pole-twista started this discussion ·
so here's the question for today.. what makes a person sexy to you?? killer abs, dark hair, sense of humor, witty, glasses>> ???? just curious what other people find sexy and how others define sexy.. 🤔 😎
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it really depends on the person we I am thinking/talking about at the time... for me it's different for every person...I can define a *type* I might have or things that I normally find attractive but in the end it always ends up being different depending on who it is... now if you asked what I DON'T find sexy...well hell I could write a book on it lol
A "nerdy" person -- someone intelligent. A smart, playful conversation (especially on some obscure topic) is much sexier than how a person is built. I'm also a sucker for attention... My big weakness is "looks like someone I loved". That gives me an interesting range!! Mindy
If we're talking about pole dancers...movement. The way you move. Remi....mmmm....come to me.....
lol sissybuns.. i hear ya i have some pole crushes myself 😉 i just mean in general.. physically, personality, quirks, etc... 🐱 😁 i love watching a man eat. i love watching a guy all soapy in the shower (especially if only light is sun coming in thru the window..glowing off his slick skin..water cascading down.. mm.. ok if i dont stop thinking of this 1 someone's going to need to throw cold water on me! 😮 💣 ), i find a man sexy when he can handle his car well, always find a protective type sexy atleast on some level (must be why i have a thing for firemen.. 🦇 ), i think a guy who is totally absorbed in something he loves is sexy 📚 ( be it a book, cooking, or working with his tools... ), i love sucking on a guys lower lip so the fuller the better, 😜 and any man who massages my back / feet is always going to be supersexy to me!!! 🥂 👑
I'll tell you what's sexy to me--Sissybuns new pictures, that's what!! Look at all those amazing holds and tricks!! Plus she's smiling like it's all so effortless!! Look at those beautiful butterfly variations, a sweeeeet lunchbox and that boomerang split grip...sigh! I have a new pole crush!! Re: men. What's sexy to me is a man who's plugged into his senses, especially those of humour and wonder. A man who is strong enough to have my back, but who is vulnerable to my touch is sexy to me. A man who appreciates the little domestic rituals like bringing me tea at the end of a working day and driving me to work just because we enjoy the parting and reuniting is sexy to me. A man who is willing to make an ass of himself in order to fully participate in life is sexy to me. A man who never gets tired of exploring my body and takes his time doing it is sexy to me. A man who can read with me and talk to me for hours about anything and everything is sexy to me. And I married that man!! How lucky am I? 👸
RoxyPink ·
confidence! Confidence can make just about any man look good! But I do like athleticism, strong broad shoulders and big hands. Oh and when my hubby puts his ballcap on backwards...*gets weak in the knees* LMAO! 😂 He does it on purpose sometimes just to mess with me! heh
amcut ·
... Men who eat spicy things as though they were nothing Silly men who make fools of themselves men who are SUPER muscular with a higher body fat so they look like big tasty defensive linemen or gorilla-men. men who look like defensive linemen who are hairy, so definitely look like gorilla-men! women who are mega confident women who call their legs "stems" or "gams" all... throaty voices, great vocabularies, people who whisper. Great hands, hands of the David on a man, hands of Diana on a woman! ooo-wee!
Visually- where the back turns into the backside (male and female) Otherwise- natural is such a turn on. Out in the woods, no make up, no hairbrush, freshly bathed from a pot of boiled water. Sitting naked on a fallen log, coold breeze drying warm skin........... I need to do some backpacking.
Intelligence, the ability to walk that fine line between cocky and confident, and someone who knows how to let their hair down and live in the moment. This goes for both men and women. I prefer a little meat on their bones as opposed to "skinny" but skinny with muscles is ok, too. If you are talking just an image then that is totally different. I have a friend who does art modeling and she has some nudes that are incredible, but then there are nudes that are near pornographic that I do not find sexy. Just as attractiveness is subjective so is this. It is a perception.
mmm sexy man?!? So many things about men are sexy... I especially love a strong, hard working, and very masculine man- I love big rough hands, rugged facial hair (5 oclock shadow), defined muscles (especially shoulders/back), and sweat 😀 I love watching my man do his job (he's a plumber). He knows exactly what he's doing and he just jumps in and gets it done. I have a thing for firemen too, as well as cowboys and construction workers 😉 I'll agree with polephile- it is such a turn on when a big, strong, handsome man is weakened by my attention, touch, or glance. A man with humor, strong sense of responsibility, and confidence. A man that wants me and shows it.
For me, it depends on if you mean realistically, or for fantasy. Realistically, I like a nice person, with a great mind (I don't want to be able to run verbal circles around him!), smallish but with nice muscle definition. I'm lucky to have found these things and more in my husband! 🥂 However, if you mean in the realm of fantasy (by this I mean...I would dream about it and write about it, but in reality I would never be in a relationship with a man like this) I like something entirely different! Broad of shoulder and chest, muscular (though more on the lean side), confident bordering on arrogant, powerful...or possibly on the wrong side of the law, like a pirate. 🏴☠️ The main similarities between the two is the brains. I cannot deal with a man that can't keep up with me, mentally. I did that once, and it was bad! 😈 Oh, and if you wanna go for something really off-the-wall, I like my girls little, thin, and punky. You know...those little punk girls with the lip piercings and the long bangs that cover one eye, or whatever? So cute! 🤓
Sexy to me is so hard to define. Personally, I think that any form of intentionally controlled movement can be sexy, whether its done on a pole or in Swan Lake, as long as there is some emotion being communicated by the person doing the movement. For that matter, I think that being fully absorbed in any activity and fully present in the moment and in one's body is remarkably sexy, whether it is a dance, the delivery of a lecture, the writing of a letter, or anything else. The look in a person's eyes that a point needs to be made and that there is an experience (even if thinly disguised) of enjoyment in making the point is something that can intrigue and sexually excite me, regardless of whether the point is being made through a dance performance, an instrumental or vocal performance, a lecture or slam poetry recital, or even the simple composition of one's outfit for the day. This is similar to something I think pole_twista said about a guy being absorbed in something he loves. In terms of physique, haha, I have a type for sure, but I am not rigid about adhering to it. Being physically fit is an absolute requirement for my dating preference. I prefer dark and straight hair, dark eyes, and muscles that protrude at least slightly more than my own but these preferences are more flexible. I generally prefer that a romantic interest of any kind be wider in terms of proportion than myself. I am turned on by raspy voices whether these are spoken in a low range or a high one, and most often I am more likely to be attracted to a guy that is shorter than I am than one that is taller. To me dancing is sexy even if a great deal of dancing skill is not exhibited, as long as it looks natural and fun instead of forced and uncomfortable or technically perfect but inexpressive. And anyone who eats my cooking and acts like they like it earns major sexy points with me, and gets more points for eating the second meal I cook. The way touching is done is very important. A balanced approach to touching is unbearably sexy. Tickling or touching too lightly is not even remotely engaging to me, and being handled roughly is actually something I find quite revolting. But there is a middle place that it seems like not very many people can (or are willing to) find and it drives me crazy when a guy can. Lastly in terms of pole dancing, to me sexy is mostly in the attitude. Being enticing without being suggestive I think can be really wonderful. But to me, even more sexy, is what I was mentioning earlier; full presence in body and expressiveness of (any) emotion through movement. I personally can't always do that on the pole although I can pretty consistently get there if I am out dancing at a night club and I like the music that is being played. And unfortunately I can't get there alone with a camera when I'm on the pole at all for the most part 😨 but I can do it with a live audience fine. Isn't that wierd?
Not weird at all!! I always feel my performances in front of the camera are nowhere near as natural and fluid as when I'm dancing for real live people! It's something that I'm working on... I totally agree with you about touch. A caress that exudes warmth and life and is neither too light nor too harsh is a major turn-on!!
I love watching my man do his job (he's a plumber). He knows exactly what he's doing and he just jumps in and gets it done. I have a thing for firemen too, as well as cowboys and construction workers 😉 my husband is a plumber as well. Ive always been into guys who have hard working jobs but when they clean up - oh boy! Let me list the celebs/athletes I have the hots for, youll get the common thread: Alexander Ovechkin (hockey player: Washington Captials), Vin Diesel, Jason Staham. Fit men! I dont like them overly done (like Mr. Olympia style), enough to show that they take care of themselves. Also I know they can defend me if they needed to. Visually- where the back turns into the backside (male and female) Same here, Ive always found that incredibly attractive. For me its always the confidence. If your confident in what you do, I love it. I also find it attractive when someone is always striving for more. They want more than what they were given and they are willing to work hard to get what they want.
What is it about a hard working man with nice shoulders and arms in a wife beater? Mmmmmm (maybe because my man wears that a lot??)
mmm just the shear masculinity and shape. Definition, angles, and an aura of power that women can't achieve... ooo i'm getting warm now 😀
i LOVE the great variety of responses! 😎 some are cute, some are funny, some make me think M-M-M i love mens!!! 🥂 👑 ☀️ it's nice to know there are so many things that make a person sexy 📚 🏛️
Johnny Depp. Alterna-Geeks are hot.
I probably shouldn't answer this question because I think almost everything is sexy. 😉 Nympho? Not necessarily, lol....but I am very tactile and sensual and I think sexy can be found almost anywhere. That said, I love arms. Have a major thing for them. Strong, sinewy, not beefy....mmm mmm mmm! Beefy= 🤮 to me, but a skinny but muscular dude, especially if he's of middle eastern descent, will get me to do a double take every. single. time. I appear to be hard-wired for this, because I didn't grow up in a particularly diverse place. And I'd give my right arm (that's the better pole arm, folks!) to make Dave Navarro my love monkey for a week or two. 🙊
Dave N is soo smokin hot.. mmm.. what i would do.. 😮 😲 ❗ 😂 😈
what a nice time reading your responses 🙂 normally my turn-on list is tall, skinny, with long or shaggy hair--for guys! more of a hair FETISH 😉 if a guy can put his hair in his mouth, i melt. (not like scary ratty hair tho) lately snowboarder/skater Shaun White has resurfaced as one of my faves (i like girly guys, and he seems smart too, in addition to being hella-sweet, and talented) but there's a lot of 'sexy' guys who just don't show respect or interest. i met this guy who is huge--6'2" and big, built like a linebacker, a frat guy! i typically date computer geeks who wear a lot of black 😉 but he has the most active mind, fun conversation, and he is SUCH a sweetie, adores me, and seriously knows how to kiss. so altho he's way too young for me, its a good time 🙂 usually overweight is not for me, but this guy is so engaging and so much fun and a great lover, i don't mind so much. super cute face and smile.
OMG...just saw that Denis Leary is going to be in town. Not sure who is sexier to me, him or Jason Statham. Something about that bad boy look (plus Jason has pole skills....how can you not like a man for that?? http://localhosthttp://manhattannews.files.wordpress.com/2008/09/denisleary1.jpg http://localhosthttp://www.thefitblog.net/wp_thefitblog.nethttps://pub-a085b59791bc4c1a94b0a223a67a37d6.r2.dev/wp-uploads/2007/10/img009.jpg
Chemmie the photo of Jason looks wrinkled...has that been folded up in your wallet or something HA!
Johnny Depp. I want him. Bad. Oh the dirty things...
OMG...just saw that Denis Leary is going to be in town. Not sure who is sexier to me, him or Jason Statham. Something about that bad boy look (plus Jason has pole skills....how can you not like a man for that?? http://localhosthttp://www.thefitblog.net/wp_thefitblog.nethttps://pub-a085b59791bc4c1a94b0a223a67a37d6.r2.dev/wp-uploads/2007/10/img009.jpg OMG I would hit that 9 ways from Sunday! I have a very huge crush on Statham. OMG, Transporter, The Italian Job (if only he came in the MINI when I bought mine *drool*), Chaos. Ive seen most of his movies. I think I may have to steal this pic Chem!
