Where did my sexy go?

soclse2hvn5122 started this discussion · 8/15/2014

So let me start by saying I have always been an athletic girl. When I was younger I was a junior Olympian competitive gymnast. I've always attack sports with aggression and strength. Pole is throwing me for a loop. I feel like it's hard for me to just be sexy. I'm always over thinking moves and I'll be honest.. when I do a move it's everything but sexy haha. I have trouble just letting go and dancing. Any advice or suggestions? I want to be smooth, sexy, and graceful; however, I cannot manage that while successfully doing moves.

6 replies

soclse2hvn5122 · 8/15/2014
Thank you for your advice :-)
Lucca Valentine · 8/15/2014
Agree :) Film yourself to see what you look like, and the sexy will come with time. We all were (and are!) at varying stages of grace. Dance can be tricky in that your body can teach you just as much as you teach your body, you just have to trust it. Which again, takes time! Trust is earned and all that ;) You could also try taking some general dance classes near you (chair dance, burlesque, belly dance, hip hop, whatever!), it can introduce new movements to your body that might trigger something fun :) here is a nice talk about finding your sexy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lrdn4lazVBc
Rachel Osborne · 8/15/2014
Lucca speaks truth and that talk is awesome. I am only just starting to learn to let go but my top tips are: Slow. If on spin hold each shape for 2x round the pole full revolution. If on static try to float up and down out of the spin in slow motion. Extend: Point toes and fully extend as if you are drawing lines with finger tips and toes and sprinkling glitter trails or smoke vapour from your fingers and toes and the ends of your hair. Close your eyes, dim the lights, exhale and smile, move through the whole of the movement as if a photographer is taking a fast-shutter series of photos and wants to catch your glorious shape in each still frame. Turn the music up and forget the tricks for the song before you focus: roll on the floor, shake your hair, draw line shapes with your legs and circles with your hips, keep it simple and tap into the real emotions you feel rather than playing at classic 'sexy'. Slow controlled frustration is sexy. Angry, strong is sexy. Tired, loose, careless is sexy. Experimental playful is sexy. Just be how you are. And if you feel foolish, adopt a persona. You are a runaway heiress secretly auditioning for a burlesque troupe, or an undercover FBI agent trying to seduce a mob boss, or whatever you like. Nobody is scoring you. Just entertain yourself ;)
soclse2hvn5122 · 8/15/2014
Thank you guys! I've always been a victim of myself.. always too critical and hard on myself!
Haloanne · 8/16/2014
Awesome tips from Tropicalpole. Undercover FBI agent trying to seduce a mob boss!! :D best ever, I'm definitely using this!
Stefana of Light · 8/16/2014
Lucca that Ted X Talk is what brought me to pole!! Love the philosophy behind waking the erotic creature ;) TP fantastic tips!!!! Thanks for sharing ladies:-)