Goodness! At 35, you're still totally in your prime! I heard of a lady at the old studio in town who came for a full set of classes... at the age of 85! And she was hot stuff!
What do you think you look like gyrating around a pole? Well, what DO you think you look like? Really! Because I bet you that you look sexy and amazing, and I bet you feel the same.
I feel very self-conscious often. I don't "sexy dance" when people are in the house. I'll do my workout and I'll work on strength moves or other things I'm working on, but I don't really get bump-n-grind sexy until I'm the only one home. I'm very anxious about people... even if they are my boyfriend!
However, getting to the point of doing any kind of sexy was not easy for a while. I didn't feel like I did it well, I didn't think I looked good, I judged myself often (flabby arms, huge hips, thunder thighs, look at that belly...) and it's an issue I continue to have. But, I sort of stopped letting myself say those things when I'm dancing... because, by the end, I feel SO GOOD! It doesn't bother me anymore, because I just had an awesome dance!
And... well, let me put it to you this way: I suck at sexy dancing when it includes actual moves. Steps, little bit of backbends, perhaps a half spin, that's as far as I get.
But, as the boyfriend and I say, sucking at something is the first step to being kinda good at something!
And you're on your way to being a confident, strong, sexy lady. :)
