that. Any pain thats constant in my book is bad. Thats awesome though that you dont let it stand in the way of your passion.
Thank You for all your input. Sorry i had to put you all in one post. I will be sure to update. Once again thanks so much for taking time to read this and throw out your advice. I appreciate it
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Thats awesome. I love that show and watch it all the time.Good luck. Hope all goes well.
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Thats awesome. I love that show and watch it all the time.Good luck. Hope all goes well.
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This is one of those subjects that is hard to cover because there are so many opinions and not all will agree. Especially when religious beliefs come into play. My fiancee and my family are good examples.
My fiancee is Catholic and I am Christian ( I dont go on a regular basis but that has to do with our personal feelings) but all that aside. When his family found out they flipped. Thought I was horrible and a stripper!! It put us through hell and we still deal with it from time to time. My family does not know yet, but will soon because Im tired of hiding it. In all of this I learned that poling is my passion. One of the ways I can truly express myself and it relaxes me. And stopping or not letting people know hinders you from living your dream. Life is to short to be ashamed of something you love. I feel that if I want to let others know of this I know my facts and I fight to make sure they know the real truth about it. His family made me feel ashamed and said because I poled I didnt worship god. It just shows you how much people try to push their beliefs and feelings on others. And feel its ok to pass judgment and it is NOT!!!! No one should have the right to judge me but The Lord when my time is up.
The Bible has lots of Psalms about dancing for example:
Psalm 149:3 Let them praise his name with dancing, making melody to him with tambourine and lyre
Jeremiah 31:13 Then shall the young women rejoice in the dance, and the young men and the old shall be merry. I will turn their mourning into joy; I will comfort them, and give them gladness for sorrow.
The way I look at it is, The Bible talks about dancing to rejoice and praise the lord, however no where does it say what type of dancing. So if you think about it your are doing nothing wrong(which is why the group that poles for God isnt either) They suffer people saying stuff about them and judging them, but they still go to service and love God. What does that show of their fellow church community that are saying they are sinners?
Most importantly its about how u feel truly. We can give you our opinions but its ultimately up to you. Poling doesnt make you a bad person or a sinner. I wouldnt hide it because its a new age and we have to learn to be accepting of all the new things coming at us. I also love it too much to care what anyone thinks about it. I have lived to long listening to others and for fear of ruining my reputation. I missed out on alot of neat experiences bc I chose to listen to others(just to make everyone happy) and not my heart. Whether you hide poling or not everyone will form their own opinion. Living life by others opinions doesnt allow you to truly live. Life is short and need to live it to fullest no matter how much someone tells you your wrong.
To juicy J your personal life should not affect you leading youths. What you do on your own time is your buisness. In a way that is discrimination and they shouldnt have done that to u. Im sorry that happened to you. Thank you for sharing your story.
I apologize if I offended anyone in anyway. Wasnt my intent.
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This is one of those subjects that is hard to cover because there are so many opinions and not all will agree. Especially when religious beliefs come into play. My fiancee and my family are good examples.
My fiancee is Catholic and I am Christian ( I dont go on a regular basis but that has to do with our personal feelings) but all that aside. When his family found out they flipped. Thought I was horrible and a stripper!! It put us through hell and we still deal with it from time to time. My family does not know yet, but will soon because Im tired of hiding it. In all of this I learned that poling is my passion. One of the ways I can truly express myself and it relaxes me. And stopping or not letting people know hinders you from living your dream. Life is to short to be ashamed of something you love. I feel that if I want to let others know of this I know my facts and I fight to make sure they know the real truth about it. His family made me feel ashamed and said because I poled I didnt worship god. It just shows you how much people try to push their beliefs and feelings on others. And feel its ok to pass judgment and it is NOT!!!! No one should have the right to judge me but The Lord when my time is up.
The Bible has lots of Psalms about dancing for example:
Psalm 149:3 Let them praise his name with dancing, making melody to him with tambourine and lyre
Jeremiah 31:13 Then shall the young women rejoice in the dance, and the young men and the old shall be merry. I will turn their mourning into joy; I will comfort them, and give them gladness for sorrow.
The way I look at it is, The Bible talks about dancing to rejoice and praise the lord, however no where does it say what type of dancing. So if you think about it your are doing nothing wrong(which is why the group that poles for God isnt either) They suffer people saying stuff about them and judging them, but they still go to service and love God. What does that show of their fellow church community that are saying they are sinners?
Most importantly its about how u feel truly. We can give you our opinions but its ultimately up to you. Poling doesnt make you a bad person or a sinner. I wouldnt hide it because its a new age and we have to learn to be accepting of all the new things coming at us. I also love it too much to care what anyone thinks about it. I have lived to long listening to others and for fear of ruining my reputation. I missed out on alot of neat experiences bc I chose to listen to others(just to make everyone happy) and not my heart. Whether you hide poling or not everyone will form their own opinion. Living life by others opinions doesnt allow you to truly live. Life is short and need to live it to fullest no matter how much someone tells you your wrong.
To juicy J your personal life should not affect you leading youths. What you do on your own time is your buisness. In a way that is discrimination and they shouldnt have done that to u. Im sorry that happened to you. Thank you for sharing your story.
I apologize if I offended anyone in anyway. Wasnt my intent.
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Thank You for your replies.I hope my post made sense to everyone because i think i worded some of the stuff wrong. I apologize. When I said Self training I meant on the pole not the contortion. Im doing the contortion as a hobby but also what to incorperate it into routines as well. I have been poing for a couple years but had to quit because I was pregnant. So I just started poling again 5 months ago but I am having issues because I still weigh 180 and have my baby flab. alot of weight to lift, But I just dont seem to be building muscle.No idea why?I have alot of toning to do yet.
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I started off on a 50mm that was a non spinning, slide together two pieces pole. the kind you can get at adult stores. It was super hard for me to master the tricks or be sexy. Im only between 4ft 11 and 5ft. cant remember heigth horrible I know. i have small hands, so i got myself a 45mm xpole. The threaded one and I love it. I have done so many more tricks and I can actually do the moves with grace and not look akward. lol. Best pole ever.
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This makes me so angry. I hate how judgemental people are. Its like omg just because you pole dance doesnt mean your going to be a stripper. Its the influence that they are put under. If a kid is told its excercise and thats it they will see it just as that. For gods sake people need to be more open minded and learn poles arent for strip clubs anymore. Honestly sad fact is ther will always be debate because people are to scared to try it. I know most if they tried it would not have the same view. its so frustrating its people like that I just want to shake and say you are so blind to life. Welcome to the future. Like was said the world is changing and evolving and if you dont get with it you will be left behind.Ill let my daughter excercise on the pole and teach her that its an art. Because if you think about it it truly is. It teaches you to be graceful but at same time strengthen your body and stay fit.
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Mine is Lilith Rayne. Favorite video game character and name of a movie character. Im a geek though. lol
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Is it still for sale?
