I agree it's difficult to find right person/place. I've been to ones that, even as a beginner with fitness, can tell it probably wasn't the right person because I could tell they weren't concerned with correct form, etc. Recently I found a fitness training place with an excellent trainer. It's his own fitness place and is the only trainer so I always know what I'm going to get.
He is big on correct form, mixes up workouts, etc. He also emphasizes proper eating habits to go along with workouts, and he cares about each person's goals and results. Even in a large group workout, it feels as if you have a personal trainer. I also take privates with him that are KICK-BUTT. He does a lot of things that are part of cross fit, but tailors workout for your own goals. He doesn't focus on competition or anything.
He doesn't focus on heavy weight lifting, we use free weights once in a while up to 10 lbs for women depending on level. Anyway I could go on and on and on, but like other said, be careful and make sure where you go is a compliment to pole and not the hard core competition focus like cross fit.
Oh, years ago I took a power flex weight class and for me, I got pretty strong. BUT when I found pole I couldn't do a thing becasue the strength and moves were very different, I was shocked because I felt I was strong. The bootcamp fitness I do now is helping my strength because it's a very well rounded workout that focus on strength building and endurance in all areas/forms.
Let us know how your complimentary session goes.