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It's been a rough couple of months for me both physically and emotionally. The result: I just don't feel sexy anymore. I've tried several times to do the Feb challenge with my favorite 6 inch heels on but each time I ended up feeling (and looking ) like a Clydesdale on ice skates. Have any of you ever lost your sexy? If so, how did you get it back?
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yes, It just means your body wants to express something else. it doesn't feel like expressing sexy right now. your body wont lie to you, listen to it. you are already sexy so don't worry about losing your sexy. haha! it didn't go anywhere. I think you have to nurture what you are feeling right now. you said you have been through a rough time and that's probably why your body doesn't express sexy right now. it probably has something different it wants to express. don't force yourself to express something. you will be much sexier expressing what you are honestly feeling right now. that's so much more important. being true to yourself IS sexy. You are already sexy!!!
I never really found my sexy yet. In zumba or dance it out it comes natural. In pole it is no where to be found. But that might be because I am unsure when I video myself. In my dance classes I just close my eyes and pretend that no one can see me.
When I'm in any type of pole rut, finding a new and awesome song to download will usually do the trick. Or going back to a really old one I loved but haven't listened to for a really long time.
Trying to do sexy and feeling self-conscious is soul-destroying. Often I don't feel like being sexy so I concentrate on something else: being very precise, or very strong, or going very slow and holding everything tight with good abdominal control and making all my lines long/having good extension. Or if feeling angry or sad I just dance in a way that shows that and lets the emotion out. I think being fully present and emotionally and physically honest during a dance is more sexy than putting on a show of hair flicking and hip rolling if you don't feel real doing that. Just be how you are in the moment and dance like nobody's watching. Do it for you.
