Same here. Although I didn't lose much with pole, I did put on some muscle. However, I started a bootcamp style fitness workout program not too long ago, this workout includes A LOT of cardio along with all kinds of bootcamp workout. I was doing okay, but now am participating in the workout body toning challenge and wanted to lose in my stomach area, even though I'm small, my mid section got out of shape and "mushy." In the process of this, I cut out about everything that is junk food, sodas, sweets, late night eating, etc. I ended up losing few pounds along with getting leaner, etc.
I got an eating plan from my trainer, with the help of a dietician, that is to help maintain weight, as well as build muscle. It's hard because of my work schedule, etc., but am going to try. They also told me not to go by the scale, because I have lost fat, what little my body had, and gotten leaner. I feel GREAT, so not to worry. But to eat what will maintain and add muscle as I workout.
The tips here of main meals and snacks in between, or 5-6 small meals during day are on the eating plan, as well as what to eat pre/post workout and non workout days.
I also used to feel horrible when people (even people I DON'T know) would "inform" me how skinny I am, sickly I look, etc. I would get so depressed and my husband would have to work at getting me out of it. I've always been thin, with a short time or two of gaining few pounds. Now, I feel physically great, improved stamina, strength, and great workouts, so as long as I feel good about myself, it doesn't bother me what others think or say.
If your body is toning and you like it, don't listen to others. It is scarey, though, cuz it's hard for us to keep weight on. But I know why I'm more lean, I'm working out hard, but love the stamina and strength I've developed. I hope the same for you. 😉