dont no where else 2 turn..

Pole gal started this discussion · 11/22/2012

sorry for writin this here bt facebooks full of back-stabbers and gossips. my partner of 7yrs turned and sed 2 me yesterday that he wants us 2 take a break and i have no idea why? i actually thought were gettin in alot better as a couple than we were, we still have issues regarding parenting but as a couple i though were were alot happier but obv he doesnt think so!!1 ive tried talkin 2 him but all he says is its coz i txt guys well sorry but why cant guys and girls be mates?? i get on better wi guys thn girls as girls are bitchy and two-faced and guys aint. i dont no wht 2 do, he really is my everything and my soul mate. its taking every last bit of strength i have not 2 burst out crying in front of him, i just dont no wht to do, i realy dont want to thro away the last 7yrs!! we have 2 kids also so its not just us in the picture.. sorry for postin this here just didnit no where else 2 post it 🙁

5 replies

Beckypolegirl · 11/22/2012
sorry to hear you are going through a tough time i think you should try talking to him again. When i first started dating my husband he had alot of girl friends and i found it very hard to deal with we used to have endless arguments about it and it wasnt until i made friends with a lad from work that my husband realised he didnt like it either. Jealousy is a very hard thing to overcome i still have a issue with it now so maybe you could try and reach a agreement. How would you feel if he had a close female friend? I hope you manage to sort things out x x
Pole gal · 11/22/2012
trued that last night bt ended up arguing 🙁 think it stems from the start of our relationship cz he cheated on me so i cheated back, we worked thro it eventually bt its startin 2 work its way back in to our relationship again!! jst really dnt want 2 give up on an almolst 8yr relationship!! xx
azblanco · 11/22/2012
I just made 6 years with mine. He proposed to be 3 weeks ago. When I tell you it has not been easy. Its been a lot of hard work and compromise. Do not apologize for posting this- I wish I would have had a safe haven like Veena.com when I was going through my relationship issues. The first year of our relationship was hell. I dont even know how we continued. He ignored me all the time, and he was seeing other people. He says he didnt have sex with any of them. He also threw his past in my face a lot in the beginning. Almost bragging about it. I still battle with it... Im not gonna lie. We have done a lot soul searching together and it wasnt until the last 3 years that its become almost 100% better. He realized the impact his immature comments had on me. I guess the good thing about it all is he did not officially apologize until HE realized the damage it did... Thats how I know he meant what he said. He is never one to say sorry if he doesnt truly mean it. The point Im trying to make here, past issues will eat you alive if you allow it.... Its the worst feeling ever. It still impacts me today. I have to consciously tell myself when thoughts pop in my head, to move on and be thankful for the relationship we have built and have now... Maybe you guys need to dwell further into past issues and resolve them more. Its hard for me to say since i dont know the both of you... If one of you still feel that you havent resolved the issues, it snowballs into giving up.. Even relationships that seem like the most perfect of all, have issues... I dont think its easy for anyone. As for male friends, I can understand why you like male friends over female friends. I feel the same way. But I do not have male friends on my own that arent friend with my man. He wouldnt appreciate it and I sure wouldnt appreciate if he had female friends. Not saying this is your case. I hope i could help, or at least express that I empathize with you.
Pole gal · 11/22/2012
thanx for the advice :) it just seems that everytime we try to talk about stuff we end up arguin, the only time we every talk it out is either thro txtin or thro pm on facebook bt hes doesnt have a fne and i can only pm him wen he has the laptop wen im out. i dont hide the fact that am txtn male friends thts the thing, and i try bring him in to the convo, lyk the other day my mates a stripper and he txtd me sayin tht he thinks his boss is mucking him about and that shes replacing him and not telling him and i told my OH exactly what he texted me sayin n what i sed bck bt he still doesnt like it. ive even offered 2 get rid of my fne and facebook if it will stop all teh crap bt to b honest they are my only contact with the outside world as i suffer from sever depression and lock myself away from the outside world for weeks upon weeks at a time and they are the only things tht stop me from goin mad cooped up in the house constantly. ive even sed we can go for couples counselling and try that but he sed were not at that stage yet bt surely if he wants a break thn thats a sign tht we are at the stage of needin a counsellor or some1 to talk to... some of my male mates do send flirty txts bt its nothin serious and wen they do start sendin dirty txts a ask thm to stop or ignore thm and they all know i have a fiance.. xx
Pole gal · 11/23/2012
we actually stay 2gether but always end ups in an argument wen we try to speak. and the other times hes wrkn, he wrks 12hr shifts 5 days a week from 10am and doesnt get home til about 11pm-12am. xx