Maybe try to break it down by area and make a list of the moves you'd like to do in that space. Like maybe you really want to incorporate this move on the floor, these spins/tricks on the pole, and maybe some sexy hip twirling on the wall. Maybe even some chair or lapdance.
Then, maybe put them in the order you'd like to do the routine in. You can start at the wall, slink down to the floor, crawl to the pole and stay there, with the exeption of some floor moves thrown in when you come down that far (if you do). Or, you could start at the pole, take a spin to the floor, do some floorwork, get up, more pole, walk sexy to the wall, or even to your hubby in a chair, then back to the pole, etc.
I like to plan each area individually with maybe a mental list of things I want to accomplish. With that list in mind, it's pretty simple to see what flows together and what doesn't and what fillers to add to make it look okay.
Another thing you should do is just put some music on with no one watching and just dance. It doesn't matter if you bobble, because it's just you! Experiment. Find things you love and a flow that works.
Keep in mind that men don't appreciate tricks as much as women. While they know that it is hard and took some effort, they are more drawn toward the visual stimulation of it all. They like to see hip rolls and spread legs, etc. Let your hands wander and draw attention to what you want. Trust me, his eyes will follow them.
Most importantly, HAVE FUN! A routine is not as important as enjoying yourself. It may seem stressful and make you nervous, but he will love it no matter what you do. He will feel honored that you took the time to dance just for him. If you forget what you planned, it really doesn't matter in the end.
I didn't mean for this to come out this long. Whew. I hope I said at least something that helped. Good luck!
