Even all the "cute" bra and panty sets are cut for girls with a nice pretty natural C.
You're telling me! I've got size E boobs with a 34 waist, so all those "cute" bras everyone sees, certainly are not for me! I'm just blessed to have one friend who works in a lingerie shop that knows her merchandise, so I don't have to buy $150 custom bras! My sister is the same way, though she doesn't have the hips to balance, and she never wears the right size of bra...it actually looks like hers are much bigger (even compared to me!) and she gets a LOT of "attention" she doesn't want from it.
Simpllysweet, I know how it is, having health problems. You always hear of "morbidly obese" people having horrible problems, but regular people do, too! My knees are so messed up, I may end up without kneecaps at all, and I'm in pretty consistent pain. Perhaps (I know this sounds awful) you could talk to someone about your fear of gaining a little weight? I mean, if it's harming you, and you know it, perhaps help is needed. Worrying about your health is not something a person should have to do, day in and day out!
And PDR, have you looked at your butt lately? And your legs! Dayum, girl! I seriously don't think breasts are everything (this coming from a girl who thinks they are her only asset)! You're a beautiful woman, and if that is the way you're built, then play it up! You can pull off the cute little shorts, the plunging necklines and all kinds of things I know I can't! You're built like a model, and that means practically the whole fashion world is geared toward you!
I think that a big part of this (I may have said this already) is society telling us that we have to be, we have to look, some certain way, and very, very few people actually look that way. We look at those posters for lingerie and go "I wish I could look like that!" all the while those girls actually don't exist. They've been modified all to hell, and often times the clothing that models are showing off in pictures don't actually fit them. They've been clipped and whatnot behind the model, and since the camera doesn't see it, neither do we!
So, really, they're all scamming us out of our self-esteem, they're playing to an entirely natural insecurity that we should have grown out of once we finished being teenagers, and we just keep going "Yup!" and getting led around. We get a payback from it (I know I do, too) by being able to relate to other women in the same situation...and there sure are a lot of them! Beating ourselves up has its rewards...I know this. I had depression for a long time, and still some of the habits keep coming back...it's not flattering to say, but it does have its paybacks.
I really liked those articles at the beginning that Amy put up. They're so true, and I agree with the idea that we should do our own social experiments. We should test it...and find out if there really is something wrong, or if it's all in our heads, dragging us down.
I'll totally admit I was scared by what I saw when I recorded my video in my shorts! I didn't realize what I looked like, because I never see my rear end!
Also, I think we should all listen to our boyfriends/husbands/girlfriends/family, because I think they have a better idea of what we look like than we do. They're better judges to what we put out to the world than we are, because we get the added flavour of what's in our head. And, that goes for me, too!
...AND LISTEN TO AMCUT. 🥂
