Its Become An Obsession

As my husband put it. Yesterday I was talking to him about Pole Convention and how excited I am for alot of it. I even told him I was impressed that Jessalynn got corp sponors. He looked at me and told me "you know I could really care less about pole" 😢 Yep thats what I started doing. He totally hurt my feelings about it. yeah, I could care less about nascar but at least I let him watch it and actually listen to what he says. So after 20min of me sitting at the kitchen table alone, sobbing, he comes back. He tells me it seems like the past few months all Ive talked about is my MINI and pole, that ive got no interest in him. He said its taken over my life and I need to get a grip. He doesnt like the fact that when our oldest doesnt have school that I go and practice or film a new video instead of getting the kids right away. He thinks that I make pole more of a prority than my kids (this is where an obvious eye roll would go). The only reason ive been talking about the MINI is b/c it needed a whole new transmission and its the only thing I promised myself out of life. If you only you knew how bad my MINI obsession is, just come to my house! lol Its like if its a hobby that requries me to be outside of the house w/o the kids, im not allowed to do it. Same basic principle why I gave up on Mary Kay (for now). Its like Im not allowed to do anything on my own, my kids have to be included. Personally I find this unfair. Pole/Gym is my only break from the kids (besides work, but then again he works too). Ive given him plenty of chances to go and do something but he refuses. He says he would rather watch nascar ALL WEEKEND LONG than go anywhere b/c he can still parent the kids and watch all at the same time. So my question is, does your other half think youve taken pole too far? Do you have a compromise? How do you balance being a parent and getting a chance to pole?