"sitting" on the pole?

suelyn started this discussion · 5/20/2009

Hello everyone! I would really appreciate some help or advice on this. I've had my pole for just over a year and I'm learning pretty much everything from the wonderful videos on this site and youtube. I have managed to crack a few things myself but I just cannot work out how to grip the pole between my thighs. It's really frustrating 🤔 - I can't even 'sit' (body upright, legs crossed round pole)- let alone attempt to 'hangback'. I have managed 'supergirl' once (about 1 ft off the floor). It is just so ridiculously painful. I've tried increasing the amount of time I do the 'sitting' to build up my ability but I'm still on no more than 10 secs. My skin just feels like its on fire! Is it a case of stop whining and keep trying or is there a magic secret to it??? x

9 replies

amcut · 5/20/2009
I put my pole pretty close to my crotch. Maybe like .. only six inches from it? Anyways. You're supposed to put it on the meatiest part of your thighs. Then, when you're there, change your hip alignment. I'm not a big squeezer, but some people are. Basically just take your 10 excruciating seconds and try to find the least painful way to sit through it. Wiggle wriggle find it. Everything after that is acclimation. And the superman pull on the thighs is so way different than the sit pull. It's a different direction and it SURE DOES MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE. I've been trying to wiggle wriggle into the most painless way, but there seems like there isn't one!
SissyBuns · 5/20/2009
I just got my pole yesterday and the first thing I started practicing was sitting because I know it kills the thighs and from what I've read you just gotta keep doing it until the pain gets tolerable. I'm inspired by other people who can do it and say that it hurt when they first started too. I say to myself I'll get to that point of painfreeness eventually.....I hope...... 😐 Keep at it!
Former member · 5/20/2009
i must be a weirdo because i never had an issue with the pole sit...but the superman is another story. HOLY THIGH BURN BATMAN!!!!! i think it's just a matter of working on it over and over and eventually you get used to it and the pain subsides because your skin gets tougher. that's my completely unmedicalized view lol. is that even a word? lol
SissyBuns · 5/20/2009
😂 😂 😂 Medicalized is a word now! If it makes sense it's a word...that's what I always say. 😉
Former member · 5/20/2009
haha you're the best sissy!! 🙂 👍 👍
Jenn · 5/20/2009
I was the same way in the beginning when learning the pole sit. There is no magic secret, I'm afraid.. just grit your teeth and get thru it. It took me a couple weeks to get to the point that I could sit comfortably without having to jump off in pain. Even now, if I haven't been on the pole in a couple weeks, I still get a twinge of pain when I get on it for the first time. The superman was totally opposite for me tho. I never really had any severe pain issues with that move. But everyone is different. One way to condition your thighs for that would be to do a slow dismount to the floor. From an inverted crucifix, walk your hands to the floor and bring your legs down, while gripping the pole between your thighs, kinda like creating scissors with you legs to create the friction. You my want to keep one leg up on the pole and just lower the other leg down first, still creating the friction by crossing it over the pole.
FridaSiren · 5/20/2009
oh sweetie, i so feel your pain! for almost 3 weeks i´ve been doing the pole sits almost everyday to try to get used to the burn. it was realy hard and frustrating and so painful! but just when i was starting to lose hope, yesterday it almost didn´t hurt. ím like wow! i was even able to let myself slide slowly down the pole. so i think great, now i´m going to hang back a little see if i can do a wrist sit or something. wrong! excruciating pain! still did it a few times though. was barely able to walk after and had aquired a bunch of new pinching briuses. i guess different moves cause friction on different parts of your thighs and your body and it will take quite a while before your skin gets used to it all over. so don´t despair (i´m not going to!),grin and bear it, and someday we´ll get there! 🌸 frida 🌸
suelyn · 5/21/2009
thank u everyone for all your words! I plan to double my efforts and get there by the end of June. Mind over matter methinks!! my legs are going to look awful if I try going out in skirts I think this summer 😜 x
Rouge_LAmour · 5/21/2009
being lazy here, but I've posted at least twice on how to improve pole sits. laziness is due to the fact that I can't remember where. 😀 Anyway.... Sit on the pole, sit there for 15 seconds. it will hurt. get off the pole. fan your thighs like a crazy lady to stop the burn. then get back up there and try for 30 seconds. repeat step two. increase in 15 second increments until you have the sit mastered. When 30 seconds is really easy, start at 45 seconds. Do this everyday and before you now it, sitting will be second nature. Work up to 5 minutes. Don't push it, let pole happen as it will.