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I have an S Factor pole. I purchased a different brand and I’m trying to take it apart because it came in its own case and I’m thinking about selling it, so I need to get it in the case. My problem is the main pole pieces won’t separate. I’m going to call a friend to help.

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Yeah I have those bands as well and I’ve noticed it depends on how many times you wrap as well as making sure it’s at a proper height and I guess how you use the pressure when you use them. I’m sure what I just said makes no sense, 😅 But that’s what I discovered. I’m looking for tutorials that can show how to use them when training. You get them and then your like, “Now What”?

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I get on my knees and I put my hands up over my head on the pole and then I try to pull myself off my knees. I started out with 3 sets of 5 and then I increased from there.

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yeah, 4’11 and 181lbs.

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Treesy sorry I wrote my response on my phone and it autocorrect it.

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Freest,

Oh-My-Lanta do I. Ever since I moved into my new home I haven’t pulled in 3 years consistently and I have gained so much weight. I remember when I was about 124 lbs and now I’m a 181 lbs. I don’t look like I weigh that much but I do. And everytime I look in the mirror I get a little sad but then I know that if I just eat right and exercise more that the wait will eventually come off. So every morning I look in the mirror and I tell myself five things that I love about myself that does not include my weight or my appearance. When you don’t focus on your appearance you realize that you’re a wonderful human being. Don’t get me wrong some days are a battle but on the days that are tough I just take it one day at a time.

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I say take it down. I might turn some buyers off or buyers are going to want to play with it.

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Well I hope she’s doing some pole work in heaven.

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It really depends on the person. I have Elastic Steel and he’s really good; he has a slightly new internet version where you can download it’s called Easy Flexibility and wow you get some range of motion. It’ll take a little while to get used to the motion and the movements, but you get some great stretching. Alethea has one Felix Cane has one which is like a major workout in it’s self. You will be sweating. Veena has her 30 day to flexibility, Then there is the video series from BeSpun as well and Cleo’s. I have fit and bendy as well. However one of the best advice that I have gotten for getting flexible was to take a hot bath or shower before you stretch and wear warm clothes and to just be patient with yourself.

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Way to make that money! Sounds to me like you need to rest. I don’t dance at a studio, but I use Arnica for my bruises. get into a nice warm bat to loosen your muscles; if you have money and the time get a massage. It’s time to switch out your shoes to maybe boots that way you can bind some padding to the tops of your feet for extra cushion and hopefully that might save your feet a bit.The advice that the military always presses HYDRATE! Helps with cramping and such.

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That was beautiful.

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I feel your pain! Some instructors like advanced because they feel like they get to teach the more fun and impressive stuff. I also wished that there were more instructors to teach beginner and intermediate or at least be able to teach all levels of certain tricks. Of course there are just some tricks that if you aren’t advanced it’s just best that you don’t try it, but I feel that when people have little expos like that that they should have enough for every level to feel like they got a lot out of it. For some of the harder stuff it would have been great for them to give you guys some conditioning to do while she showed the advanced and then had you guys work on possible moves that could lead into that trick. As for the cursing that is just the persons personality, so you gotta take that worth a grain of salt. There was an instructor at my studio that was male and he wouldn’t pay anyone else any attention unless you were cute, petite or already had particular tricks. It was rough. So people stopped going to his classes. What was the point? After a few days where his classes were being cancelled he got the hint.

Don’t raise hell, they won’t give you your money back because you took the classes they technically fulfilled their end of the bargain; but they do owe you an apology though.Since you wrote a letter I’m hoping that they can pass that on to the instructors and hopefully they will switch up their teaching etiquette and style.

I agree with Runemist34; take the time for yourself and remind yourself why you are amazing at what you do know how to do. All the other moves will come just keep practicing what you have learned and now you don’t have that pressure to get it in a matter of time because everyone else in class are ready to move on. You know what I mean?

The girl that poled for 4 months was she able to do anything? You can always do BBB or ripoffreport.com. Too much negative reviews can tank a business. You don’t have to prove nothing to the instructors. You are great in your own right. I say stick with Veena and the instructors that you know and any other pole sites that you can learn from at your pace. I’m so sorry that you went through that. It takes a special person to teach and unfortunately those instructors just don’t posses that attribute. Don’t let it hinder you from going to other expos.

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I have been a new home owner for 1 year and my house has original wood flooring. it does scratch, but if you get the right company they can do stuff to your floor where it can add a protective coating, so when it scuffs you just buff it up. I’m saving to do my floors it’s going to cost like $4,000 to do. My floors were so abused before I got it. So it has to be refinished. Yes it is hard on the knees, but you can wear leggings or knee pads, but I say it’s good to practice every so often with out them to toughen your knees.

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Aww that is rough, but I think that if you are having a hard time getting out of your depression then you need to contact a professional to help you. Don’t go at this alone. A lot of people started businesses and then had to close the doors it is a hard pill to swallow, but I admire you on that. I would love to start a business and wished that I had the brass ones that you have to start it. I agree stay off social media. Stay away from that bull-pucky. Do you write in journals? Sometimes writing it down and just getting your feelings out can help. Around 2008 I had a bad break up and I was in depression mainly because I couldn’t believe that people (on his side blamed it all on me). I knew I wasn’t a bad person I did what I could in the relationship without having to do it all. N-E-who, A Spiritual Healer told me to right down all that bother’s me and when I’m done I could choose to rip it up and throw it away, I could bury it because those feelings and thoughts are now out and dead to me, or I could burn it in a sacred fire and blow the ashes to the wind and ask my Guides, Angels, Ancestors, and God to take it away because it no longer served my purpose. After I did that I realized. There was NOTHING wrong with me. I did what I could do and that was that. I was an amazing person and he was lucky to have me for the time that we were together. That was just a moment of depression. I also have a small amount of PTSD from being in the military, and I don’t take medication because I feel like I have a good handle on it, but one thing I know for sure is that I know that I can’t bring myself out of the darkness all by myself.

I had a coworker that had been battling depression pretty much all her life I mean she had a really screwed up life. Then she joined the Air Force and she had to be hypnotized to get through boot camp. I was like dang really?! She’s been on medication the majority of her life and it has been helpful. I have seen her when she is on her medication and it is explosive and lacks reason. Just over last year she had a family tragedy hit and she tried to fix her feelings etc herself and it was so overwhelming for her that she tried to take all of her medication. Thankfully her daughter found her in time and she got the help that she needed and yes she is someone that needs medication right now, but she is working on herself because she hopes that in the future that she won’t need to take it anymore. So be Blessed to you and Blessings to her. You’re not alone.

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Both my parents are very petite people, so when my sister and I hit puberty and didn’t stay petite like my parents it was really rough and yeah we got this really messed up view on our bodies instead of realizing that our bodies were fine. I was thicker than my sister, but it really came down to the fact that we weren’t active. Not our fault our parents were very lock and key, but all things considering we were in decent shape.Knowing that NOW. BACK THEN, we thought we were whales and it didn’t help that if we had 1 cookie my father would say, “You don’t need that you are already big as a house.” To defend my father he was not raised with girls there was a total of 7 children and ALL BOYS! So knowing how to be delicate with female feelings was foreign to him. So as soon as my sister got her first job we bought metabolife pills through the mail. My sister was 16 and I was 13, so we could have done some damage to ourselves. It wasn’t until my Junior year that I made Cheerleading and got active and the weight just melted off. Till this day I remember the look on my father’s face when not only he and boys my age noticed my toned physique, but his friends were hanging around the house more. Dropping by and what not.

Now I’m grown and I still have my body struggles especially since I stopped poling and gained all my weight back and then some. I’m 4’ll and I’m pushing 168, so if I express that it’s not because I’m being negative, it’s reality that I’m over weight, that’s not healthy. I’m not going to announce that to the world or fit it in a conversation unless you are my doctor or dietitian or my husband. I am at the heavies that I have ever been and no I don’t always feel sexy, but I do know that this is the only body that I’m going to have, so I have to treat it better. I learned from a manifesting councilor to say 3 things that I love about myself and it doesn’t always have to be physical. By doing that I don’t focus so much on the outside and I pay no mind to the negative things around me.

All I have to say is that for those that do have that struggle, it really does get better, you just have to be comfortable and happy at the size that you are at, at the moment. You can change it if you want, but be aware to the little people that may over hear you picking yourself apart because they may think that they have to do it too. Don’t weigh yourself every week do it like every 3 months other than that use how your clothes fit, how you feel in general, how’s your health that is a good indicator on what’s going on with your body. I have a friend that I had to put in her place because I made a Mediterranean chicken dish that was bacon wrapped and she said, “No Bacon, Bacon is bad for you; have you ever seen a skinny pig?” I let her know what was up real quick about wanting to criticize my food and what I make, when she’s not a hard body herself. She needed to keep that to herself Sometimes people are not aware of what they say and how it impacts others. I get the thigh comments because I do have larger thighs now and I can’t cross my legs anymore when I pole sit and I’m like dang really? I’m not down about it, but it is in the back of my mind; one of those things that makes me think, “I could a year ago what happened?” Some people are also just venting or just giving their honest perception on how they are feeling and if you overcame a milestone then share it with them if they don’t mind you over hearing their conversation. Sometimes your struggle can be someone’s inspiration.

RuPaul said it best, “If you don’t love yourself then Honey how is anyone else going to?”