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Hey ladies I am just curious about how everyone here decided that they wanted to start poling, there are so many reasons and I would love to get to know everyone a little bit better by hearing what your reasons are. They could be for fitness, to feel sexy, curiousity etc =)
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My mother in law mentioned it one time, that her friend wanted her to take pole dancing classes with her. I'd never heard of it before. Looked it up, seemed interesting and fun, and started taking lessons shortly after. That was in January 2009. I quit lessons in 2010 and started teaching myself after 6 months off. My love for pole has grown so much since then :) Now I love to accomplish new things I once thought were impossible!
Wow thats awesome Polekitten!!Did your mother in law ever try it too since her friend wanted her to pole with her? I agree by the way on feeling like you can basically do anything even if it seems impossibe!
What a great suggestion Peachpop! Well I cant remember what first intrigued me about pole-dancing and stripping, but all through my teens I found it kind of fascinating, and certain things would reinforce my interest in it, such as Natalie Portmans character in Closer, etc. (Pink-bob wig??? - oh so sexy). In my mind I just saw strippers as very independent and ellusive and kind of ethereal. I felt like they were the queens and all the blokes pawning at their feet were their underlings haha :P I liked how they were icons or elements of this other-world, only found at night, inside clubs, kind of like rare and unique fairies or something.... From 18yrs on I loved going to strip clubs and I was always the chick dragging her friends to Kings Cross after drinks at the local pub. I particularly appreciated the art of pole-dance - the skillful tricks and the aesthetic dance quality. And also I loved certain dancer's attitudes... it was prob just the lights and smoke and dimness that made them seem so surreal, but certain dancers just had this mesmerising self-composure and seductiveness.... It was probably just self-confidence now that I think of it :P I would imagine what it must be like to be one of those beautiful creatures.... I loved the idea of being the center of attention and being wanted but unattainable. (Hmm maybe I should see a shrink :P haha) Anyway.... I wasnt completely naive about the stripping industry; my cousin became a stripper for a year (the year before I did), and she conveyed all the dirty details.... its not a glamourous job, and you aren't always shown appreciation or basic respect... Its exhausting and monotonous and frustrating, but it can also be fun and adrenalin-fueled and ego-boosting. Anyway, when I was 18 I think, my aunt held her birthday party at Bobbi's pole Studio in Sydney, we all got dressed up and payed on the poles... Trying to do spins and the feeling of flying and being out of control was just so exhilirating! (I've always loved roller-coaster rides, the scarier the better, so I guess im a bit of an adrenalin junkie). From this experience I decided I just HAD to get lessons and train in pole-dancing, mainly because it was so much fun, but I suppose I had ambition to become quite good at it too. It took me ages to get around to enrolling, because I kept waiting for when my friends could do it with me (Gosh I was such a little scaredy cat). Anyway, all my friends who started out with me didnt last past a few semesters, I guess they just didnt get the bug or the expenses outweighed the fun for them, but Im still obsessed and in love with it! Because of my proficiency and confidence with pole-dancing, and because my cousin had kind of broken down the barriers and given me access into that world, I started stripping at the beginning of 2010 and semi-retired at the end of 2010. I was mainly doing it for the experience (as I've explained it has been an almost life-long curiosity of mine), but I also enjoyed the instant and large amount of cash at my disposal, even if it was so unpredicatble and obtained from alot of sweat, bruises and bullshitting (flirting/hustling). I decided to stop when I started becoming bitter towards the male gender, they were no longer cute and endearing and flattering to my ego, they were irritating and ridiculous and represented 'The Man'... I dunno, It just got too hard to make myself go to work anymore... the fascination had been supersceded by disillusionment I guess. Now that I've stopped I think I could go into a Strip Club and enjoy it once more, although I'm definitely a little jaded... I know what the girls on stage are thinking and how they are feeling, there is no 'ecapism' element or surreal/other-worldliness to it for me now.... Yes you feel thrillingly isolated from the rest of the world, but you know the undercurrent... its not magical or ethereal anymore, its money money money, egos and sex. But its still a great place to party and I made some lovely friends along the way.... Anyway, I feel like I've been waiting to be a pole-dancer my entire life. It just fits. I sometimes try to expain the fascination I have for it by comparing it to surfing. My brother is a surfer, and anyone who knows surfers understand that they are addicted, totally at the mercy of the ocean. They will get up at 5am, trek through rain, hail or shine and plunge themselves in freezing water to catch that perfect wave, or just bob on the ocean, communing with mother nature. I wanted to be a surfer and tried it for years, but I never caught that 'bug'. It just wasn't me... As soon as I took that first swing at Bobbi's year's ago I was hooked. I think I may even have been hooked for years before that... I was always drawn to it. I've thought about the future and whether Ill be able to keep up my committment to it once I have kids, lose my abs and go through whatever else life throws at me.... The thought of not pole-dancing makes me feel so empty inside and... well.. ordinary. Mundane. I love that its still a very new sport, it can still shock people and open their eyes,..... I guess I like to be a bit of a rebel - I definitely enjoy the feeling of being progressive and liberated. But mostly I love the art itself... the smoothness of one's transtitions, the fluidity and individuality of dance, the expressive and evocative quality of the music, the fitness and skill required to exectute those intricate, "WOW" moves..... I lust love it. I know I will always follow it and appreciate it no matter what. Okay sorry about the novel!!! haha I got a little carried away.... I guess thats what happens when u get me started on one of my passions! :) You can imagine how I must drive my family and friends crazy with all this pole-talk!! hehe Thank goodness you guys can reciprocate the fascination though!! Im not alone! Hooray!!! :P xox
Ohhh myyy God I just realised how much I had written! I am so SORRY guys!!! Honestly, I am hopeless when it comes to pole-talk! So bloody verbose!! My bad!
Wow Scarletthoney! I thought I was obsessed with pole!!!! =D Your storey was beautiful and inspirational! You have been through so much in regards to pole dancing and seem to have really truly enjoyed your journey. I hope to be able to have an interesting storey like that one day! Dont be sorry about how much you wrote by the way I think that its great how open you just were! =)
Great story Scarlett :) don't be sorry at all! Your passion for pole really does show in your dancing. Great thread peachpop! It's a great way to gt to know veryone and their unique stories :) Hmmm.... I'd really wanted to try poling for a long long time. Watched YouTube vids for eons but never wanted to go it alone. Girlfriend after girlfriend bailed on me after saying they'd check it out but I just kept on watching and waiting. Finally one of my gals said yes and actually followed through! Thank god cause I absolutely love it and signed on for a year membership after two weeks of class. Loved the classes but wanted to work on moves that our teachers weren't teaching, so I bought my first pole in November followed by another pole in december. And now here I am :) not a spectacular story really, but I have always loved all forms of dance. There are some days that I work on purely floorwork and transitions :) pole and floor work make me feel strong and confident. And as a bonus... My boyfriend loves to watch ;)
Great story Scarlett :) don't be sorry at all! Your passion for pole really does show in your dancing. Great thread peachpop! It's a great way to gt to know veryone and their unique stories :) Hmmm.... I'd really wanted to try poling for a long long time. Watched YouTube vids for eons but never wanted to go it alone. Girlfriend after girlfriend bailed on me after saying they'd check it out but I just kept on watching and waiting. Finally one of my gals said yes and actually followed through! Thank god cause I absolutely love it and signed on for a year membership after two weeks of class. Loved the classes but wanted to work on moves that our teachers weren't teaching, so I bought my first pole in November followed by another pole in december. And now here I am :) not a spectacular story really, but I have always loved all forms of dance. There are some days that I work on purely floorwork and transitions :) pole and floor work make me feel strong and confident. And as a bonus... My boyfriend loves to watch ;)
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@PeachPop : No, my mother in law never tried. She had an accident with a snowmobile when she was 15 and her hand is not capable of gripping well and the range of motion in her fingers is bad. She loves to watch my pole videos and look at the pictures, and had her family from Maine come over to watch me perform on my pole when they visited. I don't think her friend ever tried it either, but she should! There's just no decent studios around here for advancing, they are all 3-4 hours away.
Pole kitten, its a shame that your mother isnt able to try but its fantastic that you are able to let her live through you! You can always encourage her friend to try it out. =) Sair, thanks I love hearing peoples stories and although yours isn't as dramatic as others its still a good story and we can all see how much you love poling through your dancing as well.
My story isn't really inspirational or anything else really. I used to see the studio I now attend from the train regularly and wonder what it was like then decided one day to try it(much to my boyfriend's delight I discovered). I enrolled, and the teacher who was supposed to be teaching my class was away for the first couple weeks, and although I liked it, it wasn't really gripping me until the proper teacher arrived back and then I was hooked!
Hmmm I dont know how to start this but when I was 28 I was told I had cancer so for everyone who knows about that u kinda lose everything my hair,looks,body and my sexy. well even when chemo was done I still didnt feel pretty anymore so a good friend of mine told me to fight back and thats when we found some classes which helped alot but they cost so much thats when she got a pole and we found videos on youtube and that was that I really cant do anything on it yet but i try and i feel alot better on the inside and i also like the fact that it keeps my mind busy so Im not thinking about other things sorry im not the best writer so i hope everyones gets what Im saying
well me and my husband was at this strip mall and my hubby seen them spinning on the pole's and ask me to come take a look and we went in and he signed me up this was in 2009 but my classes were cut after the beginners classes i lost my job and my hubby got sic from kidney failure so it was a real bad 2009-2010 but 2011 is the year my hubby is on the list for a kidney transplant and doing great and im back to work yay god is good so now i'm on my pole journey and nothing is taken it away from me ever again
i got really sick about 2 years ago and decided that when i got better i was goin to try everything i thought i would never try at least once. it's my "i would neva"list. ;) soon after my realtor told me about this new fitness craze and about a local studio that opened. so i thought it would be a good thing to try at least once. well i got hooked immediately. after my teaser class i signed up for the beginner 6 week course. ive been polin off and on for a year now (health permitting) and have 2 poles at home and a million pairs of 6in heels. so i can offically say . . . my name is kat pole princess and i may need an invention!!! ;) well u can try anyway. lol
PEER PRESSURE! LOL! My 2 friends went to an intro and wanted me to sign up with them. I ended up working the day of the intro, so I decided to sign up for pole dancing classes.... Blind. Dropped $480 on something I had no idea what I was in for. One friend stopped after 2 months, my other friend stopped at 4 months, then here I am. 4 years later. Hahaha!
@Peachpop...great thread. Nice way to get to know each other. I like threads like this instead of ones that are matter of opnions that can get touchy and/or hurt feelings. :) Three years ago I received a course catalog in the mail from a local adult school. Much to my surprise they had a 4 wk intro pole fitness class. I'd heard of pole fitness and really wanted to try for fun & short-term. I asked a friend to go and we were SO excited. Needless to say she never showed up, everytime the door would open I'd look to see if it was her, not :( Anyway I stayed and after two weeks the instructor asked if anyone planned on continuing after the intro course, up flew my hand!!! I LOVED it I was 52 yrs old at the time and thought "what the heck am I doing!" But it was so much fun, Everytime instructor would show us what we were going to learn, I'd crack up and think "yeah RIGHT" But lo and behold I'd accomplish it. After a month I bought my first Lyl Mynx pole, went to regular class and to open pole practice another day. Unfortunately after a few months of my beginning, the studio closed down and I thought "now what." I was so disappointed. I looked up videos on youtube and tried to learn with that. I found a studio 1-2 hours away and went to workshops when I could. FINALLY found studioveena and am in heaven :) I have veena's lessons, bought a new TG xpole which has made a world of difference for me. I attend a wonderful studio few hours away when I can; attend workshops which help to improve and/or learn something new, as well as meet other polers. I've taken workshops and a private with Amber Richards and a workshop with Shelly Lamb (2nd place USPDF Nov 2010). Now this makes it sound like I'm up there in pole skills, not really, but for me I've accomplished more than I ever dreamed of (like sm, NEVER thought it was possible) I've always been active with some sort of fitness, this is the most difficult, yet rewarding and fun. This is the only workout that I look forward to practice at home. The strength developed is different than when I did powerflex at the gym with 5-8 lbs weights or 15 lb weight bar. My husband loves that it's great strength training for me having to lift and hold my own body weight. He's very involved with my pole venture which makes it more fun. Thanks to all the veneers who make this journey fun and rewarding. Thanks to veena and webmaster for all their hard work and support.
Those of you who have overcome and/or going through personal/health issues, you are wonderful and a great inspiration. Thank you for sharing so that we can send love and hugs to you! ❤️
I was introduced to it because of a friend's bachelorette party...and all four of us were hooked. Only two of us have really followed it up, though, one having gone on to teach it, and then...myself :P I wanted to check it out because it seemed different. I was tired of trying so hard to get to the gym, or trying to get out to walk when I didn't want to. I wanted something I could do on my own time, in my own home, but also go out for lessons, and such. I wanted fitness, sexiness, and fun. Most importantly, fun. My whole world of Pole expanded when I went on the internet...and so much more when I joined this site the first time!🥂
:) Thanks guys for understanding where I was coming from and why I rambled on so much! To those people who've had to overcome ill health or are still battling diseases and injuries.... I am so humbled and in awe of you. So many completely healthy people dont believe that they can do this and wouldn't have the self-discipline or courage to pursue a challenging sport like this, and here you guys are, persisting and enjoying life no matter how much adversity you have to face.... its amazing! So inspiring.... keep believing in yourselves and make sure you remind yourself of hor brave and strong you are... You should be feeling so proud right now! :) xoxoxo
that was very sweet of you hookedonpole!!! this site thread is really what this site is about in my opinion. polers supporting each other. im glad i joined!!!
I've been looking for pole dance for many years without finding how to get there. I had saw a girl (Tammy Morris) on a reality show and was amazed by the gymnastic side of stripper. But since i didn't know where to start it's only last year that i make the move. I was in one of thos depression mood again when i saw "pole art" on youtube. I just knew at this moment that i will have one pole...soon. Than i found SV and got all the information i need to choose my pole and that without studio i could learn with Veena lessons. I found a studio at almost 2h from me and went for a try, alone with 4 other girls. After an hour i was standing on the sidewalk with my new X-pole and a ...huge smile😁. We put it up in the living room/playroom the same night and it never went down for more than a hour. In 3 weeks my attitude had change so much, i got so much confidence. One year later i can tell you that i will never go back to the old me, i'm too happy with the me i discover. I turn myself into pole preacher, i want to show everybody all the great things pole can bring into people life and get girls around me to try. I'm now know as the girl with the pole and sometime forget that i'm still an exception. But someday we poledancer will rule the world😀
I saw Sheila Kelley pole dance on Oprah and thought "that might be fun" as I was totally BORED with regular cardio and weight training (which I'd been doing for decades). I really didn't think I could ever do pole work, but ordered a Lil Mynx off the S Factor website and quickly became addicted! I got the S Factor and PoleKat Power DVD's as well as the Complete Idiot's Guide to Exotic and Pole Dancing and learned at home. It also took me back to my roots--I danced "exotically" in the mid-80's, but never did pole. Not many clubs had them back then and I was like "pht, I could NEVER do that" lol! I joined this site when the sample lesson was cradle spin and I GOT it, which I didn't from the other DVD's. I've been here ever since and at a local studio--Aradia--where I've learned SOOOOO much! I have to say this site has become the "pole star" in my life (that's for you, astronomy geeks)! LOVE this thread!!!
when i was 18 i hung out at a stripclub in my hometown. thats when i first got interested in pole dancing but back then i was too shy and self concious to even try and dance on a pole. maybe a year later i was watching the Tyra show and she had felix cane do some moves on the pole. I was completely amazed!! i was like ' thats what i wanna do' i loved the artistic side of it and how much strength and fliexibility it takes. About 2 years ago when i moved to Montreal i saw there was a few pole dance classes around here, it took me almost a year to sign up for try out class. I finally did and im so glad i went. I totally fell in love with pole dancing. Sadly, im a poor student so i havent had the chance to go back for a class but im hoping that when i finish my studies i will be able to take classes and become more of a pole dancer.
This is a fun topic. In 2009, I heard my sister-in-law did some filmwork for the USPDF. One day I clicked on the website and watched the USPDF 2009 Championship Highlights video that she did. I was really impressed by what I saw, it was much more athletic/gymnastic than I had imagined and it looked like a great way to get in shape. I had wondered if it were even possible to do that where I lived. When I did some searching , I found a studio and started taking lessons. I also learned that my sister in law was taking lessons too (but in New York). While my family seems to have accepted my new passion pretty well, it's extra fun that I get to share my successes with my sister-in-law and she understands exactly what I'm talking about (like what a big deal it was when I first climbed to the top of the pole...lol). I'm kind of jealous that she knows all the big name dancers (Jenyne, Alethea, Karol...), but I think that if I'm patient, I'll have the opportunity to interact with the larger pole community too.
In 2008, I was with my ex in Arizona. I jokingly spoke of buying a stripper pole and dancing for (some special occasion.. I dunno lol) and youtube'd "pole dancing" as a joke. The first thing I saw was a picture of a girl named Tara Karina, the Vertical Ballerina. I was instantly intrigued, clicked... and I was completely AMAZED. I knew I wanted to really do this. She had links for StudioVeena in her descriptions... and here I am :D Got my pole Dec. 2010.
