Pole Rage. Help Me!

JoleneBell · 2013-04-19T11:13:41+00:00

I've come out to everyone about my poling. I made a statement on Facebook about it, and haven't gotten a whole lot of responses other than a few from friends and family who are supportive and think it's awesome. However, when I shared a post today about poling and how it may soon be included as an Olympic sport, I got a few responses that were less than favorable. One stated: "I think pole dancing from what I can see, looks like an incredibly difficult sport, the amount of body strength it would take to do half of those moves is incredible. That being said, with all the temptation out there for men, all these pictures of half naked women with their boobs hanging out and their legs spread wide giving a perfect bikini area shot are hardly welcome on my screen. I would love it if they could find a way to do this with a little more clothing on, say like gymnasts :) " Another: "Yes why do they need to be naked or nearly naked." Another: "If they're real good they could do it in a snow suit! lol" I was a bit miffed at the ignorance, and this was my response: "If anyone struggles with lust, they definitely should avert their eyes from anything that could cause them to stumble. Period. That being said, the skin is for safety reasons. In pole, the motto is, the more skin, the better,technically speaking. Skin must grip the pole to prevent falling and injuries. Also, naturally, women are feminine, which can be sensual, and I agree that there is a fine line between trying to provoke lust, and celebrating femininity. However, if you look at any dance art form, sensuality nearly always comes into play, and apparel certainly isn't usually snow suits and turtlenecks. :) Again, if one has issues struggling with lust while watching a woman dance, they should definitely stay away from viewing it." It's starting. I honestly feel like deleting each one of these people, but I know that's my emotions talking and I know it's too extreme. They're…

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PrincessPeach · 4/23/2013
This may interest some of you. A page where somebody has collated revealing images of gymnasts for men to sexualise. http://m.zimbio.com/Kseniia+Afanaseva/articles/B3ezXHeLLL1/2012+Olympics+Sexiest+Female+Gymnasts
korinne · 4/24/2013
That site's kinda disturbing... what a creepy guy.
MissSKR · 4/24/2013
I think your friend seems to have an issue with sexuality and not pole dancing as such and to be honest shes clearly not going to change her opinions so i'd just swipe her off my list. I personally don't like performing with my stomach out, therefore when i perform i wear leotards which have pvc sides to them allowing me still to grip. HOWEVER thats my own personal choice and i would love to feel confident enough to wear hotpants and a bra and perform (plus it would be easier) there are options for those who don't want to wear the skimpier of costumes but if you've got a wicked body then why not. if your happy with it why not? its no less than you'd wear on the beach and thats what i always say if people comment on it. I always actually say pole dancing is really unsexy because it is, burns, bruises terrible dismounts when learning moves. To make this look good takes a lot more work than the initial strength to do the move!! and unfortunately your mate can't see that but then she also can't appreciate any other sports either because anyone where the athlete is showing they're figure is clearly looking for sexual attention. Personally i don't give a crap if blokes are staring at my pictures of my pole dancing and they can make really rude comments too if they wish because all i respond to that crap is that it takes a ridiculous amount of strength and i'm probably stronger than they are. Most appreciate that rarely do i get the pervy lads now because they know its not just a spin and sticking your arse out. Some people wont ever change or open their minds to it, but thats their problem because the world is moving forward and we're not stuck in the 1920s anymore. Keep positive your doing something you enjoy and will be really strong and as you progress you'll be surprised how many people comment at how impressed they are. x
Hazi411 · 4/24/2013
Princess Peach - that guy sounds really creepy. Ugh!
mel919 · 4/24/2013
I just recently started to expose my facebook "friends" to the fact that I pole.. starting out with my place of employment (a pole studio in town).. then slowly but surely pictures of tasteful tricks and even aerial silks photos to sort of lighten the blow. I found myself spending about an hour perusing youtube looking at "pole fitness in the news" just to see how different regions accept it. Overall, it's amazing how under-informed the public is about it. Even on an episode of the Anderson Cooper show, about the childrens' pole classes, it's like they weren't even given a fair chance to defend what it really is. I'm sure everyone on this site can vouch for the fact that people "just don't get it".. and it's a shame. one day though!!! :)