Hi There! I'm from Brantford Ontario, like polephile. Actually, we both go to Eryx Studio in Brantford. Please come one night to check it out! As for buying a pole: I started off with the Carmen Electra Pole to try it out. Cheap ass shit, DO NOT GET THIS ONE! It will fall apart on you in no time. I would recommend the Lil' Mynx or X Pole. I have both, and they're great. They are both portable, so you can throw one up wherever, and it extends up to 10'. I also have a platinum stages stage pole. That's what I use for exhibitions. Platinum Stages works very well too. I'm dieing to try the Star Stand Alone by Platinum Stages, It looks AWESOME!
Ordering a pole off the internet is not as bad as one would think. You just need to know the reputable websites (like Lil Mynx, Platinum Stages or X Pole) to order from, or order them off of sites that promote those products, (like this site). You can also use Kijiji (that's how I got my Lil Mynx and stage pole), or Ebay (my X Pole). Craigs List may also have some posted on there as well. Just steer clear of the cheapy kinds (Carmen Electra, Peek-A-Boo, and the like). Trust me, those are complete crap and a waste of your time and money.
Hopefully that helps you get started! And Polephile and I look forward to meeting you at Eryx!
Regards,
Kalli