Hey Pebblerz!
This website is probably the best place for beginners. Veena's lessons, which are fairly cheap (especially compared to DVD's) will take you through a lot of strength training and flexibility training, as well as giving you the knowledge to continue through your pole journey in a safe way. It's very important to know what kinds of things you need to do in order to engage your shoulders correctly, for example, and Veena is very adamant about that!
I would also highly recommend doing your research into different brands of poles, and which are considered "reliable" by people who pole dance often. I know that, in North America at least, there are three brands we swear by: Lil Mynx, Platinum Stages, and Xpole. Each has their quirks and occasional issues, but they'll never drop you or fall apart, so you'll be safe with them. Please, be careful about buying anything from Ebay or anywhere else. There have been fake Xpoles around, and there are also a lot of poles that advertise themselves as being safe for inversions, or used by professionals, which is simply not true.
If you have any studios nearby, I would also suggest you take a taster session with them, or even their first set of lessons, if you can afford it! It can be very helpful having someone right there, in class, to spot you and that you can ask questions of.
Otherwise, the people on this website are very helpful. Videos, posts and blogs all help us get to know each other and create a community. I've asked some pretty stupid questions around here, and all I've gotten is help!
I still can't do the splits, after 5 years of dancing ;) I'm working on it, though!