Friends and family--do they get annoyed with pole talk?

polergirl started this discussion · 2/23/2010

I love to share new moves, etc. with friends and family, but I wonder if, when they see me coming, they think 🙄 "OMG, here she comes again and we are going to have to listen to a pole story or look at a pole picture" While I'd hope they'd just tell me if they were sick of hearing about how owie the Superman is, or how much fun bow and arrow is, or whatnot, I still wonder. And I try to stop myself, but I am not always successful. Chatty chatty chatty 😳 Do you feel like you are an endless vat of pole talk?

11 replies

SissyBuns · 2/23/2010
OMG all the time! Especially with my husband. Poor guy. he has absolutely no interest in pole and it's all I talk about. I have to tell myself not to talk about it all the time but it doesn't always work LOL.
RoxyPink · 2/23/2010
my hubby and a few peeps at work....and my mom and my kids and probably everyone else around me that dosen't pole! lol 😀
jleigh · 2/23/2010
Yup my mom gets a bit annoyed when I call her up to tell her what my latest accomplishment is. At least she is supportive about it though. Even this past weekend I was showing my hubby a video where I caught my first twisted grip handspring which I'd been working on for months and he seems unimpressed and annoyed 🙁
Chream · 2/24/2010
I am so happy my mom is so cool and loves that I pole she even came to a few classes with me. I am so addicted ... it's a part of life now, what is a girl to do?
Veena · 2/24/2010
Ha! I love my pole/business talk, I'm sure it drives other mad. 🙄 When I'm around my in laws they must wonder why I"m so quiet.....because I can't talk about pole in front of them! They find it "uncomfortable" so here I sit 🤐 🤐 🤐
polergirl · 2/24/2010
I try to talk about other things. Really, truly, I do. But what on earth could be more exciting than that shiny metal pole that beckons me to come spin on it? To come turn upside down and see what I can do? To test my strength (body and mind)? What better to talk about?? Right??? 😀 Makes me super duper glad for pole forums, and for those few friends who always seem eager to soak in another pole-related story.
minicoopergrl · 2/24/2010
Sometimes when I talk to my non pole friends, they look at me like ive got 2 heads simply b/c they dont know what im talking about. They normally smile and nod, since they know how happy pole makes me. My husband does the same. But I agree, it is great to talk to other polers to not only get feedback but to be in a very supporting group of folks!
glitterhips · 2/24/2010
Yeah I can't really talk about it with my family either but my boyfriend is very nice and will sit and listen to me blabber on and on and go "that's great babe!" and is very patient with me lol!
witeroze · 2/24/2010
I have a close friend I talk to on msn a lot, and I'm always giving her pole video links when I'm watching the good ones. I appreciate that she actually opens them though and tries to look through at least half of the video... but it's clear that she gets sick of it. I asked her once how she could possibly not enjoy watching something so amazing and she said 2 things: 1- "Honestly, they all look the same to me" 🙄 , and 2- "It makes me feel untalented" LOL. Other people like my other friends and my brother show no enthusiasm whatsoever and they refuse to even look at pics or videos that I show them. 🤸
chemgoddess1 · 2/24/2010
I am used to not being able to talk to people about anything I do so it really does not come up in regular conversation. Probably the #1 reason I am on the forum so much!!!
xcrossmaheartx · 2/24/2010
I had heard comments my friends had made when I said that if I had the body and the right place, I would totally dance in a club and my signature song would be Saving Abel "Addicted". So there wasn't any point in asking if they wanted to sign up for classes with me. Since it's never bothered me to do things by myself (dinner, movies, beach..), I went to the studio solo and I was hooked from the start. Of course it didn't take long for some of my "friends" to distance themselves away from me. Nearly a year after my first spin around the pole, I still can't tell how people will react. My clients watched me lose 30lbs in 2008, and then they started to notice that I was toning up early last year. That's when curiousity kicked in and some wanted to know what I was doing. I didn't want my clients to be offended, but I was excited to share my passion with them. I only had a few that got really quiet, but most demanded that I keep them posted on my progress.. some said that they were going to live vicariously through me. It brightens my day when they come in and switch the conversation from being about them to wanting the latest details. Of course, not everyone at my work is supportive. I've invited them to come to class with me during "Bring a Friend Week".. no one accepted. I used to share my latest accomplishment with the ones I was closest to, and I could go on and on about what I was working on. But I started to recognize "the look." 🙄 Thankfully, my Mom is supportive of me. She was concerned when I first signed up for the classes, but once she saw how happy it made me and came to my first Open House performance, it put her at ease. She tells people all about it! Omigod! 😮 Like when we were digging out of our driveway after our second pounding of snow.. our neighbor across the street from us came out to give us a hand because he "didn't feel right watching two gorgeous ladies do it by themselves." This is the first time I had actually met him (moved in Sept. '09 and we're not hermits lol).. found out that he is a high school teacher, blah blah blah. He asked what we did.. heh. Mom says that she's a letter carrier for the USPS.. and before I can say that I'm a Hairstylist, she says "Kelly pole dances! She even has a pole set up in our garage." The look on his face was amazing. 😂 She added shortly after that I didn't do it for the money. He looked even more shocked. So I jumped in and said that I had "been taking classes since March '09 at a dance studio in Ocean City and that it has been the best workout I've ever had. By profession, I'm a Hairstylist." Needless to say, it definitely broke the ice. We came home the other night and the guy had a friend over.. they were sitting on their open tailgates and it looked like they were knockin a few beers back. He said hello and what-not and while I was getting stuff out of my car, I heard the words "pole" and "garage". I couldn't help but smile to myself.