Glitter got told she's too chubby to strip :(

glitterhips started this discussion · 8/9/2009

Some of you know I was talking about changing clubs due to the troubles I was having at my current club with all the girls looking like barbies and the high tip outs/house fees...I met a girl on Stripperweb who saw my posts about my club over there and told me she would get me a job at the club she worked at. This is the club I originally wanted to work at but only hires through amateur night so I was excited when I found out I had a connection to get my foot in the door. This place is also much bigger, much nicer, and actually has alchohol unlike my last weird club. I met the girl who I had been emailing and she took me into the office and introduced me to the manager who had me audition with the entertainment director...I did my audition and she told me I was great on stage but I "needed to tone up" before she could hire me, but she really wanted me to come back after I lost some weight. I was trying not to cry in front of her, but it was super embarrassing 🙁 The most upsetting thing was that a lot of the dancers were not skinny and didn't have pretty faces either, so they have a handful of unattractive bigger girls dancing for them which is fine but they still wouldn't hire me. I had planned on working that night so I didn't have any plans and all my friends were already out so I ended up spending saturday night home alone crying because I'm overweight. Horribly depressing, I am pathetic 🙁 She gave me her card and told me to lose some weight and come back in a month, she was friendly about it and even asked if I had another job and told me not to forget to call her. I think she thinks I would do well there if I lost weight so I can't decide if I should lose the weight and go back, or say screw them and look for another club, but all the other clubs in Chicago are a pretty far drive from me and have high tip outs. I had been wanting to lose weight anyway because everyone around here knows I'm the chubby girl so I think I felt worse since I'm already sensitive about my weight. But I do eat super healthy and I work out 5 days a week (running/lifting/pole) so I'm not sure what I can change to lose weight except for eating less food and working out for longer. I think I'm going to have to start counting my calories really strictly and working out for longer. Now I just feel horrible and fat and rejected, boo 😢 😢 😢

21 replies

yogabeachbabe · 8/9/2009
Glitter, you weren't rejected in the least! Clearly she wanted you, but thought that both you and her club would make more money if some changes were made. I think it would be a total drag if she hired you on your incredible talent and then you wasted hour after hour NOT making any money! I'm sorry you were hurt but try to look at this in the most positive light: IF you want to tone things up, you've got a great job waiting for you at the end of the month and that's a great motivator! Don't not do it because it hurt your ego if it is something you want. More than likely you will come against worse with girls in the club or customers. You gotta have tough skin to work in the entertainment industry and even tougher skin to work in the adult entertainment industry. Ages ago when I was trying to become an actress in NY, I would get cut from castings (even though they liked me a lot) because I am Chinese. It's nothing I can do anything about and it's nothing I would do anything about if given the choice. Figure out if it's worth it to you--whether you will get what you want in the end, and if the ends justify the means. We're behind you 100%!
angel6101 · 8/9/2009
I read your post and wanted to cry for you and scream all at the same time! First of all, do not change your body for anyone but you. If you want to shed pounds then shed them for you but not because someone else tells you you should. The one problem I always had as a former dancer and still have is that many times theres a specific type of beauty that clubs supply but it's not neccessarily what every guy in there wanted to see. When I first started dancing that dancer that kinda took me under her wing and taught me the ropes was a "thicker" girl and honest to god she made more money than any other girl in that bar! She could dance and had personality for days. It's true that being thin gives you advantages in that industry and at least she wasn't rude to you but if YOU are actually happy with you then stay the beautiful way you are. If not than makes the changes YOU want to make. As far as how to do that I'm right there with ya (I'm trying to drop 10-15lbs and workout all the time and eat healthy too). The best advice I can give on toning up and cutting down for your activity level is to add some new types of exercises to your repetoire. Your adjusts to activity very quickly which means if your already really active with pole and running and lifting try something different, something you've never tried before or don't do very often. Good luck and try to stay positive, it'll get better as long as you believe it will : )
Dangerous · 8/9/2009
Hey Miss. Glitter Hips.....I read your post. You have nothing to be depressed about. Your body is hot! It is unique and it is toned.....trust me, my brother thinks so....lol. Pole dancing makes you feel comfortable in your skin....curves and all. So enjoy yourself and all the beauty you have. Unfortunately the adult entertainment industry is very picky. I am sure there are some clubs that would love to have you, unfortunately the ones I know are ghetto, play vulgar rap music ,and would rather you shake your body rather than do pole tricks.....lol.. Its Interesting how they view the full figured woman we are desirable but the adult entertainment industry had not caught up with it yet. 🤔
untamedshrew · 8/9/2009
Glitter- You are HOTT, and ya got the moves and the attitude!! If someone says otherwise- SCREW THEM!! 😈 😈 I've spent the last 10 months poling my ass off and avoding all the yummy cholesterol, fat and sugar- mostly to make my body look better. I lost about 18 pounds and a couple sizes. Know what, I ain't any happier with my body. Now my boobs are smaller and droopier and my stretch marks are more noticeable. The hubby liked me the way I was, and now he's paranoid I'll attract other men. It's been a real let down that I'm not happier with this body. Now I'm trying to focus on the health and strength aspect now. The one bonus: I can pole better!!! Like the others said- do it for you, just don't be surprised if it doesn't seem better. Peace. 🌸
violet · 8/10/2009
Awww Glitter! Dont get yourself down about this. Unfortunately, like others said, the entertainment industry is very based on looks and weight and blah blah blah. It sucks but its fact. As to why there were other bigger girls working there, perhaps they have been working there a long time, or are friends with the manager, or a million different things. Try not to let it get into your self esteem. If you want to lost weight or tone up, great! But do it for YOU, otherwise its not gonna stick or you are going to be incredibly unhappy doing it. You are beautiful just the way you are and a talented pole dancer. Anywhere would be LUCKY to have you. *hugs*
amcut · 8/10/2009
You should have said. ... "If you've reached your chubby quota... Why don't you fire one of those fatties and let me in". Seriously. Unless there's a strip club shortage, just hit up the next one. You probably just caught the manager in a mood to hire anything but your particular brand of lusciousness. Besides, if there are -that- many bitches with meat on their bones, you're sharing the meatloving men with other girls. Lets not. Lets be the -only- girl with junk-in-the-trunk.
cbella13 · 8/10/2009
Glitter, I'm so sorry they made you cry! They would be lucky to have you. You are talented, beautiful and your personality shines! Please don't let them get you down. DH and I recently went to a club and as a curvy girl myself I was happy to see that the curvy girl working that night was the one making the money. 😀 I hope that you are feeling better and that you find the best club for you! *hugs*
pole-twista · 8/10/2009
oh glitter! HUGS! I'm so sorry you feelings were hurt, just remember your talking about an industry where implants and a fake tan are practically required. you have to have a super thick skin to work at a place with such a narrow, limited view of what is sexy. too bad they don't seem to realize how many guys like a woman to be soft and and a little round. we're women. we're not suppose to be a mass of hard muscle. it's important to be healthy and strong, not to fit into jeans that look like they were designed to fit a hanger and not much else. your an amazing inspiration to so many. you were my biggest inspiration for learning the aysha (finally got yesterday). no matter what you decide to do, you have a bunch of friends here right behind you (making nasty faces at manager of club 😈 your sexy, and amazing, and talented so it's THEIR LOSS! 👸
Sparklie · 8/11/2009
Glitter, sweetie, I hate to say it, but that is the stripping industry for you. You will do well because you are curvy, but a lot of clubs have a particular body type that they want, not that they say that. I have had this same scenario happen to me over and over and over and over again. People like to say that it is more personality then looks, but that isn't true 70% of the time. All in all your interview with the manager went very well. Have you thought of auditioning for day shift at that club? For night shift the tend to want smaller girls or hustlers... or experienced dancers... I would say if you really want to work that club... call her back in a month, and in the mean time work on toning up. Mostly she is looking to see if you are willing to try to improve yourself. Normally when a manager/club tells you to loose weight they only mean 10-20 lbs.... unless the manager is an egotistical pig who thinks if you aren't a coke rail of 90 lbs you shouldn't work in the industry... If that is the case the screw it, and go somewhere else. If you choose to work in this industry you will have to have really, really thick skin. You have a great personality that will make money, but you have to have the confidence to boot, or at least fake it til you make it. There is my 2 cents for you...
Trena · 8/11/2009
Oh my little glitter, thats really shitty! I know I was already chatting to you about it but I just wanted to say that we love you! Sure, you're not a skinny little rake but you're gorgeous, adorable and I totally wana do you! 😂
Layla Duvay · 8/12/2009
I know how you feel, I had the same thing happen to me when I was a dancer. I also worked out five days a week PLUS dancing, ate next to nothing and still couldn't get thin "enough". You are an amazing dancer, I've seen your work. You have to decide now whether or not to stay in the biz, or start looking for some other kind of work that doesn't take its toll on you that way. I'm sending my love to you, girl!
branquinha · 8/12/2009
Hey glitter, sorry you went through that. It is indeed very tough to fight with self image issues, but as yogabeacbabe said, try to see it in a positive light. From what you said the manager really seemed to have liked you and, if you really would like to work in the club you could try again in a month... One thought that crossed my mind was that this could be a test too, I mean, she might want to know how you can handle comments about your body and;or what kind of effort you are willing to make to get the job. Having said that, If you are not that bothered about the job or think you would not feel comfortable there, then forget it. If on the contrary, you always wanted to work in that club and to lose weight, see it as an incentive to get more serious about that. I know it is easier said than done, but it can be worth it if in a month you are happier because you are both toned and employed by a place you wanted to work in? Just don't be hard on yourself. Remember you are great and you do not need that specific job, but you can have it if you really really want it! Best wishes.
Hotkiss06 · 8/13/2009
Glitter, You are drop dead gorgeous and your body is hot! I swear I wish I was curvier, you have beautiful curves and you have a loving personality. I'm sure you will be blessed working at a club that will be in love with you and your body. If, you definitely want to work for them call her in a month. In the mean time check out some other clubs, you might be blessed with something better anyway.
Buterflii · 8/13/2009
You should have said. "If you've reached your chubby quota... Why don't you fire one of those fatties and let me in". HA HAHA HAHAHA ur so funny 😉 lis
verucablue · 9/3/2009
Thats so sucky and I have seen your videos - you rock...the crazy thing is guys like women in general LOL...larger, smaller, whatever and if you are dancing for them MOST men aren't picking apart your size they are just enjoying the view 🙂
Gelina · 9/4/2009
Ok I think you are totally beautiful just the way you are. SO NOT A LIE. I dont condiser you chubby at all! If this is something you are leaning toward then I think you should go for it, BUT make sure you are doing this for you and not for the club. Sure being able to work in the club of your choice would be the pay off but still. Do it cause you want to feel better, be healthier, and cause its what you want for you. I think once you can say " ok I'm doing this for me and ONLY me" then the process will go much smoother. Get a personal trainer for two days out of the week. Sometimes you need someones help. Ask Veena what you could do I think she is certified. I'm sure she would help if you asked. DO THIS FOR YOU AND NO ONE ELSE. Your the 👸 chick. Never forget that you are beautiful and that its never about them but about you. MWAH
faerie_wench · 9/4/2009
So I sat and read everyone's reply. Everyone is right, you are an amzing dancer and that club would be lucky to have you. As I said before men like all types of women. If I were you I would find out when the next amateur night is and go dance. Let the crowd show her how wrong she is for not hiring you on the spot.
TrophyWife · 9/4/2009
I lost about 18 pounds and a couple sizes. Know what, I ain't any happier with my body. this is so true!!! once you lose wieght you'll hate ur boobs then you'll hate this or that, its how i am anyway. Do it for you not for anyone else, if that's what they want at that club that's their perogative but dont let it get ya down lady! keep up the good work! I used to work for VIP's gentelman's club in chicago (holla chitown sista!) as a spokes model so i know how it goes in the industry.
Nilla06 · 9/5/2009
Oh Glitter! *HUGS* I've never gotten around to posting on any of your vids but I'm gonna post now! You are such an inspiration for me! No offence to any of the skinny girls on here but as a fellow "chubby" girl.. It's so, so, good to see all body types poledancing. Like other people said, if you want to lose the weight then lose it, she wasn't telling you no just looking out for your best interests.. If you don't want to do it because you were told then dance at another place, you are beautiful and will no doubt get a job at another club! Keep on dancing Glitter, we all love you!! 😀
Chream · 9/5/2009
Glitter, Lady please you are just fine!!! you decide what you want for you. I know personally that we ladies can be our worst critic for ourselves that's just what we do. It sounds like she sees great potential in you but just used some words that may have been a sensitive subject for you because you were thinking of it already yourself. But to me you are fine and I say you should not worry about that but instead focus on what it is YOU want. So if YOU want to tone up more in order to work at the club YOU want to work....than do it because YOU want to do so. You Glitter!!! 😀
weewander · 9/6/2009
Hi Glitterhips. This is my first reply ever, and as everyone else has said, you ARE so very talented and sexy. I agree with Sparklie, they may just be trying to see how motivated and tough you are. I definitely got the impression that they think that you have talent. Lose weight if that is a goal that YOU want to achieve, but you are fantastic just the way you are. Don't do things because of what someone else wants or thinks. You are not the "chubby girl", it annoys me that you referred to yourself that way. You're curvy and vivacious. I admire how strong you are in your videos and the courage that you demonstrate by going out there and auditioning, dancing live and posting videos (wish I had your skills and self confidence to perform). Believe me, everyone has some sort of body image issue, even the Barbies, and it's hard not to get emotional when someone hits your insecurities. If you think you'd feel better about yourself by losing weight (regardless of job opportunities), then do it (but smartly please - consult a professional, don't starve yourself - that's a sure way to make you an unhealthy, fat and cranky woman). I think you should keep in contact with her regardless of weight loss, she definitely did not give you the PFO (please f-off).