Hey there!
When it comes to poles, you'll want to look at the "top three," those being: Lil' Mynx (who makes the Studio Veena pole), Xpole, and Platinum Stages. These three are trusted in this industry, and have proven to have stable, sturdy product.
Personally, I have always danced on Lil Mynx- currently my pole is the Studio Veena pole, and I'm very fond of it. The powder coating provides me a lot of grip, especially compared to my previous Stanless Steel, and I like the fact that it has an option to spin. I've never had issues with the bolt into the ceiling. Upon moving, I simply fill it in and no one notices! There is a bit of a squeak on spin mode, which... either I've gotten so used to that I don't notice it, or it may have worked itself out? I'm not sure!
Xpole has a lot of very loyal dancers, and I'm sure that people more experienced can tell you about them.
Same with Platinum stages, haha.
You can also check out their websites to get a feel for pricing, and what they offer, especially at your ceiling height.
I'm positive that all three of these types of poles will be able to hold your weight- I am sure that they're at least up to 250lbs, and I have personally been about 185lbs while dancing at one point.
Just... don't go with something cheap. Don't go on e-bay unless you're an absolute hound, and be very careful about knockoffs, especially Xpole- I've heard a lot about cheap knockoffs selling themselves as Xpole.
Anything like the Carmen Electra pole, or any other less expensive poles, is a ripoff. I've seen these things bend and flex, even fall down during spins. They're NOT safe.
Good luck with your choice! And I wish you lots of luck!
