I saw your Reddit post as well, but I'll just answer here. :)
As long as you have a feeling that you "should" be at a certain point, and this goes for everything, even life. You'll have to deal with feelings of not being enough, or behind.
Take a few minutes and write down what your motivation is for learning to pole dance? Is it for fun, to stay fit, to compete to prove something to others or yourself, or reach a certain level? If you feel it's to reach a certain level then ask yourself why you want this? Understanding why we want something can help unlock things in our mind. In my opinion the most fun way to approach pole is for fun and exercise. It's what I try to facilitate in my lessons, but I understand most people want and expect to see progress or "finish" everything here.
Learning to let go of expectations that you've set up in your mind can be one of the hardest things for us to do. I've struggled with this forever, and still do. If you can remind yourself to let go of expectation, and stay in the moment, life and pole dance can be a source of fulfillment instead of frustration.
In my personally life I can relate to feeling frustrated with slow progress because I've always been naturally musical. I've been able to play most instruments without much knowledge of them, it came easy for me. However, I started learning the guitar in Feb of 2022 and it's been sooooo hard for me. I had started playing guitar in high school and gave up, switching to bass guitar, within a few weeks because it didn't come easy to me like all of the other instruments. I'm still no where near what my expectations were, but I play almost every night, I just enjoy it. I've had to stop using the part of the guitar app that tracks progress because it was making me feel frustrated. My point is, just because we have skills in one area that would seem to translate to another, doesn't mean it will.
