Pole Events in NYC Are Seriously Lacking

Hey All, I've been doing my fair share of google searching and checking back to the events page on this site every now and then, and I barely ever see any pole events in NYC. Everything is in Texas, Kansas, North Carolina, Hollywood, Kalamazoo...anywhere BUT NYC. How can I live in one of the largest cities in the world with tons of pole studios, and we barely have a scene here where we can showcase our amazing work? Just in case anyone tries to point out the upcoming event of "Pole Dancing and Comedy" in Bowery...yes I recently discovered that one! To be honest, that club is really kind of grimey-I've been to an event there when a studio where I used to take classes held its first recital, and it was a REALLY sleazy atmosphere, especially considering the artistry that some of those girls had in their performances. I shy away from any pole events that are ever held at the R Bar...not my cup of tea at all. As a side note, I also shy away from most standup comedy routines, because so many comedians are racist/sexist/ableist/fat shaming/you name the prejudice with their jokes and it's NOT funny. I kind of shuddered when I thought about what it would be like to have comedians AND beautiful, half-naked women poling on stage together in one space. On the flip side, they had a couple of female comedians featured to balance it out but I'm still very cautious so you know..it could just be me. Either way, all the pole events I know of in NYC are held at the R Bar, and there's never anything else going on. It's also been difficult for me to find community here-I've been looking to find some dancers to just hang out and pole/stretch with-maybe even if it's something where we rent out a studio for a couple hours and dance? I requested to join a group like that on facebook and I was never accepted :-( Does anyone know something I don't know? Perhaps I'm out of the loop. But if you have suggestions or feel the same, please feel free to share :-)