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So...my not supportive boyfriend dumped me. IT hurts a lot, but I have been turning to yoga and pole to help heal the pain. I just want to thank this site and its members. It's been so helpful having somewhere to go and something to do that was always my own. Reflecting on things, he treated me pretty awful and he was never supportive about poling. Here I go into the world again.
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Hi there thanks for sharing your troubles. I had a similar thing happen to me a few years back, yoga and pole helped me get there. Stick with it because trust me it works :) mentally and physically. Built my confidence up and helped me forget negative people and their comments. You only live once, life is too short to worry so do what makes you happy! XD (hugs)
Sometimes we don't value ourselves and stuck in bad relationships.. I've been there.. I have never regret about anything, except that awful relationship..! Don't let yourself stay sad for long time.. you don't deserve this..
I truly believe that things come to an end to open you up to a better path. It's tough but hang in there, take care of yourself, keep following your dreams. You may be surprised at what amazing things come next. Things you wouldn't have had or experienced if you hadn't lost what was previous! No one deserves to be treated poorly and if that was the case you are much better off now. I have been there and I never plan on letting someone treat me poorly again. You are worth more than that and I promise it does get better. Good luck on your journey and feel free to message me if you ever need to talk. -hugs
I just left a relationship earlier at the beginning of the year that was so toxic, and I didn't even know how toxic and dangerous it was until I left. At first, I cried for a couple of weeks because I was sad, but once I healed and realized that he was slowly ruining my life and self-esteem, I stopped missing him. Hopefully you will come to a similar realization. What helped me in my healing was treating myself to things I didn't normally treat myself to, especially things I didn't do in the relationship. Taking warm baths, visiting new and exciting places, wearing makeup (I always felt guilty about wearing makeup and heels because he hated them). My ex was extremely possessive and strongly against the idea of me stripping to make extra cash (that is usually where the unsupportiveness comes from-is possessiveness and them resisting female sexuality that they cannot control) and now I am opening myself up to stripping as a job option, once my schedule settles down. The things men make us fear in ourselves are the very things that give us power. I am recreating myself as a new person and engaging in a new world. My ex is harassing and cyber-bullying/stalking me. He is telling all of my internet supporters that I only want to strip because I was raped multiple times and that I used to be promiscuous. His harassment has increased, the more open I am about my sexuality. I am in the middle of taking legal action against him to keep myself safe. He was abusive in our relationship. I struggle with lots of feelings and questions about myself-including being angry at myself for entering another relationship that is not good for me. I am trying very hard to not hate and resent him for all he is putting me through and how sexist and abusive he is, but I'm realizing maybe I just need to allow myself to hate him, acknowledge those feelings, and release them. Best Wishes to you.
I too have been to this place and its never a good feeling but to put a positive spin on it just think about poling and getting super awesome and how amazing your body will look while poling!! Post a youtube video and let him eat his heart out!!!
He is a garbage faced bitch, and you will find someone who supports you in everything you do! xoxo
haha, my own words. I definitely think that having to do everything on his schedule, buying everything, and never even being told I was beautiful, were all red flags that I blindly ignored. At least he stopped lying eventually. And now, after a couple more paychecks I can come take lessons @PoleFitMom
