New from Scotland! and needing reassurance...

hailhail started this discussion · 10/17/2009

Hi there I am new to the site and also new to pole dancing. I have just bought myself an X-pole as i know it is something i definately want to learn and will stick to! But so far... well i can sit on the pole,not gracefully but i can do it lol I dont have much upper body strength but my thighs are quite strong which helps. I also tried to spin but keep failing miserably. my hands seem to stick while my legs slide down and I end up overstretched 😕 lol. I have ordered the art of pole dance dvd so hope that will help me. I am really shy and not confident enough to go to classes hence I want to learn at home. Any advice would be welcome! Thanks again Bye 😛

16 replies

Kamilla-Denmark · 10/17/2009
Hello Hailhail and welcome to the site... You have definitely come to the right place if you need support. Everyone here is really supportive and positive 🥂 . Don't worry about the upper body strength - it WILL come to you before you know it, once you're over the first few painful days it will all be fun and games. It is hard work though, but it's sooo fun Im sure you'll become addicted. Don't worry about not wanting to go to a studio. We are lots of girls - and fellows - on here who are self tought, and Veena's lessons is amazing. You should try them, there are lots of exercises for building strenth aswell 🙂 .. once again Welcome !! 🙂 😉
FreeTheSun · 10/17/2009
Welcome! Congrats on your new pole and being able to sit on it already! That's good. Don't worry about the spins too much. Some people can spin and do well with that but then inverting or sitting or floorwork just doesn't come very easy, where as others have the hardest time spinning and have to really work at it but then inverts or sits or floorwork or just dancing come easier. Everyone is different. It takes a while to get things and understand the motion and flow you body needs to do. Keep at it. The dvds or if you also decided to do veena's lessons will really help. I know you said you're shy but perhaps one private lesson might be helpful to get that immediate feedback of what you can do. Some find it less nerverwracking than a class. I'm not sure which I would have prefered. I almost didn't go to my first pole class because I was soo shy and scared, but fortunetly I'm cheap too and didn't want to waste the money I already paid so I dragged myself there and ended up having a blast! So who knows. Just a suggestion. Enjoy your new pole.
hailhail · 10/17/2009
HI guys thanks for replying!! I managed a bit of a spin tonight lol go me, it is so much fun having the pole. even just to dance around it. I was flickin through the music channels to find good music to dance to lol, going to look into getting lessons from veena. will save up some more cash for it! Thanks for replying!!
Layla Duvay · 10/18/2009
Hey, being able to pole sit is quite an accoplishment, so good for you! Spins will come...
amberpoledancer · 10/18/2009
Hi! Were abouts in scotland r u from? I live in glasgow I think ur the first person iv seen on here from scotland other than me lol. Well done for getting a pole seat so quickly,that can be quite hard and painful 2 get. Yeh u mite benefit from one or two private pole lessons if u find ur stuck. Learning from a dvd can b good but its not for everyone,I find learning from dvds quite difficult at times xx
p1nkpr1ncess · 10/19/2009
Hi, Welcome to the site! you've come to the right place for advice and help! Everyone here is so friendly 🙂 Well done on sitting on your pole - it took me about 5 lessons to finally get that as I found it sooooo painful! So thats a fab start! Have you thought about taking Veenas lessons? A private lesson would also be a good idea, I started taking classes but have had a private lesson and practise with just the instructor and my friend and it really helps to get the more one-to-one advice. Have fun! And keep us updated on how you're doing 🙂 -x-
hailhail · 10/20/2009
Hi there thanks for all the replies! I'm about 15miles from Glasgow! Go to uni at Caley. I'm going to keep practicing every day so will let you know how I get on! Private lessons would be good but they seem quite expensive around here. 🙁 x
Gsylass · 10/20/2009
Hi and welcome! Don't be discouraged, it takes time - you're doing really well so far! I agree - try Veena's lessons. Happy poling! 🌸
amberpoledancer · 10/20/2009
i used to go to caley,did social sciences! yeh i find watching the vids that everyone posts on here v v helpful. Its great to see how different ppl do different moves. Theres always something new on here that i see and want to try out,i have to say that this is a really good pole website (and iv been on hundreds!) veena explains things very well. If your gonna buy a dvd i find KT coates Vertical dance the best (beginners- intermediate) if you r just a newbie...as i said before im not the best person to sit down and teach myself from a dvd but this was by far the best for me,i did learn a lot from it and highly recomend it,you can get it on amazon x 😀
Veena · 10/20/2009
Awww you don't need to feel shy, we have all levels and styles of pole dancers here 🥂 If you do decide on my lessons be sure to check out the strength training lessons, this can help you build up the muscle you need for pole. Keep at it, you'll be flying around the pole in no time! 😀
suncatcher · 10/21/2009
I live on an island so no classe for me and am self teaching at home. This site is awesome and supportive and you can find tons of videos on youtube to get you started. I'm going to take Veena's classes here as soon as I can afford to. The ladies here are real supportive and helpful. hugs and happy poling
suncatcher · 10/21/2009
Thought I would just comment on the shy cause i tend to be that way too and in two weeks I have learned to laugh at myself (sometimes hystericlly) and am now pole jammin with a friend of mine. Sometimes we get laughing at eachother so hard we have to take a break. I'm still shy and dont want an audience yet, but it DOES build confidence and you will find yourself getting braver or less self conscience.hugs
hailhail · 10/22/2009
Thanks amber will have a look for it!! been at uni and work all week so not had much chance to get on my pole. I'm doing biosciences at uni, its quite a good course. am dreading leaving and getting a full time job and not living off saas money lol x
hailhail · 10/22/2009
Thanks suncatcher and veena! will definately be taking some lessons from you when I get my money through next month! I really hope it does build up my confidence lol x
goforit · 10/22/2009
Hay HAILHAIL, You should totally go to classes even if its just a few classes to get you started. you will be in a class with beginners just like you and all the classes i've been to provide a very supportive and welcoming enviornment. plus it may 😛 😛 help you get through some shyness and maybe make pole friends 🙂
Runemist34 · 10/26/2009
Hello! I totally understand where you're coming from with sticking to the pole...I have the issue of slowing down so much during certain spins that I stop midway! It takes practice, though, and as you gain strength and confidence in your new, unmoving dance partner, you'll get the hang of it! Also, I do recommend the classes...most ladies will be just like you! No idea what they're doing, and just trying something new! Besides that, I've found that most women are very non-judgemental when you're all up there in your spandex, learning from someone how to swing around a pole. At least that's how it was for me! And I gotta say...little jealous about the Scotland thing...I want to go there!