I feel compelled to say something here because, um, I'm a 1st generation Mexican American...and while I can't speak for all Mexican or Latin American people, I can definitely say that Calaveras have great significance, but one of the main reasons to use the face painting is to welcome all those crossing over from the other side on Dia de los Muertos. After all, you don't wear sweatpants to a wedding, and when your dead relatives come to visit you don't want them to feel weird when they're having pan de dulche with the family--we'll all be joining them one day, so it's only polite for us to cast aside our earthly bodies so we can enjoy the time together. Would I be offended to see (for example) Japanese people having a great time in full makeup at a Marigold Parade? Absolutely not. I'd gladly offer ANYONE (Native American, African American, space alien, etc.)to share my empanadas, neopolitinos, and tamales. Would I be bugged if the meaning of a celebration near and dear to me were used to conceal identity and act as a narrative for loss? Maybe. Try to remember, you're basically using imagery from Mexican Memorial Day. We deal with loss, um, differently though so it's a little silly, colourful, and definitely full of food and fun. But at it's root, we're welcoming our loved ones to visit us so we can defy death through love and then carry on as we part ways again. We tend to their graves and tell their stories to keep them close. I think preserving those ideals is key to using the imagery without being offensive. I try to remember that there's a lot of culturally relevant imagery that often gets used for purposes other than those originally intended and we've all been party to it without meaning to be offensive. I've been to a luau dressed as a hula girl thinking it was super cute then later realized hula is a very disciplined art of storytelling through dance. I've dressed as a geisha at Halloween because it was just so damned pretty then read about how those women devote everything to their art as early as age 9. I think education is a huge part of avoiding any major faux pas and if you really don't know what it's like to live in or grow up in a particular culture, try hard not to use it's imagery or repurpose it's meaning for those who do. At least that's my two cents. And sincerely, today is Todos Santos and tomorrow is Dia de los Muertos so this consideration is a lovely time to see if there are some celebrations anywhere near you and take part in them so you can decide whether or not it feels right for you to represent them on stage. Additionally, I don't know a thing about you. Maybe you have some Hispanic heritage or have been in a place where this is a good identity for you. My husband is Norwegian but he's been in the southwest so long he makes better flan than my aunt. :) Anything is possible and I really think you've done a lovely thing in considering that it might be offensive at all. Good luck, thank you for entertaining my rant, and I hope you can find a suitable solution to balance your pole dancing and professional life ;)