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Kamilla-Denmark started this discussion · 6/20/2009

Hello everyone My name is Kamilla and I'm from Denmark... I'm 19 years old, and I recently oppened my eyes to this fantastic world of pole dancing.. I just think it's the most beautiful thing. Just watching a girl who really knows her way around the pole, just makes me think.. wauw, wish I could do things like that.. SO I decided, why not? It's not like I'm gonna loose anything by trying to learn it. When I introduced my new found passion to my family, their response was "What??,, why would you wanne dance like a whore?? " So I guess I don't have their support, fortunately I don't need it 😉 Unfortunately I've never really been one of those skinny girls. I've never really had any flexibility in my body.. I might need to loose about 10 kg before I'm even able to lift my own weight up on the pole. But I figured, that can be done, right ? Just wanted to know - can anyone learn how to be a great pole dancer with commitment and determination? OR is it really nessersary to be lean and flexibly by nature? I mean, if I lost the weight, and build up some strength would my body gain flexibility just by practising?? What is your experience? Did anyone of you guys start out by being unfit and a pound or two to heavy? Or were you all practising gymnastics and running 50 miles a day when you started pole dancing?? 😳 Anyway, have a great day everyone 😉 Kamilla ; ☀️

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PoleDanceABCs · 6/20/2009
No you don't have to be born into it! 😀 Lots and lots of us are new to it too and still teaching our bodies to be flexible. It just takes a lot of time (patience is a virtue) and commitment. And you should check out some of the YouTube pole dancing videos... there are some big sexy mamas (and papas) pole dancing and doing it well. It isn't a matter of being skinny but how strong you are. So when are you getting your pole? And welcome to the group! 🤸
Kamilla-Denmark · 6/20/2009
Thats so great to hear. . Because if i'm honest with myself I don't really believe that I'll ever loose the weight. Maybe some of it, but .. hmm. . 😀 Well, I don't know actually. I've been looking at that x-pole that's on this site, and everyone seems to recommend it. But unfortunately I live in a small one-room apartement, and the ceiling is made of plaster. I really doubt that it'll hold up if I installed a pole. So right now i'm thinking about what to do. I already thought about going to a studio - there's one in copenhagen.. But I live an hour away, and studios are very expensive (I'm only a student).. Studiotime here in Denmark costs about 1000 DKK per month.. thats about 100 british pounds or 170 dollars.. so that a lot. So at this point I'm really going over every option, because I really, reallyyy want a pole .. haha 😀 And soon..
Rouge_LAmour · 6/20/2009
Welcome to the world of pole Its not about how much you "need" to lose to lift yourself, it's about the strength you will build that will enable you to lift yourself. refer Pole Diva and many others like myself, who are not twigs, yet can move and spin and really work the pole. Actually, refer Pole Diva for amazing lifts, she is incredible. It will happen, not overnight, but it will happen. now repeat the pantene promise after me: It will happen, not overnight, but it will happen. Welcome to the site, I hope you find all the support and friendship you could ever want and more!!
Kamilla-Denmark · 6/20/2009
It will happen, not overnight, but it will happen 😀 I believe it, I just have to get my self in shape. . and then figure out a way to get my hands on a pole.. 😀
Rouge_LAmour · 6/20/2009
Street signs, kids playgrounds, flagpoles.... the list goes on. In the interim, do lots of core workouts, strengthen your abs, obliques, tranverse abs, back and lats. These will make a difference when you finally get to a pole. Exercises, not in quantity, but quality will help. Do leg raises slowly to gain controlled strength. It will hurt, but will be beneficial. Ditto pushups form the knee. I'm sure Veena has exercises on line that will help immensely too. Good luck on getting a pole!
Kamilla-Denmark · 6/20/2009
yes i'm already doing does leg workouts, mostly because I thought it made my legs look great 😀 But I need to get started on my abs and arms, so I'm gonna do that.. Anyway thanks for all of your sugestions, It really help me.. all though I don't think I can get my self to swing around in my neighbours flagpole, haha.. I think he'd kick me out on my but It really sucks though.. If only I had a proper ceiling, it wouldn't be a problem. Then I could just install the xpole from this site in my room, but if I do the ceiling will probably crack, so..
PoleDanceABCs · 6/20/2009
I'd say abs and arms are a priority. LOL My pole kicked my butt! I didn't realize how much you work your arms and abs. I knew it was hard but wow... I'm humbled. I'm not worthy! 😂
Veena · 6/20/2009
NO way do you have to start off thin to become a proficient pole dancer! 🌸 I have seen many thin girls struggle with strength longer than the curvy some girls, so don't worry about that. Pole dance is not just about the inverts and tricks anyway. Its about enjoying your body and having a great work out!! As far as no support from family....well my family wasn't supportive of my pole dance either and look I have a website dedicated to it. So if you need encouragement we are here for ya 🥂
Kamilla-Denmark · 6/21/2009
Year, I guess they just have to get used to the idear of me growing up and all that. My moms having a little trouble accepting that she can't control everything about my life anymore . . I'm sure that she, in the future, will learn to accept my interests.. Even if they are a little different than hers 😛 Year, and it's a great website to !! 😉 It's really inspirational .. How many years did it take for you to become such a great dancer? Have you been doing it your whole life, or ? ? (and again, sorry if my spelling's á little off sometimes... not used to speak in english.. hehe 😳 )
PoleDanceABCs · 6/21/2009
My moms having a little trouble accepting that she can't control everything about my life anymore . . I'm sure that she, in the future, will learn to accept my interests.I confessed to my mom about pole dance tonight. Of COURSE she took it the wrong way and there was total silence from her end. 😂 She told me to not tell her anything about it and not to make a "career" out of it. 🫡 Yes m'aam! Hahaha, my mom is just so old-fashioned and I sometimes think it is better not to tell her some stuff. But I don't want to keep things from her. 🤔
Kamilla-Denmark · 6/30/2009
Haha. I can almost see it before my eyes. - that's just like my mom to. 😀 But I think it's important to keep in mind, that your own happiness comes first, and if the people around you really loves you, they'll learn to accept you just the way you are 🙂 even though my mom doesn't understand, and deffenetly doesn't support my interest in poledance, i know it's my life and my dissicion.. And I don't have to answer to anybody but my self - neither do you 😉;)
Toccara · 6/30/2009
🥂 Im proud to say that when I mentioned it to my mom she was all for it! She said, "those girls do beautiful things, and its such a great workout. you will be great at it, ooo and your self confidence will boost, i bet" so Im so grateful that I have a mom who is so openminded. Of course my dad wasnt crazy about it, but he still supports me. 😀
Kamilla-Denmark · 7/1/2009
Wauw - you're very lucky to have a familiy that supports you that much.. I'm sure that in time my parents will accept it to. - when they se how great it looks (if i'll ever be any good at it) they will look at it in a different way, i think 🥂