Here is the thing about the pole hold. If you're a beginner, it seems really hard, so hard that it seems impossible. In that way it is very similar to a chin-up or pull-up. Back when I couldn't do any pull-ups, the idea of doing even one seemed impossible. Over a long period of time, I built up the necessary strength to do one (!) pull-up, and it was life changing. After that, it didn't take long at all before I could do two. Or even three. The progression to multiples was easier than the long slow journey to one. There is a huge range of fitness levels between zero and one. If you are closer to zero than one, then "one" will take longer than someone who starts out closer to one.
When I first started poling, I took classes that didn't focus very hard on drilling the real "basics" like the pole hold. These classes were great for my self esteem but ended up being bad for my body. With my existing strength I was able to get pretty far into climbing, inverts, etc. but using bad body mechanics to do so. I wasn't engaging my shoulders properly, I was using the wrong muscles to "force" the move instead of building the right ones. I'm very lucky I didn't get injured. Now when I started working on more advanced pole tricks I realized I couldn't fumble my way through with strength alone, and I needed to go back to basics. It was humbling, but necessary. If you can start out doing things right, you won't have to go back later.
I know the pole hold seems impossible, but do it the way Veena teaches it, even if it takes you months to get there. Your body will thank you when it has the right muscles to use for the harder stuff, and you will have the right muscle memory for the harder stuff!