"Exotic" dancing?

Runemist34 started this discussion · 1/31/2014

So, question for all the beautiful, sexy dancers out there! I'm curious to choreograph a sexy dance or two, and I'm interested to know what kinds of moves GUYS like to see. Even if it's things that go on in strip clubs... I really am interested! How do you usually put together your routines for the night, if you dance in clubs? I remember hearing that the bigger, more "impressive" moves do NOT get tips... so, what does? I've been hunting Youtube for a lot of sexy dancing, as well, but... I like to get a lot of opinions, and especially those from actual exotic dancers :)

14 replies

Rose6962286 · 1/31/2014
Good topic!Im interested as well, especially because valentines day is coming up :)
Lina Spiralyne · 2/1/2014
Not an exotic dancer but I'll tell you what Pantera said when she got some questions about this at a workshop I attended. As I guess you know she worked in strip clubs earlier. Doing difficult tricks didn't generate more tip because then she needed to focus and on the pole and herself and not on the audience. What the audience was there for was eye-contact. To her understanding they (or a big part of them) were there because had been rejected or dumped and wanted to be seen. I don't know if you plan to show this to anyone or not, but whether it's people or a just a camera, focusing on eye-contact seems to be a powerful thing.
Cherished · 2/1/2014
I go to a lot of clubs. I notice that men seem to really really love the knee hold for whatever reason, the splits - of course, the caterpillar (I don't mean the climb) floor work and V positions galore - pretty much moves that show off the female area and moves that simulate sex. I think Annemarie Davies' floor work is phenominal http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HMhrIO9HYQk as well as Eva Bembo's http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J_WiF-ChL78
polergirl · 2/1/2014
Eye contact. Not to be crass, but if you're dancing for someone, eye bang them lol. Know what moves and at what angles show off your best parts to their best advantage. Dancers tend to do lots of pirouettes in all sorts of variations, hip figure 8s, sliding down the pole with it against your back.....fir practical purposes. Those kinds of moves allow them to show off various parts and also to make the super important eye contact, plus they won't leave you worn out at the end of a set, much less at the end of a shift. If you want to watch dancers with AMAZING flow you can usually find several at strip clubs. Those ladies can MOOOOOOOVE. The name of the game is to exemplify your dancer persona, whatever that may be, and give your audience an idea of your personality and, let's be honest, the way in which you do the dirty. Cheekily/sexily rubbing the pole with hands, body, etc. I think you know what images that will bring to mind. ;) Floorwork that makes you look like you're a) having sex or b) about to have sex. Barring those two things, floorwork that shows off particular body parts. Butt, legs, boobs.....whatever your best assets are, give them center stage!
darcit · 2/3/2014
I've danced in strip clubs for years and the first thing I'll say is I've never once had a "routine for the night" and never know anyone else who's danced who has. It's all freestyle, all the time. That's important because what gets tips changes based on who's sitting at the tip rail. Every stage set begins with reassessing the audience to try and figure out what kind of dancing they want to see. Some like sexy, some like cute, some like flexy, some like strength and pole tricks, most like some combination of more than one of those. So - the more you tailor your dance to what your audience likes the better received it will be. If you're planning to dance for your significant other think about what they like. Is there a particular part of your body they think is sexy? Do moves that accentuate that part of you. Is there a pole trick that you've done that they've commented on? Do that one. In a general "most guys will find this sexy" I would say eye contact and confidence. But that's the only think I'd be willing to generalize on. Some guys like the sensual rubbing yourself all over and sexy floor work thing and some guys seem to think it's really silly. And with some guys I swear I could go out there in a Big Bird Costume and do the Chicken Dance and, as long as I ended up naked that's all they would care about. So really, do what makes you feel sexy, what you know (or think) the person you're going to be dancing for is going to like and it'll be hot! :)
Dirty Girl POLEtice · 2/3/2014
Couldn't agree more with darcit. You have to figure out what your audience likes, from moves, to clothing, to scent, to makeup etc... and freestyle it. If you attempt a choreo, you'll get nervous and forget anyways. For instance...my husband HATES stripper shoes, he does NOT like the tall platform, he does like a sexy stiletto with a small platform. He is not a super fan of "legwork" i.e. ticktock. He's just a "spread em" kind of guy. However, almost ALL guys love the tease of 'I could show you right now, look what I can see and you can't, I'm gonna show you now, oh, oops, nevermind, just kidding, but now I'll come rub my body against yours" that one gets em everytime! lol After that move, especially with some "neck nuzzling" and heavy breathing, then I'll show, very very slowly. Building that tension is amazing. But also, I could come out in a chicken suit and get naked and he'd be happy too lol
AliPali · 2/4/2014
I have really enjoyed reading the posts on this discussion. The question i would like to ask is... how do you maintain the eye contact with a guy without feeling embarrassed or intimidated?? This must be the hardest thing to learn. I really admire your confidence!!
Runemist34 · 2/4/2014
Wow, thank you all for your awesome replies! AliPali, I totally agree with you- that eye contact would be pretty difficult to maintain... but I think it comes with practice and confidence. One of my favourite burlesque dancers (Michelle L'Amour) said "Sex is in the eyes, not the mouth" and I rather agree with her! She has the best eye contact, she's totally not ashamed, and she's dancing for audiences of thousands! I'll have to practice all this stuff with my camera ;)
darcit · 2/5/2014
I like the idea that "sex is in the eyes not the mouth". That's awesome. When you initiate eye contact you're taking control of the situation. To illustrate: If you look into someone's eyes and then look at something else, they will almost always look wherever you looked. I use this frequently on stage. Stare in his eyes for a few seconds and then look away and start playing with the strap on my bra, or my leg. If I look back up he is ALWAYS starting at what I want. I am now in control. I often make and hold eye contact with a rowdy or unruly guy just to let him know I'm in control. But you really don't have to hold the eye contact that long to make it effective. A few seconds is really sufficient. I find that what you do with your eyes right after starting into his sends as strong of a message as the actual staring. For example if you stare into his eyes and then drop yours bashfully down you're saying that you're shy, and what he thinks makes a difference to you. If you stare into his eyes and then you look him over you're saying that you're trying to decide if he's good enough for you, or able to handle whatever you have coming next. If you stare into his eyes and then go back to looking at your body you're saying that your opinion of yourself is more important than his and but he can look because you're permitting him to. That's sort of a quick and dirty run down of how I think of eye contact with guys when I'm on stage...
grayeyes · 2/5/2014
Darcit, I have found your replies to this question fascinating...and empowering. Thank you for sharing your insight.
firebird · 2/6/2014
Darcit, YOU sound like an amazing dancer, & if I were in MN I'd be so looking up where to go see u dance next! W/many bills in purse! Fantastic practical advice for evryone, all this echoes all I know to be truly effective as reiterated by others as well... In a way it's such common sense, the eye contact generating control & also communicating a jazillion different things, nevermind what moves you are doing in the meantime... Thanks darcit & to all for your open & candid sharing.
Veena · 2/6/2014
Firebird...That's what I was thinking about Darcits replies! Darcit, you made some wonderful points!
darcit · 2/7/2014
*blushes* Thanks! I learned most of this through trial and error and observation - so I'm glad it can pass it along!
grayeyes · 2/7/2014
Firebird--totally! Would love to go to the club and watch Darcit show us how it's done!